“My fiancé thinks I have too many issues”

I am a 29 year old medical student. Doing well academically, but this year has been hard. You see, after my sister passed away in 2013, I withdrew from medical school for some time, to take care of my parents. I eventually gave up. But I later realized I still want to do it, I made a promise to my sister I’d get back in it.

In the mean time I met this girl, things were decent, we had our differences, but it worked. She wasn’t career oriented, I was, and I eventually got back into medical school. I was doing very well, till the doctors told me I needed open heart surgery. Continue reading

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“Do I break up with her sooner?”

I’ve been dating this girl for a year and a half, but I’m finding that I’m just not happy anymore. When we first started dating I was very happy, but over time things have gotten bland. We get into occasional arguments but they are all super petty and we end up having very unhappy evenings because of it.

We usually make up, but I can tell that some things we have said still sting. She gets stressed often and I try to comfort her and encourage her, but when I get stressed, I feel she would rather let me deal with it on my own, and sometimes gets mad at me if I’m in a bad mood. We know we aren’t going to the same college and so we figure we’ll probably break up after we go off to college, but I’m starting to think it should be sooner.

I need my space, but I can’t tell her that without hurting her feelings. She admits she can be judgmental and petty, but after a while it still gets old. She’s been going through a lot, she’s constantly stressed with schoolwork and even her family pressures her negatively sometimes, and I feel that if I broke up with her, she’d be devastated. I want her to be happy, but at the same time, I feel I need to be happy too, and I don’t get that sensation I used to. What should I do? Should I break up? Or hope that going off to college will break us up for me, with less hurt feelings?

 

“I lied to her about my career and family”

I’m not sure how long me and my girl have been dating, because we only go out  once a week, and we also had a packed schedule, but we have gone out for seven dates and we message each other everyday.

I would say that we had a deep connection and understanding for one another, but during our fifth date, I made a mistake. I told her that I began dating because I used to like another girl, and that I want to replace my feelings for that other girl. When I said it, I thought there was nothing wrong with what I said to her. I didn’t commit infidelity, so I decided to tell her that. Continue reading

“Take her back or let her go?”

I’ve been seeing this girl, not that long, but have completely fallen in love with her. I see the good in people because that’s who I am, and I definitely see the good in her. I’ve managed to break down her wall and she says she sees us getting married and that I’m a different kind of love.

But she’s hurt me multiple times in many different ways, she hasn’t cheated though. She’s broken my heart twice from her cruel words and cold shoulder behavior at times. She’s been badly hurt before in a relationship and she blames the way she acts, on her being hurt. But I’ve seen the change in her, she stopped drinking and finally learned to open up and trust me.

The conflict is, no-one, friends and family, like seeing us together because of how badly she’s hurt me so many times before. I love this girl to death and can’t ever seem to let her go but I value the opinion of those around me. My heart says take her back and my mind says let her go. What do I do ?

“I swear she thinks my dick is small”

Hey, I’m a male. I had a pretty amazing relationship for almost an year. We enjoyed sex. She never complained. After about a year, a thing came to my mind that she had mentioned at the start of this relationship. The thing was ‘we were on a date and we started having kinda sexual chat, after some time there was a topic of dick sizes and stuff.’

Out of curiosity I asked her about her ex’s which I think I shouldn’t have done. She told me about it with gestures and was clearly bigger than my asset.  Now, I cannot get that thing out of my mind and I keep thinking about it again and again. We had numerous fights regarding this topic. I feel that I do not satisfy her. Even though she enjoys it a lot. After that thing happened last year. I have been very conscious regarding my dick size even though my girlfriend says it’s normal, it’s average, it’s not small. I think that this is for sympathy. Our relationship is on the verge of ending because of this thing. Please help.

 

“How do I tell her he’s a cheat?”

I’ve been sleeping with this guy for the past few months and he said he didn’t have a girlfriend, so I agreed to sleep with him. Just moments ago, I was on Facebook and his gf popped up on my recommendations, and I clicked on her and her Facebook was full of him.

They have been dating for a little over 2 years. I am beyond pissed off. I want to tell his gf so bad, but she looks so happy and I can’t possibly ruin her happiness, but I can’t let him continuously do this anymore. She believes that he’s the best bf ever and she loves him so much. But how can I possibly show up out of n where and tell her that he’s cheating on her and it’s been for a long time now? Please, please help me.

 

“When do I buy her engagement ring?”

I’m planning on proposing to my gf after a year of travelling, and I don’t know whether to buy the ring before leaving or while away. If bought while we’re away and something goes wrong with the ring once we’re home it could be complicated to fix and get sorted.

If I buy it before we go and we’re staying in hostels, it could be risky, as it could get lost or she could even find it. Even if I bought it here, taking it away could be difficult in my luggage, or on my person with the metal detector lol! Anyone have any advice on what to do?

“My girfriends’ stories about her ex are upsetting me”

I keep finding out from my girlfriend (been dating for 3 months) about boys that she has kissed or given blowjobs to in the past before we dated and it really messes with my head, especially because of the biggest issue.

About 2 months before we started dating (neither of us even liked each other at the time) she was “friends with benefits” with my best friend, and would constantly describe what kind of actions she would do for him, and the worst of all, he gave me very specific details about the time that he took her virginity (they only had sex 3 times, the first time being her very first time ever).

My girlfriend truly does regret it and wishes it didn’t happen, but my mind cannot get rid of those specific details that I was told, and even a video that my best friend showed me (before her and I dated) of him getting a blow job from her. It hurts every time it crosses my mind and it’s started to hurt our relationship and it’s starting to make me very sad. I would like help to be able to clear my mind and come at ease with the whole situation.

“A co-worker is trying to ruin our relationship”

I am in the early stages of a relationship, and everything is going great. But, a former co-worker has decided that myself and her have “dated”, and messaged my new girl saying that we were still dating, so look out. It has dealt a pretty serious blow to our relationship, and we are looking to repair it. My current girlfriend worked with her in a networking group and may have slighted the girl that is trying to wedge into our relationship.

What would be the best way to handle this? We have thought of inviting this person out to call them to task, or to message her back, but I’m thinking this is just giving our relationship power, to her. On the flip side, we thought about just ignoring it and not giving it any energy. Thoughts?

“She’s angry that I want to work on my career”

I have been in a relationship with a young woman (she is 20 and I am 23) for about a year now, and she gets angry when I spend time away from her to advance my career.

We are both in college and I am an art student. We both also work. I have told her before that I plan to spend 50 to 60 hours a week in the studio for the rest of my life, attend shows, classes, lectures and exhibit openings, and that these time commitments are rarely, if ever, negotiable. I invite her to as many of these as I can, but it’s rare that she actually wants to join me. Many of these events do come up on short notice as well, but I always give plans priority in the order they were made. Continue reading