“I don’t know how to break up with him”

I don’t know if I should break up with my boyfriend. I love him, but it feels like everyday we argue over the smallest things and it always feels like it’s gonna end, it never does but I feel like we just compromise to get over it and not really talk about it. He also talks to a lot of girls that he says are just friends but he once had a thing with before us, and I can’t help but be scared and I tell him this.

Also, I really need someone who would be willing to at least look into my church but he said he won’t convert and that’s kind of a loss for me.

I also have this weird feeling that if we stay together he’d be my last person I’ll be with, and I just feel like I need a get more dating out of my system sorta. I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for almost a year which I know, sounds kinda stupid but it’s been bothering me.

 

“I love another guy”

I desperately need help. I have loved one guy in my life but he never wanted to commit. We had a breakup and I got married. But we never lost contact. Every time I spoke to him, he expressed how much he still loved me. I ignored it as much as I could, but could never stop myself from not talking to him. Now I feel, I am falling in love with him again. How can I let go of him forever? I confessed my love to him and asked him to help me by not contacting me , but he still wants to be friends with me . How should I get out of this situation?

“I’m fantasizing about another man”

I have a problem.. so I’ve been with my bf for a while now, we dated for 7 months, broke up for a while, and now we’re back together for almost 6 months. I got back with him because I thought I loved him, but recently I feel like our relationship is falling apart.

Everything he does annoys me and makes me feel unwanted and I keep fantasizing about another man, and I also want to talk/tell everything to the other man instead of my boyfriend. I don’t know what this means considering I haven’t talked to the other man in six months since me and bf got back together, so why am I thinking about him so much now? And what do I do about my boyfriend? I’m so confused and I don’t want to leave him because I feel like I’m making the wrong decision. Please help!

 

“Do I stop talking to him and move on?”

I’m very confused just now. My ex broke up with me a month ago, and has spoken to me every day since, he says he still loves me, but not looking for a relationship etc and he tells me he broke up with me because we were arguing a lot, which is true.

I obviously feel really low about it and it is hard to continue talking to someone you care about when they seem to be happier without you. I’ve often thought of just not talking anymore and trying to move on, by speaking to other men and maybe dating etc but I know that would be used against me if he decided we should make it work again.  Continue reading

“He stopped talking to me when he got me pregnant”

My boyfriend got me pregnant three months ago and ever since we’ve found out, he’s practically stopped talking to me. He doesn’t want me to tell anyone about it, or even talk to him about it, and I don’t know what to do, because we’re running out of time and I want to keep it.

He’s slowly becoming more distant and people have repeatedly been telling him he should break up with me (they don’t know about the baby). I was panicking one night after we had a fight and didn’t know where to go – I messaged one of our mutual friends, (call him m) to look for advice. He helped me so much and ever since, him and I have been getting closer. I’m scared because I’m getting feelings for him, and losing them for my boyfriend. M and I have been talking a lot lately and I doubt he has any feelings for me at all, but I can’t help it. I feel like I’m stuck and I don’t know what to do. I just want to do what’s right for the baby and I don’t know if that would be me staying with it’s biological father, or me being with someone who actually wants it and cares about the both of us.

“A depressing love relationship turning into an irreparable tragedy”

I [20/M] have been in love with a girl [20/F] for almost 4 years now. Initially it started off as a crush and then when I expressed to her my feelings, I was disappointed as she had a boyfriend back then.

Trust me, I being the perfect unconditional lover boy kept on caring for her as she underwent a stormy and tormenting love affair. It continued for 1 whole year. Late night calls, her crying, me consoling. Her telling me she loves me and then going back to her ex the very next day. Continue reading

“Do I tell him why I broke up with him?”

My ex boyfriend asked when we broke up, if I could eventually tell him what he did wrong. In the same conversation, I learned that he has asked this of all his exes and that he does absolutely nothing to fix those problems.

I’ve been tempted to tell him what he’s done wrong,  but always didn’t, because I doubt he’ll try to improve himself in any way. I always try and take the high road even if it is rough and I don’t want to do it. Continue reading

“My companion just disappeared”

I’ve been having a rough couple months. Nothing seems to be going right, and it’s been really hard to smile lately. My relationship with my family, as well as my lover, has been slowly deteriorating. I’m currently taking a break from any intimate relationships, but I was always, always seeking for a friend to talk to. It got things off of my mind, even if just for a moment.
It became a sort of coping mechanism.

One ever-so-fateful night, I found myself in some random chatroom with another person. We stumbled under the same topic category and he was very pleasant to talk to (none of my close friends were up at the time, or were far too busy for me to approach). We talked about absolutely everything. We had deep talks about religion, society, and any intellectual thing imaginable. At the same time, we spoke about quirky references and memes. It felt like we had known each other for years (as exaggerated as that sounds). It just felt so different. I had never connected with anyone so similar to me before.

