“My friend confessed his love for me”

About two years ago, I met this wonderful girl a few states over. It was incredible. We have the same taste in music, movies, shows, plays, and we work so well with each other. We even started saying we loved each other before we started dating. It took a while, though, quite a few in-person visits, before we actually became a couple. Most of my friends were happy for me, except one. He just seemed neutral about it, which I brushed off as jealousy (since he hadn’t been in a relationship yet) or the fact that he still had some hangups about lgbtqia+ relationships, which I can understand to a point. Continue reading

“Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?”

Someone who I have been kind of friends with for a while ended up hanging out with me one night. We had sex and since then have been doing the whole ‘friends with benefits’ thing with no title whatsoever. I feel like she likes me a lot more than I like her at the moment.

This has been going on for about a month and last week I met another girl at a school event and we hit it off. We’ve been texting ever since then and I feel that she likes me, because of a lot of flirtation in our messages. I think I like her too, she is very attractive but I’m not sure what to do.

Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?  Do I wait until me and the second girl are actually dating before I stop with first one? To make it even more complicated girl two, who I like more, and is more attractive, is only a sophomore in high school, while me and girl one are seniors. I turn 18 very soon but she claims that she already told her parents about me and that they were cool with us going on a date. Please help me.

“I’m not sure if I’m transgender”

I’ll just say it, I’m not sure if I’m transgender. In the past month or so, I’ve become fascinated with the idea of becoming a girl. I’ve been trying on the clothing and experimenting with hairstyles and makeup. My problem is, I don’t know how my girlfriend will take it if it were to ever happen, and I’m also not sure if I truly enjoy it or if it’s just a phase.

“I want her back but she isn’t the girl I knew”

This is painful for me to talk about, but I’m alone and I need advice FAST. Today, I noticed that my girlfriend of 9+ months had changed her Instagram bio.. it had another guy’s name and yesterday’s date.

When I asked her about it, she claimed that he was her best friend and that was “the day they met”. Which doesn’t make any sense. After I called her out on this, she got mad and accused me of “stalking” her. She then told me that she was breaking up with me. It was so sudden and I had never been so distraught in my life.She later said that she would get back with me if I “stopped stalking her profile” and “let her go on dates”… What the heck? I don’t like having my emotions toyed with.. I want her back but this isn’t the girl who I know.

“My girlfriend wants to hang out with her exes”

All of a sudden, my girlfriend says she’s no longer happy with me and started to want to change who I am. At the same time, she started hanging out with her cousin more, who has just become single. He has many guy friends, which my girlfriend had previously dated.

Every time she goes to hang out with her cousin, and she tells me they only hangout at his apartment, she gets fancied up. But no longer does that for me. I’m trying to figure out if I could trust her now, in the past I could, but recently not as much, due to her wanting to hangout with him more when her ex-boyfriends are around. Can I get some insight?

“My girlfriend wants me to fire my coworker”

My long-term relationship girlfriend wants me to fire a coworker. She is devastated, has nightmares, is taking medication… it’s more than jealousy.  I have a good friendship with said coworker and nothing inappropriate has ever happened from either end, but we did become good friends.

We have hung out numerous times in the past, with my girlfriend, as a group. My coworker has a pretty cool group of friends. I connected with her and her friends more than anyone else in this city and I can understand how that could make my girl uncomfortable. Continue reading

“Should I break up with my girlfriend?”

I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for just over a year now and I’m starting to realize that I no longer see a future with her. I try to stay in love, but everyday it seems like an uphill battle.

I have noticed small changes in my attitude as of recently, such as finding other women oddly more attractive than usual, finding myself more impatient and irritated with my girlfriend, and more interested in going out to parties with my friends.

I’m not the type of guy who wants to leave his girlfriend for the hope of a one-night stand or anything sexual, I’m just looking for someone I can see a future with. However, I still have many feelings of compassion for her. I’m afraid that breaking up with her would cause her to perform poorly this semester and that our mutual friends would reject me. I just want her to be happy and us to be nothing more than close friends. Any advice would be extremely helpful, because I don’t want to let these feelings drag on too long.

“How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?”

How do I persuade my girlfriend to not get a tattoo without it making her feel like I’m trying to control her?

My girlfriend has recently brought up her interest of getting a tattoo and as someone who finds tattoos on women to be a real turn off, this is pretty concerning for me. I mean absolutely no offense to girls with tattoos. It’s just not for me. I’m worried it might affect our sexual relationship. I do love my girlfriend a lot but I’m not a very sexually active person as it is. I fear that her getting it would just push my desire to have sex even lower. Continue reading

“My girlfriend restricted my access to hanging out with women”

Trevor says:

Now, I would like to preface this by pointing out that my girlfriend is not cheating on me. It’s not just because I’m stupid or naïve. I just understand certain things about her that would be a very long story to share on this. She’s an extremely territorial person who has since restricted my access to hanging out with women.

I understand this because of her past and background. However, she insists that she should have the ability to hang out with other men. This bothers me. She goes out with them, let’s them buy her drinks, and such. My territorial — and fairness — side pings here as this being something that isn’t fair.

Kenna says:

What my boyfriend doesn’t understand is that I live in this new area, find it very difficult to make friends, and want to be able to go out and have fun. I try to make female friends too, but I just find it more difficult, since the girls in my life seem to be more flaky than the boys.

I understand that the men who hang out with me want to sleep with me, but I would never sleep with them. I would never cheat on my boyfriend. I love him dearly, and I’m not sexually interested in any of them. I don’t let him hang out with women, because it’s like him to hang out in groups of people, so it would be unlike him to hang out one-on-one. I, however, do not like hanging out with large groups. It’s just different.

“She doesn’t even bother giving excuses for being distant anymore”

I’m 21 years old, and I’ve been dating my girlfriend for just over two years now. Neither of our parents know about our relationship, so spending time together is difficult, but we’ve been managing fairly well.

Last year, she was a first-year art student, and I’ve been giving her all the space she needs in order to experience everything college brings with it. But lately, she’s been extremely distant. She shoots down most of my attempts to see her, and she doesn’t even bother with excuses anymore, we didn’t talk much on the phone as she preferred to do it in person, but now we don’t talk on the phone at all. Continue reading