“I’m stuck in a loveless marriage”


Hi, i need some advice. I’m stuck in a loveless marriage. She has no interest in me at all. Early 40’s, 2 kids, successful career, things should be good but they ain’t.

Can’t leave and put the kids through that. I’m married, so I signed on for better for worse. I need advice as to how to inject some passion and fun back into our lives. I’m an introvert, shy, and not able to talk to her about it, so any assistance would be greatly appreciated. Yeah I know, man up, but easier said than done…..

“He hasn’t been the same since leaving the army”

I’m married and my husband was just discharged from the army for attempting suicide in basic. We moved in with his parents. I’m scared he’s cheating on me or isn’t in love with me. He always goes in to work early or stays late. Once he came back late smelling like perfume. Always agitated. Emotionally absent – does nothing if I cry. Always hides his phone. We used to fight a lot but now it’s just silence. I know he’s depressed and upset at himself for “yet another failure “, but I can’t tell if it’s just him or us or me.


“My marriage is falling apart”

When I met my wife, she was in normal fit shape, and her natural body and face is 10/10 beautiful, like unbelievably so, to the point that she could get whatever she wanted whenever she wanted it. If she could sing she might be famous. But I was not interested in her because she seemed so into getting attention for her looks. It put me off.

At some point she actually gained a lot of weight, like 100 lbs really fast. I was friends with her during that time (not necessarily close) and never really considered being with her, I was honestly concerned for her because she had gained so much weight incredibly fast and she would literally be dead now if she had kept that up. She eventually lost most of that weight. We got together when we ran into each other and she helped me with a place to stay on campus at our school, after a bad breakup that left me with no place to live for awhile.. As we talked, she explained how she had started focusing on spirituality in life (not any specific religion, same as myself) and I fell for her. I made a mistake believing that she had changed. I made several mistakes. I thought I would be on her side by acknowledging how her body had changed and supporting her to be mentally and physically healthy. Continue reading

“I regret not pursuing love for this guy”

I’ve had an ongoing romance with my first love since I was 14. We had met and dated for just over a year before shit became too much. I’m about to turn 22 and even though we have had relationships with other people and am now currently both in relationships with people we both care about, we still feel the need and desire for each other. It’s like I know when he’s thinking of me, or ill get a thought about him just before he contacts me. And when we don’t speak for however long, we both tend to dream about one another and we begin to miss each other until we get in touch and than it’s like a big feeling of relief.

I have a partner and I’m grateful for him, he treats me like a queen and I genuinely want to be with this man and have kids and grow old etc. but I feel guilty for always feeling drawn back to my ex and even worse that it’s the same for him despite us being with other people.

I’ve only been with my partner for a year now but 3 years ago when I was working in a hospital, I met an elderly lady in one of the wards that I’d speak to regularly. She would cry a lot and I’d ask her what was wrong and she’d always tell me how much she regrets not being with the man she always longed for. She said she had a great husband and they had a good life but that she had always been in love with another man and it wasn’t until she had become much older that she realised how much she regrets not pursuing their love for one another and I use to always think about that story because I could feel the truth in it, I could feel her heart ache but I always found myself wondering how she could have stayed with a man even though she knew she was in love with someone else…. 3 years later and I find that she was teaching me a lesson without even knowing it. I don’t know what to do.


“I don’t want to go through with this marriage”

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Everything was going fine then we started arguing everyday. When he’s around and we argue he gets in my face and yells louder. When I try to leave wherever we are at, so I can have a break away from him, he prevents me from leaving.

He calls me names everyday and even called me a “sly little bitch” because I was in the living room with my 6 year old sister and didn’t want to get in a fight over the phone. I love him but I also want to leave. We are supposed to get married in 5 months but I’m not sure if I really want to go through with it, I don’t want things to get worse. I’m not sure what to do. Yes I have tried talking to him but he doesn’t seem to care. When I tried to talk to him about the argument today he just said he was tired and was going to bed.

“Do I tell him I miscarried his baby?”

Around two years ago, my fiance (now husband, lets call him Joe) and I broke up and shortly after, I started seeing another guy. He was married, but separated, and there was an undeniable spark and attraction between us from the second we met. I was madly in love with him (lets call him Will), and if I’m honest, I still have very strong feelings for him. Very long story short: some complications came up with his wife and son and custody/divorce so we stopped dating. The last thing I wanted was to cause an issue with his son.

