Tag: children

“My marriage is falling apart”

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When I met my wife, she was in normal fit shape, and her natural body and face is 10/10 beautiful, like unbelievably so, to the point that she could get whatever she wanted whenever she wanted it. If she could sing she might be famous. But I was not interested in her because she seemed so into getting attention for her looks. It put me off.

At some point she actually gained a lot of weight, like 100 lbs really fast. I was friends with her during that time (not necessarily close) and never really considered being with her, I was honestly concerned for her because she had gained so much weight incredibly fast and she would literally be dead now if she had kept that up. She eventually lost most of that weight. We got together when we ran into each other and she helped me with a place to stay on campus at our school, after a bad breakup that left me with no place to live for awhile.. As we talked, she explained how she had started focusing on spirituality in life (not any specific religion, same as myself) and I fell for her. I made a mistake believing that she had changed. I made several mistakes. I thought I would be on her side by acknowledging how her body had changed and supporting her to be mentally and physically healthy. Continue reading →

“An old flame blew me off, now he’s back in my life”

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When I was younger I had a relationship with someone who I was pretty deeply into. While I know it was never anything extremely serious at the time, I held out hope that it would turn into something more.

Back then I worked at a bar and my friend, we’ll call him Manny, came in one night to hang out while I worked, so I started a tab for him so he could have a couple drinks and chill. I came by to check on Manny after a while and he mentioned that he was getting tired and was thinking about heading home in a bit. I offered to come by when I got off of work and he assured me that he would probably be asleep by then so it might not be a good idea, and then he got up, excused himself and went to the restroom. While he went to answer nature’s call, I went to settle the tab and my friend behind the bar was adamant that I was NOT paying for the tab. Continue reading →

“My ex-husband lives with us and I want him”

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This is insane. 23 years ago, I got pregnant with a child, and the father was 9 years older than me. He was a felon just released on parole, and I was a 16 year old in a catholic school. I truly loved him and married him at 18.

He did go back to prison and for the next 10 years, he was in and out of prison.  I continued on with life, and got married to another man, and had another child. Since then, I divorced him, and moved back home. Continue reading →

“He says I’m selfish, but I do everything!’

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My husband and I have a fairly traditional marriage where I am the homemaker, and he is the provider; but, I work 20+ hours per week, take care of everything in the home (except for repairs/maintenance that are sparse), care for our 2 boys and 2 dogs.

He is home resting for 7 days, then works away 7 days a week, works 12 hours a day when away, and  where he stays is like a hotel/ camp (maid service and all meals provided). When he comes home, even though I work 5 days a week, I do all cooking and cleaning.

The only thing I ask, is that he bathes the boys when he is home. He becomes very upset with me, swearing and yelling, that I am selfish and he never gets a break. Am I wrong in thinking he should be doing this? He says I expect too much because he is home watching the boys all day when I am at work and he deserves his nights to relax. Should I just deal with it and keep doing what I do everyday whether he is home or not?

 

“I want to break up with him, but am worried about my son”

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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost three years. I’ve come to the realization recently that I’m not in love anymore and am very unhappy in the relationship. I want to end things with him and am ready to move on and be on my own.

My only hang up is that I have a seven year old son who has grown to see my boyfriend as a father figure. His real father lives two states away and only comes home once or twice a month. I’m worried about the effect this will have on my son. Both in the fact that my boyfriend will no longer be around, and because our lifestyle will have to change pretty dramatically to be able to afford to stay in the same apartment and school district once we no longer have his income.

I know that moving on will make me happier so how do I do it in a way that lets a seven year old know it isn’t his fault and that everything is going to be okay?

“When do I confront her?”

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I found out yesterday my wife just started sexting with a high school sweetheart from 30+ years ago. She doesn’t know I know & I haven’t confronted her about it yet. I recently screwed up our relationship big time (finances), so I have no ground to stand on.

She kicked me out for 3 nights, before letting me back in the house while we fix the finances, but nothing promised. We have a family picnic this afternoon (not at our house) & I’m trying not to confront her before then as to not ruin the day, for the family’s sake, not hers, but I’m struggling keeping it in! We have two older kids from her first marriage, & a 14 year old of ours living in the house. When do I confront her?

“How do I get him to communicate?”

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So long story short, we moved away for around a year and opened a business, the business didn’t work so we have recently moved back to our old town and my fiancé has started working at his old job again, but with a promotion to management!

Recently though he has started working lots more hours because of the new job title, so myself and my son never see him much these days. I know as I am writing this that its probably all due to stress and tiredness, but it’s like he has completely stopped communicating .

He is such a doting dad but when he is home he just sits on social media watching videos, I ask him how his day was etc try to get him to talk, but I get 1-2 word answers, then he goes back to his phone, he used to take my son to the park and that has totally stopped now too.
I know he isn’t cheating or texting anyone because his phone faces me when he uses it but it’s just frustrating, I feel like the spark in our relationship has gone out and I don’t know how to relight it!

Can anyone help? How do I get him to start talking again, I don’t need much but right now I feel like he doesn’t have any interest in me anymore and I’m worried he isn’t in love with me anymore.

“He says we’re married, but we’re not”

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I have been in my relationship for almost 5 years. We have 2 daughters, 2 and 3. We have been engaged for almost 3 years. He cancelled the venue & plans for the wedding about 4 months after he proposed. Said that we needed to work on our relationship before we made it legal, he has been married once before, so he is reserved.

Now, he says we are already married, that when we consummated, we were married. He has very different points of view. We have never taken vows or are legally married, but he insists that we are. He is constantly sharing his ideas with me, points of view on a variety of subjects but when I don’t agree, he says I am wrong and says I should think as he thinks.

On the surface, we are great together, we joke & laugh regularly & I love the family we have together. But any time we speak about important subjects like core values and beliefs, we disagree every time. And he says I am wrong, that it’s all me. That I need to take a look at myself and make some changes. But he isn’t willing to see my point of view, I’m just wrong. I asked if he would be willing to go to counseling with me, he refused.

I feel exhausted all the time. I am filled with anxiety at every moment, and I always have this knot in my stomach. He said to me a couple weeks ago, “it’s your job to make my dick hard, not my life”. That was a slap in the face & I haven’t been the same since, but he saw NO WRONG in it, said I perceived it wrong. I don’t know what to think anymore. I just wanted to share. I’m so lost.

 

 

“My sister is a horrible step mother”

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She has a two year old son and three step children. She despises the step kids. When her child was born she wanted their father to take a month’s “break” from the other children to bond with theirs. He told her he couldn’t take a break from being a parent and would take care of all his kids.

She throws a tantrum any time he does anything with his other children or if they come over. She calls the seven year old fat, and has banned her from having snacks. Even though the two year old can have them. She has gotten so bad that she even makes up lies on them to try to win people over to “her side”. Like telling people the teenager is inappropriate with the younger children. Nobody but her has ever witnessed it.

I have tried to reason with her. She just gets mad at me and accuses me of being judgmental and keeps repeating that her son shouldn’t have to do without a father because his ex drops those “brats” on them constantly. It’s gotten to the point to where I am missing out on my nephews’ life because I can’t be around that.