“I love her more than her boyfriend ever could”

I fell in love with this girl last year and it took 7 months of being in the friend zone for her to say she loved me back. She asked me to wait for her, so of course I said yes, but during the time I was waiting for her I had a lot of personal issues going on.

It caused a few mental issues so she stopped speaking to me, then got with someone else. She’s recently got back in touch with me and told me she regrets her decision and has made it clear she’s not happy, but she won’t leave her bf and no matter how much I try, she won’t see that I love her and would do more for her than her current bf ever would.

It kills me but the thought of losing her again hurts even more and I don’t know what to do…..
Someone please help?! She’s all I’ve thought about since January 2016 and I’ve been holding this in since she got with her bf in August 2016.

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“I’m not a part of her social life”

I’ve been with my partner now for about 14 months. I find it quite difficult to accept how secluded her social life is. I’ve only met her best friend twice (once properly) and whenever she goes anywhere, it’s always without me.

I understand that sometimes when she goes out with her girl friends that I would naturally not go. But every work event or get together is never open to partners, and I feel as though I’m a separate part of her life. I feel as though I shouldn’t be irritated by it, but I can’t help the way I feel. I’ve not really discussed it with her. I’ve mentioned it in a passing conversation but she brushes it off and just says ‘go out with your friends on the same days.’ But I don’t want to set up extra socialising events just because I’m not invited to anything she does.. Am I being unreasonable?

“Should we stay together or shall I let her go?”

My girlfriend and I are fourth year students just finishing our degrees. Our relationship is both of our first serious relationship and we’ve been together for almost a year. We’ve had a lot of difficulty lately, especially with school stress and having to work closely together on many projects and reports.

She broke up with me a month ago, and a week after that we discussed things and decided we didn’t want it to end and we wanted to work on things. Things continued to be difficult, and now I know we’re back on the rocks.

I know she needs to see that I’m ready to grow up and take control of my life, but I don’t think I’m going to get the chance because I think she’s ready to give up again. I still think we have a relationship worth fighting for, but I’m torn because fighting for it will only make it harder on her to walk away if she has to.

I don’t want to lose her, and if all relationships require work then I think ours is worth working for.  What should I do? If we should stay together, how can I tell her? Can I tell her somehow that I want to fight for us? Should I leave her to think about things even if it means losing her?

I know I’m capable of making her happy and I want to stay together so we can both be happier.

I don’t know what help I expect to find, but please help.

“I can’t get over my girlfriend cheating on me”

This is a long story. I’m a freshman in college and have been dating this girl for 6 months. We have told each other we that were in love and want a future together. There’s just one thing I can’t get over.

Before we were officially dating, we kind of a had a “thing” going. We went to each other’s fraternity/ sorority formals and what not and had sex. However; at a party, I was helping a friend who happened to be a girl, who was very intoxicated. Someone seeing me sit down with her on a couch assumed I was “hooking” up with her. I was not. This person told my now girlfriend this, and she ended up leaving with another guy and having sex with him.

I know this might seem like it was a misunderstanding but it hurt me more than anything I’ve ever experienced. She apologized the next day and I gave myself days to think it over. I decided to give her another chance and we began what is now our 6 month relationship. I am happy being with her, but when I think about this night, it brings back a lot of pain for me, and I just haven’t fully gotten over it.  Should I still be in this relationship?

I’m a guy and I love wearing dresses and jewellery”

Hi, I am a straight 15 year old guy who occasionally, in private, wears dresses and some jewellery as I find them comforting. I am not gay, or trans, I don’t do it to be or look like a woman. I do it to feel better about myself (plus I look good in them!)

For example, the other day when I was home alone, I wore a black dress that I took from my girlfriend once. That’s the thing, I love my girlfriend so much but I feel shitty lying to her about this. I want to tell her that I like dressing in this way, so I can do it around her without feeling like a freak . Should I tell her?

Also, I have been thinking about sex as well, and whether we should try it. Although it will be my first time, I am ready (despite that we are underage). I want to approach her about it to see if she is prepared to take our relationship to the next level as I am so in love with this girl!
Is it a good idea?

“I want my girlfriend back so much”

My girlfriend recently broke up with me after we were in the most ideal and wonderful relationship. We’re both seventeen, and maybe it was just us being young, but even people around us have commented that we seemed to have some sort of deeper connection, and the whole thing felt very soulmate-ish, if that makes sense.

The thing is, that we’re both girls, and things started to go downhill after my parents found out. Continue reading

“Is my girlfriend forcing me to be with her?”

I met a girl online a few years ago when I was 16. We started a relationship because I believed we had a future, she told me she was planning on moving to my country when she was older, before we even met. In mid 2015, she had an idea where I lived in her country with her for 1 year, and we’d move back together which would have started January 2016 and ended January 2017.

The first month I lived with her, she told me the 1 year would end up as 5 years, I was alright with this, even though a tad disappointed (I’m a family person and I knew I’d miss them). Recently she’s been upset about not being sure if she wants to move to my country at all, leaving me here wondering what to do with myself, I can’t leave her because I’d miss her and I have too much stuff here to move out now. Continue reading

“I want to get back with my ex”

My girlfriend of 1.5 years has recently broken up with me. After a few drunken fights, mainly down to us both, but mainly me being stubborn, she said the relationship was just too stressful for her and that she wanted to be single.

This has been a real eye-opener for me and I know I can be better if we got back together. She claims she still loves me and that she doesn’t want anyone else. We hung out recently after not talking for a week and it was awkward. What is my best chance at getting her back? I have some friends saying give her complete space and let her come back if she wants, but I also have friends saying I need to keep some contact with her so she doesn’t forget why she loves me. What do y’all think? What about social media.. is there anything I can do specifically to make her miss me more at this point?

“Is it a rebound relationship?”

My head is spinning and I don’t know that what my mind wants, is actually what it wants. I also don’t know what is the right thing to do in my situation. Help.

About 8 months ago I moved away from Cali to New York leaving my girlfriend of 4 years and we started to do the distance. Our relationship started to go sour and my girlfriend started blaming me for the reason things were going bad because I was pursuing my dreams. She wanted to break-up multiple times but I guess I convinced her to stay with me and maybe it will get better. Continue reading