“I don’t want him moving near me”

My half brother, who I have only met face to face 4 times, is in a homeless shelter and wants to move to where I live in two weeks. He has a felony record (aggravated assault with weapon with no intent to kill) and the only times he has called me is for drama or money.

I told him that if he got help we would talk about moving down here. His caseworker says that it would be best to move down and see a normal family life. But I am finally in a good mental place myself. I am scared of getting caught up in crazy again. Even now he calls about dating a girl who is living with someone. I really don’t want to but I am afraid he will die if he doesn’t.

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“I’m frustrated with my job”

I am not sure if this is what the site is intended for, but, I have just wanted to rant without coming off as complaining to my friends.

I just feel like a failure. I feel like I am not good at anything. Very frustrated at work, even though my job is unfulfilling and I don’t feel as if I am contributing to anything meaningful, I still try and care a lot. I feel like there is never any feedback or recognition for the effort that I put in, once in a while a “good job” would go along way. I wish I was doing something more fulfilling and to do what I would like to do that means more schooling and wanting to start a family soon, I don’t know I could handle having a newborn and school. And the change itself is kinda scary to give up the job security that I have, for potential happiness in my work life and happy in general.

“My boyfriend and family are not getting on”

I was set up by my aunt and my boyfriends aunt a bit over a year ago. We get along amazingly, we lived together for a few months and again it was amazing. He wants to create a happy and healthy family for us.

I have a group of friends that he has met a few times. One of them just married a guy that sells small amounts of marijuana and my boyfriend has also heard him gossiping about his own friends and about a few people in my family. I also have a cousin who is involved in selling drugs. Continue reading

“My mom is holding me back”

I am a mother to an infant and had her as a single woman. I moved back to my mom’s, mainly to help her as well. My mom is disabled and needed some help, including financially. I had given up on ever dating another man, as it’s not easy for me to meet others considering how busy I am.

However, that has changed and I have met someone. I knew him from my last job as he worked for a company that mine dealt with. Nothing ever happened during that time, we had never even met in person. He has recently reconnected with me and we hit it off! He is literally the man of my dreams. My mom has always told me that she doesn’t want to hold me back from happiness yet gets upset when I go on a date with this man. Continue reading

“My life is a mess and I’m completely lost”

I’m completely lost. I don’t know what to do. I feel like my life is a never ending spiral of failures. I’m 16 and I know, “I have my whole life ahead of me”, but do I really? Every single Honors student know what they want to do with their lives, and then there’s me. To be honest, I don’t even think I’ll live past age 20, let alone finish College and University.

My mom hates me. She keeps me as a prisoner in my own house. And that’s not to sound dramatic or anything, I’m actually not allowed to leave the house. I couldn’t even go to my friend’s graduation back in May. She never let me leave the house over my summer break, she doesn’t let me hang out with my friends.

I’m a good girl, good grades, top test scores, AP classes, but none of that means anything apparently. To her, I’m just a sex crazed idiot like “teenagers are supposed to be.” She won’t even let me get a job. And there’s the fact that she constantly cheats on my dad and forces me to keep it a secret (this has been going on since I was about 7.)

I get bullied. Endless racial jokes about me being Mexican, come at about every second. And if it’s not a racist joke, it’s some insult about how I’m a ‘prude.’ It’s gotten to the point that I can hear their words when they’re not around. I feel like the walls around me are quickly closing in and I have nowhere to go. Please, what am I supposed to do?

“Do I give her a heads up about the abuse?”

My sister in law was inappropriately touched by her uncle when she was a pre-teen. He spent a few months in jail and was registered on the local sex offenders’ registry for a short time. I do not know details of the abuse.

Some years ago he got married to a woman who has 2 kids, a boy and a girl. I don’t know if she’s aware of the abuse. I don’t feel as though I should be the one to tell her, but now that her daughter is getting to be the same age my sister in law was when she was touched, I’m becoming very concerned. I do not want to damage their marriage if he’s truly changed, but can they truly change? She may already know. I would hope my mother in law would have talked to the wife as one mom to another about her marrying a possible pedophile, but I do not know. It is my mother in law’s brother and perhaps she would just want to see him happy.

I considered writing an anonymous note to the wife to give her a heads up in case she isn’t aware, but don’t want to overstep my bounds. Then again, when the safety of a child is in question, doesn’t it become everyone’s responsibility?

“I feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him”

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he and my children bonded quickly and the family dynamic between the 4 of us felt effortless and we were all happy.

Since we’ve been married though, I have found text messages between him and 3 different girls. I tried to improve myself to see if he would stop, I thought it was something I was doing to push him away but then I found out he was saying awful things about me and my kids to a girl while he was telling me how much he loved me. Continue reading

“My wife is mad that I helped my mom out”

So here’s my situation… I’m wondering if you guys think that this is absurd or whether I did something wrong.

In a nutshell, my older sister (34) passed away unexpectedly last week. My mother was obviously very upset, so I left work early to see her that day. Around dinner time, I went to the kitchen to cook her some dinner and realized that she was pretty much out of groceries. So, I ran to the store, picked up some dinner, and then bought her about $85 worth of food to keep her going for a few more days.

Fast forward to tonight. My wife, after analyzing our online banking transactions, comes downstairs and is LIVID after finding out that I spent $85 on groceries for my mom. After laying into me for a bit, she tells me that I am not to waste our money like that, and that my mother is taking advantage of me. She also told me to ask her to pay us back.

We’re not exactly struggling. My family income is about 85k annually, of which my job generates about 80%. My mom is divorced and makes somewhere around 22-24k.

Was I wrong here? I feel like this was just a small way for me to help in a time of need….

“Am I acting out of place?”

When I came home after a long Sunday out, I asked my mom about my pet’s vet visit and every time I spoke, my sister sighed. My other cat has cancer and my mom said that every time me and my sister are home we have to take care of her and that I just can’t be going out. But I told her that the only times I went out during the week were to work or to get driving lessons. My sister sighed again.

When I went to see my kitty with cancer I saw that her post-surgery cone was put on with the clip half way in the loop so soon to fall off, and with the clip out the outside instead of the inside so part of the cone angled out, getting caught on objects, and that the string that tied it was untied. I asked my mom who tied it in an angry voice and my sister said to my mom that she will never help with my sick cat again. Continue reading

“My elderly mother spilt gravy on my son’s head”

Tonight at dinner, we had an unfortunate accident. My 5 year old was already at the table eating, while my mother (who is 70) was still trying to get the stuff on the table. She was trying to get my father his gravy, as he was sitting at the other end of the table. Unfortunately, some spilled on my son’s head. Understandably, he freaked out because it was painful, I was in the kitchen at the time getting a drink for him, so I didn’t see what actually happened. My bf, my son’s father, rushed him into the kitchen, freaking out and we rinsed his head with cold water. My bf was immediately saying we were taking him to the hospital. I kept my cool, and told him that it wasn’t that bad, 1st degree if that, it was barely red, no blistering and my son calmed down within minutes.  Continue reading