“I don’t know how to deal with her ex’s”

Hi, I am a 26 year old man, I have recently entered what I believe to be and would like to be a serious relationship. I have some issues that I don’t know how to address. My new girlfriend is pretty good to me and seems to be loyal to the relationship.

That being said, there are several of her past intimate partners that she doesn’t want to let go of. I’m not normally a jealous person, but I’ve also never had to deal with this issue before. The primary issue is that most of her previous partners were friends of hers long before the intimacy started, and have remained friend’s after.

My issue is that when I mention having an issue with them still being around her and communicating with her, I always get excuses and reasons why I shouldn’t worry. Am I wrong for having a problem? Or is she wrong for keeping them around knowing that its an issue for me?


“I still think about my ex after 3 years”

I woke up this morning from dreaming about my ex all night. We dated on and off, for about 6 years. We have been broken up for close to 3 years. I can’t seem to let him go. I dream about him often, even on days that I haven’t even thought about him.

I still run into him with his new GF at festivals. I guess that’s not going to change, because that’s how we met. We both love the music scene. I’m not sure why I can’t seem to let go. I left him for many reasons, he was not a good BF, he was not a man, he could not grow up or treat me right. I gave him so many chances to fix himself, but by the time he had started making changes I was already over it. He broke my heart into a million pieces over and over again. Continue reading

“Do I stop talking to him and move on?”

I’m very confused just now. My ex broke up with me a month ago, and has spoken to me every day since, he says he still loves me, but not looking for a relationship etc and he tells me he broke up with me because we were arguing a lot, which is true.

I obviously feel really low about it and it is hard to continue talking to someone you care about when they seem to be happier without you. I’ve often thought of just not talking anymore and trying to move on, by speaking to other men and maybe dating etc but I know that would be used against me if he decided we should make it work again.  Continue reading

“I need to get over my ex”

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost 2 years ago. We were dating for 2.5 years, mostly a long distance relationship. I found out that he went on a business trip with an female co-worker and they shared the same room. When I asked him why he didn’t tell me, he said there were 2 beds and they didn’t do anything.

Long story short, we broke up, he blocked my Facebook and still does. After a year or so, he emailed me to catch up, but I said nothing. Anyway, I’m dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now and we are very happily in love. However, whenever it came to him or I saw his Instagram post and his girlfriends, there is a feeling that I cannot describe. But I know it’s definitely not love, not friendship, nor happiness.

So I want to ask for advice how to get rid of that feeling, because I know it is unfair for my boyfriend, if my mind still thinks about my ex, even just for 1 sec. I don’t want to see my ex ever again if by any chance we meet, I want myself to walk past him like I don’t know who he is. Please give me some advice.

“I swear she thinks my dick is small”

Hey, I’m a male. I had a pretty amazing relationship for almost an year. We enjoyed sex. She never complained. After about a year, a thing came to my mind that she had mentioned at the start of this relationship. The thing was ‘we were on a date and we started having kinda sexual chat, after some time there was a topic of dick sizes and stuff.’

Out of curiosity I asked her about her ex’s which I think I shouldn’t have done. She told me about it with gestures and was clearly bigger than my asset.  Now, I cannot get that thing out of my mind and I keep thinking about it again and again. We had numerous fights regarding this topic. I feel that I do not satisfy her. Even though she enjoys it a lot. After that thing happened last year. I have been very conscious regarding my dick size even though my girlfriend says it’s normal, it’s average, it’s not small. I think that this is for sympathy. Our relationship is on the verge of ending because of this thing. Please help.


“I was drunk and I felt raped”

My ex boyfriend had sex with me when I was in and out of consciousness after a night of drinking. He was completely sober and we had a fight that night. I came over to his place, leaving my friends at a bar, because he had accused me over text of staying out late to get drunk, and hook up with someone random.

I was so drunk and upset, that I left my friends immediately and stumbled over to his apartment. I was crying and thought we would just cuddle and go to sleep. I woke up with him on top of me and then blacked out again. I felt raped but didn’t say anything until a few months later after we broke up. Continue reading

“I want to be with both of them”

I’ve been dating the same guy for about 6 months and we’ve fallen apart, he even agrees with me. But every time I talk about fixing us, or breaking up, he curves around it. We only text a little and never talk or see each other in person anymore.

His phone was taken and he’s now living elsewhere, but promises me he’ll be back next year for school. When idk if we can last that long. We’ve been so distanced. We still say I love you but it feels to me like there isn’t power to that anymore. We decided we’d try to last till he comes back next year. Continue reading

“Do I delete him number and move on?”

I’ve been dating a guy for almost 2 years, we met in uni so we saw each other almost everyday. When I went back home in the summer he didn’t bother texting much or even calling. When I text, it takes him over a week to reply and the excuse is he’s busy. He does have a job but no one is THAT busy.

He also got caught cheating in an exam so he got a year’s deferral which means I won’t see him for a year. We texted a little but now he suddenly stopped replying all together, I’ve sent him multiple texts and it shows that he’s read them. On whatsapp, I can see that he’s online everyday but he doesn’t bother texting me. He also wouldn’t add me on snapchat which is a huge red flag for me.

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“Do I tell him why I broke up with him?”

My ex boyfriend asked when we broke up, if I could eventually tell him what he did wrong. In the same conversation, I learned that he has asked this of all his exes and that he does absolutely nothing to fix those problems.

I’ve been tempted to tell him what he’s done wrong,  but always didn’t, because I doubt he’ll try to improve himself in any way. I always try and take the high road even if it is rough and I don’t want to do it. Continue reading

“I married young and want a divorce”

For a few months I’ve been considering getting a divorce with my husband for multiple reasons; he’s horrible in bed, unromantic, won’t get a job, has no real life goals and doesn’t show affection.

But, the biggest reason is because my ex started talking to me as friends and I realized I still have feelings for him, but he was horrible for me.

I also feel like my freedom has been taken from me. I’m about to be 21 and my husband complains every time we go out and makes everything a living hell. I’m worried that divorcing him will be a mistake and I’ll regret it. I think I ran into a long term commitment too soon, because his whole personality changed as soon as we got married. I’m just stuck wondering if he will go back to being the same guy I fell for before, but I still have these conflicting feelings for my ex. I don’t know what to do!