After we stopped dating, I was devastated and knew that Joe would take me back and we could be some kind of happy (which we are). This all happened within 4 months or so. The issue is that shortly after I married my husband (a month or so) I discovered that I was pregnant with Will’s child. A girl. We had talked about kids in the hope that one day we might have one together and we both wanted a little girl to share our lives with. And just after I learned the gender, I had a miscarriage. I’m still so heartbroken over it. I want to tell Will what happened, but it’s been so long and I’m married and he is seeing someone else… I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone. No one knows except me and I feel like he deserves to know, but at the same time I don’t want to cause trouble with his girlfriend. What do I do?


“Do I marry her or is the grass greener?”

I have known this girl since we were both 12, and we’ve been together for almost 7 years now (we’re both 25). We have kind of reached that point when it’s getting strange that we are not married, or at the very least engaged. She has hinted numerous times that she wants to get married (and so have my parents and her parents, to some degree). But the idea of marriage and kids gives me full-on panic. Continue reading

“I love another guy”

I desperately need help. I have loved one guy in my life but he never wanted to commit. We had a breakup and I got married. But we never lost contact. Every time I spoke to him, he expressed how much he still loved me. I ignored it as much as I could, but could never stop myself from not talking to him. Now I feel, I am falling in love with him again. How can I let go of him forever? I confessed my love to him and asked him to help me by not contacting me , but he still wants to be friends with me . How should I get out of this situation?

“It hurts to think that I’m not good enough for him”

I don’t know what to do anymore. My boyfriend won’t propose to me, and we’ve been together for over a year. I am currently 5 months pregnant with his child, and even then it seems he doesn’t want to. He is 31, and I am 25. He and I are both divorced; however, he proposed and married his ex within 1 year of being with her, even though she didn’t have his child.

Apparently it ended badly though. Anyways, I am heartbroken, and it gets worse when he mentions how marriage is “just a paper.” He says he wants to marry me someday…but I don’t know when :/ He also goes out a lot on his free time and drinks/smokes medicinal weed, which I am not a huge fan of. I am two weeks away from graduating with my bachelor of science in criminal justice and then heading to law school. I’m an honor student and have a promising future. It just hurts to think that sometimes I may just not be good enough for this man. Whatever happens, my child will always be my first and only priority. Any advice on this situation would be greatly appreciated.

“I don’t want to meet the guy she cheated on me with”

She cheated on him 15 years ago, and they’ve moved on from it. But now, they’ve been invited to a dinner where the guy she cheated with is going to be in attendance. How should they handle this invitation? Here are their sides of the story …

Moite says:

When my wife and I were going out before we were married, she cheated on me with this guy she liked before we got together. I forgave her and moved on. Now — many many years later (like 15 years) — we have a party with one of her friends, where the guy she cheated on me with is going, too.

I’m upset about it. I have never had to meet this guy and obviously have no interest in doing so. I get it was a long time ago, but there is nothing like having to go meet the guy face-to-face to open up an old wound. I’m hurt because it was her mistake, and she should have protected me from being put in this position where I will feel humiliated.

She didn’t even tell me about it. Her friend throwing the party did the asking if I minded. It will be embarrassing and humiliating to have to go to this, but would be more humiliating saying I can’t go. It’s her friend’s party. I found out he is going from the friend, not her. She should have not let this situation occur and protected me from this humiliating experience.

Frieda says:

I made a mistake and cheated on my husband when we first started going out. It’s a big occasion for my best friend, and I found out this other guy is going to be there. I didn’t want to bring it up as it was a long time ago, and I thought we would have all moved on now.

I knew he would probably not be happy about it, but surely its not the end of the world, and we can get on with our lives. He sees that I chose him, married him, and this guy doesn’t mean anything to me. How long do I have to pay a price for this?

I think he is actually upset because he recently found out I also slept with this guy I cheated on him with a couple of years later when we had broken up and not gotten back together yet. I was single then and did nothing wrong in that.

It’s my bests friend’s special occasion — I can’t tell her I can’t go because he will be upset over something 15 years ago!