“I told her I was fantasizing about her friend”

So this is the stupidest thing I have done yet…… a few days ago I got home from work, everything is fine, she was fine and I don’t know what came over me I decided to tell her that I had fantasized about one of her friends. With that said it changed the mood of the whole house. She stopped talking and being non responsive.

I know at that moment I messed up, I tried to explain at the time but it made things worse, I have never seen her this angry before. She has given me the silent treatment for 2 days now. I don’t know what to do. I don’t mind if people judge me for having those thoughts I know it’s a mistake and that because I am married I should only be faithful to my wife but I don’t even know if that counts as cheating. Do I wish I can take it all back? Of course, do I wish I never have those thoughts? Definitely. At the moment I am just waiting for her to forgive me but it feels like I am on death row. Please help?

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“Is my wife in a relationship with my son?”

I’m a 50 year old male and I’ve been married to my current wife for about 5 years. We have a good marriage. I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. My son is 26 and recently came to live with my wife and me. I work during the day and my wife stays home with our children, ages 12 and 10.

I’ve noticed that my son and my wife spend a lot of time together. Whenever I come in from work, they are together, laughing or in deep conversation. It’s usually when I come in, they tend to get quiet or change the subject. It wasn’t until my 12 year old told me that she had seen them hugging that I really became worried. I realize it was a mistake to bring him into my home and I want him gone. My wife thinks I’m overreacting but I feel like I no longer trust either of them. It has not just affected my relationship with my wife, but most definitely my relationship with my son. What should I do?

“We are both having affairs; can we be together?”

I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.

I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. Continue reading

“Am I a sex addict?”

I am a bad guy. I have made some horrible decisions. And I am beginning to believe, despite laughing off even the thought this was possible, I have an addiction that is taking over my life.

I am very afraid I have a sex addiction. I’m married over 20 years. We have had a few problems over the years, but nothing close to serious… in fact, our problems/arguments are probably less frequent than the average married couple. Sex life is also pretty good. For a while, I thought our sex life was boring. I pursued other women.  Continue reading

“I cheated on my wife then gave her an STD”

I have been diagnosed with gonorrhea. Got from my sexscapdes outside of marriage. I am taking antibiotics now and getting better. I haven’t told my wife yet. But I think the symptoms are starting to appear on her. I just told her to have herself checked.

Im really confused because if I tell her then she’ll probably leave me. I think by the time she is diagnosed mine will be gone already. What do you think should I do? Thank you.

“Pissed at my boyfriend who slept with a married woman”

My boyfriend told me that he slept with one of his good friends who is a married woman for a few weeks just before we got together, and that they’re ‘good friends’ now and are planning to meet up soon when she’s back in the country. Her husband still doesn’t know and she doesn’t plan on telling him.

I told my boyfriend that I’m not comfortable with this morally and that I think he should be firm with her that this is wrong and that she needs to tell her husband, and if she keeps refusing to do so that he should tell her husband as a last resort and also cut all ties with her. He says that he can’t do all that.

Am I being unreasonable?

“My marriage I would rate a 1 out of 10”

I am 46 and married with one son, who is 8. My wife and I started dating back in 1989. We have been together without separation since 1989, after 16 years of dating and about 10 years of engagement. We married in 2005. My son was born in 2008. We live a good life, not perfect but pretty comfortable.

My wife is a 10 out 10 as a mother. Very caring and responsible with our son and we raise him together and have a strong family bond. We eat dinner together every night and we spend time together as a family in the most healthy way any good American family does. My only pain is my marriage. Continue reading

“My husband is always on vacation with his dad”

I really need advice on my 5 year marriage. We are 29 and 31 and recently my husband has been going on vacation with his father for two weeks every year on the other side of the world. Recently, when my husband came back from vacation, literally the day after, he tells me that he is now planning on going on another vacation with his dad in Mexico very soon.

We have never gone on vacation together even though I have asked him on many occasions. It just seems unfair to me that he has just come back, we are in the middle of closing on a new house and I guess I’m angry because he makes no effort to plan any adventures or vacations of any kind with me. Yet when his dad pays for him to go with him somewhere, he jumps at the chance with no thought at all to invite me too.

His dad remarried a few years ago and has a bad marriage with his current wife, and he always seems to spend a lot of time away from her. I am worried that he is staring to influence my husband to do the same thing. As far as I am aware we have a loving marriage, I just get frustrated why my husband can’t understand that it upsets me and I feel excluded from his life. I know that if my parents invited me on vacation they would make sure my husband was invited too as we are married and to be honest I feel that marriage should include experiencing new things and places with each other. Am I wrong?

“Is this child my husband’s or not?”

Here’s the deal: my husband had an affair with a married woman. We separated when I found out in the most horrific way and remained that way for over a year before reconciling. I now know everything about what happened and have moved past it.

Here’s my one problem. After we separated, he continued to see her for several months while she was still with her husband (both of them intimately). She got pregnant during that time and her husband refused to claim the baby was his, instead insisting it must be my husband’s, because it was born handicapped. There was never any sort of DNA testing done and the child was given up for adoption to a beautiful family (yes, I met them). My husband just wants to forget the whole thing and let it be, but I honestly don’t believe this child could possibly be his. It looks NOTHING like our children but identical to the other woman’s child with her husband. I want a DNA test done to confirm either way before I even begin thinking about telling our children about this other child. Am I crazy? Should we just move on like the kid doesn’t exist? How do I get him to do the DNA test?