Later on, he decided that we should keep in touch, and so we did. We added each other on a chat-based app and messaged one another. A couple of days hereafter, we became fast friends, to say the least. I’ve never been one to act impulsively, nor upon my emotions.. But something about our interactions made it so easy to open myself up to him. He asked why my lover and I took a break, and he gave me insight as to why I should love myself instead of worrying about my current relationship status. I’m a very pessimistic person, and he brought a very insightful perspective unto me. One that I needed to hear after all the other shit I’ve been going through. I hadn’t smiled so easily in such a long time.

Now.. neither of us were foolish. We didn’t rush into anything sexual. And it was absolutely wonderful how we could care less about being touchy and affectionate with each other. (We lived quite a ways apart, so I wasn’t expecting anything). I was sure to make clear that I wasn’t ready to be in any sort of relationship anytime soon, and I was happy to know he respected that. There was even a time when we distinguished that we fit into the “demisexual” side of society. We both looked down on one-night stands and summer flings. Emotion and a personal connection always came first to us, and I never sympathized with anyone so deeply about these ideals. Several times, however, he showed interest in me. They weren’t bold statements, but they were surely there. His cunning, subtle little flirts made my heart swoon. He had an incredible way of saying things that he knew I would appreciate.

For about a month, however, he stopped messaging me. It took a lot amount of courage to initiate conversation with him again. He didn’t reply the first time, but I caught him online a couple weeks later, and we conversed once again. He apologized for not getting in touch with me sooner. His reasoning was that he didn’t want me to emotionally invest in whatever was happening between us. But honestly, I was perfectly ok with being friends for a while. In fact, I didn’t really want him to be a lover right off the bat. Our friendship was absolutely beautiful the way it was. His company was all that I needed, and I felt as though he sought my presence, as well.

Days passed again, and it just seemed like we grew a lot closer. I actually started getting excited to see him message me back. This hasn’t happened in a long time. I’ve had feelings for my previous lover for 8 years, and I haven’t quite emotionally invested in anyone ever since. But this quote and quote “friend”? I felt as though he was about to beat that long-time record.

The first time he asked me to watch a show with him while speaking to me on the phone, I couldn’t stop smiling. He had stayed up messaging me and out of the blue, he proposed it as if it were a date. I later reminded him that I didn’t want to hurt him because I was still figuring things out with my lover (we are still broken up), and, as if to make me feel better, he suggested to watch it with me as my friend. I willingly agreed, but when the time came to watch it with me, he was unable to do so. I forgave him the first time because we both hadn’t slept the night before. He had slept through the appointed time. But, the following day or two, he brought it up again. He boldly suggested that we try again on Tuesday (which was yesterday). And again.. He didn’t show up. I just feel so devastated.

Last Saturday, I noticed that he wasn’t on my friend’s list anymore. My intuition screamed at me that he removed and blocked me. I pretended it didn’t bother me.. But slowly, I grew more and more disappointed. Everything had ended so abruptly and I was taken aback. He hadn’t done a single thing to upset me until now, and he seemed to enjoy my company. He seemed like a very reasonable young man, and I felt as though we connected uncannily well. I had never hit it off with someone this well in such a short amount of time, and now I’m just in utter shock. He’s left without a single trace and I tried to add him back.. Only time will tell if he’ll ever see it.

I honestly just wanted to get to know the guy. He was so intriguing. It wasn’t every day that I stumbled into someone who enjoyed conversing about deep obscurities about life,and then immediately switched the conversation to memes. I cannot deny that I developed a sort of crush on him; but being his companion was more than I could ever ask for.

Would he be worth pursuing? Had I done something to upset him? Would any of you have any ideas as to why he just up and left?

 

 

“My ex wants to shag his colleague”

Me and my ex broke up over the weekend but we are still living together as tied by a contract.

He works with a guy who he has never spoken to or socialised with online before all their interactions have been at work or with work colleagues on social events.

Within hours this guy messaged my partner on Facebook, which my partner showed me, and was the first communication ever sent between the two. That night my partner proceeded to tell me this guy was flirting, and after three days they are talking non stop.

He says the guy is just cheering him up, and is a friend even though they went from never communicating online to non stop as soon as we broke up.

While we was together my partner told me they had top 5 shag lists and this guy was on his, and he regrets not sleeping with him when he was single.

I’m devastated that it feels like he moved on within hours, and just can’t believe when he says it’s innocent.

“Are his lies a deal-breaker?”

He didn’t cheat, but his lies don’t add up.  I say lies because I know they are. He’ll try explain one thing but I’ll question him about it again and everything he says contradicts his previous story.

He argues that he forgets and his memory isn’t good, but there’s just this feeling I get. I do trust he wouldn’t cheat on me but I think he has previously texted other girls suggestively and when I question him about it, he brings up my past and guys I previously chatted to before we got together.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting or thinking too deep but is this a deal breaker? Should I end it?