My sister in law was inappropriately touched by her uncle when she was a pre-teen. He spent a few months in jail and was registered on the local sex offenders’ registry for a short time. I do not know details of the abuse.
Some years ago he got married to a woman who has 2 kids, a boy and a girl. I don’t know if she’s aware of the abuse. I don’t feel as though I should be the one to tell her, but now that her daughter is getting to be the same age my sister in law was when she was touched, I’m becoming very concerned. I do not want to damage their marriage if he’s truly changed, but can they truly change? She may already know. I would hope my mother in law would have talked to the wife as one mom to another about her marrying a possible pedophile, but I do not know. It is my mother in law’s brother and perhaps she would just want to see him happy.
I considered writing an anonymous note to the wife to give her a heads up in case she isn’t aware, but don’t want to overstep my bounds. Then again, when the safety of a child is in question, doesn’t it become everyone’s responsibility?