“My fiancé thinks I have too many issues”

I am a 29 year old medical student. Doing well academically, but this year has been hard. You see, after my sister passed away in 2013, I withdrew from medical school for some time, to take care of my parents. I eventually gave up. But I later realized I still want to do it, I made a promise to my sister I’d get back in it.

In the mean time I met this girl, things were decent, we had our differences, but it worked. She wasn’t career oriented, I was, and I eventually got back into medical school. I was doing very well, till the doctors told me I needed open heart surgery. Continue reading

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“I lied to her about my career and family”

I’m not sure how long me and my girl have been dating, because we only go out  once a week, and we also had a packed schedule, but we have gone out for seven dates and we message each other everyday.

I would say that we had a deep connection and understanding for one another, but during our fifth date, I made a mistake. I told her that I began dating because I used to like another girl, and that I want to replace my feelings for that other girl. When I said it, I thought there was nothing wrong with what I said to her. I didn’t commit infidelity, so I decided to tell her that. Continue reading

“My brother’s been looking at our mom, naked”

This is a really uncomfortable situation I am in, and I have been debating constantly about what I should do for the past couple of days.

 My younger brother is 4 years younger than me, and we used to be pretty close growing up. Now that I am in college and have moved away we aren’t as close, but we do still talk often.

Well, I came home for the weekend and was bored, so I logged into his computer to play some video games. He wasn’t home and gave me his password beforehand. Right when I logged in I saw that he had a folder named L on his desktop. I know it’s fucked up to invade my brother’s privacy, but my curiosity got to the best of me and I opened it. Continue reading

“We were so happy and insanely in love”

They’ve been together since high school. But now, the stress of both college and her mom’s cancer has taken a toll on their relationship. Is it worth fighting for, or is it time to let go?

Carly says:

 I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. We hit it off senior year in high school, and have now made it through our first semester of college. We were so happy and insanely in love.

Two days before I went to college, my mom was diagnosed with stage four cancer. This obstacle has been a burden on our relationship. Every argument we get into now makes me feel even more depressed on top of all the stress I am dealing with. I have lost the joy and same amount of giddiness I have had in the past.

We have been going through an extremely rough time recently, and our relationship is suffering. I’m not sure if all this is because of what I am having to deal with or if it is time to let go. I want to fix things and I know he loves me, but I don’t know if I should be investing all my focus into fixing our relationship. The last thing I want to do is end it, but I am so tired and stressed out. I’m not sure if I have the energy to mend this. I do not want to do anything impulsive.

Travis says:

 I love Carly with all my heart. Around our one-year, we started having a lot of problems. I deeply regret the way I acted at times and apologized over and over. I am committed to making a change in things, but I don’t know if she believes me.

I am a terrible plan-maker, and that makes Carly feel like less of a priority when I forget things. I say stupid things sometimes and always end up feeling terrible about it. I just hope I did not commit to making a change when it is already too late. I am afraid I already lost her. She is not in an emotional position to fix what is broken. I got so focused on college and finding a friend group that I lost the focus I had on our relationship.

I am trying to make a change, but we seem to always be at each other’s throats still. I think she has also lost sight of how happy she has been with me in the past, and I never want her to forget that.

“When do I confront her?”

I found out yesterday my wife just started sexting with a high school sweetheart from 30+ years ago. She doesn’t know I know & I haven’t confronted her about it yet. I recently screwed up our relationship big time (finances), so I have no ground to stand on.

She kicked me out for 3 nights, before letting me back in the house while we fix the finances, but nothing promised. We have a family picnic this afternoon (not at our house) & I’m trying not to confront her before then as to not ruin the day, for the family’s sake, not hers, but I’m struggling keeping it in! We have two older kids from her first marriage, & a 14 year old of ours living in the house. When do I confront her?

“Does he just love the idea of me?”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years and we do everything together. He encourages me often, is very thoughtful and loves to spoil me. But sometimes I feel like he loves the idea of me and what I do for him, rather than for who I am. He tells me that he loves my personality and compliments me often, but seems preoccupied most of the time when I’m talking to him, and isn’t thrilled about hanging out with my family.

Sometimes I feel like he loves me because we do so many of the things that he loves, and spend time with his family a lot, rather than the things on my side.

The beginning of our relationship was a little rocky, and we fought often. He had a job that he hated and tended to be pretty selfish at times. I know he can be immature at times and that some of my family and friends aren’t crazy about him, but he is my best friend and I’m crazy about him.

What do I do?

“I don’t want him moving near me”

My half brother, who I have only met face to face 4 times, is in a homeless shelter and wants to move to where I live in two weeks. He has a felony record (aggravated assault with weapon with no intent to kill) and the only times he has called me is for drama or money.

I told him that if he got help we would talk about moving down here. His caseworker says that it would be best to move down and see a normal family life. But I am finally in a good mental place myself. I am scared of getting caught up in crazy again. Even now he calls about dating a girl who is living with someone. I really don’t want to but I am afraid he will die if he doesn’t.

“I’m frustrated with my job”

I am not sure if this is what the site is intended for, but, I have just wanted to rant without coming off as complaining to my friends.

I just feel like a failure. I feel like I am not good at anything. Very frustrated at work, even though my job is unfulfilling and I don’t feel as if I am contributing to anything meaningful, I still try and care a lot. I feel like there is never any feedback or recognition for the effort that I put in, once in a while a “good job” would go along way. I wish I was doing something more fulfilling and to do what I would like to do that means more schooling and wanting to start a family soon, I don’t know I could handle having a newborn and school. And the change itself is kinda scary to give up the job security that I have, for potential happiness in my work life and happy in general.

“My boyfriend and family are not getting on”

I was set up by my aunt and my boyfriends aunt a bit over a year ago. We get along amazingly, we lived together for a few months and again it was amazing. He wants to create a happy and healthy family for us.

I have a group of friends that he has met a few times. One of them just married a guy that sells small amounts of marijuana and my boyfriend has also heard him gossiping about his own friends and about a few people in my family. I also have a cousin who is involved in selling drugs. Continue reading