“She’s angry that I want to work on my career”

I have been in a relationship with a young woman (she is 20 and I am 23) for about a year now, and she gets angry when I spend time away from her to advance my career.

We are both in college and I am an art student. We both also work. I have told her before that I plan to spend 50 to 60 hours a week in the studio for the rest of my life, attend shows, classes, lectures and exhibit openings, and that these time commitments are rarely, if ever, negotiable. I invite her to as many of these as I can, but it’s rare that she actually wants to join me. Many of these events do come up on short notice as well, but I always give plans priority in the order they were made. Continue reading

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“Do I break away from these friendships?”

I have a friend, more specifically two friends who I am considering ending the friendship with. One has changed from being someone who is fun to hang out with, to just a jerk. He thinks I’m his punching bag, yeah we screw around, but recently it’s not been a joke. I’ve tried getting him to chill, but he won’t. It’s not like I’m even provoking him in any way.

The other friend has gone from a funny person to be around, to a self centered jerk. We could screw around and have fun, but now he’s got a girlfriend, and his girlfriend comes along, and then he becomes a jerk trying to impress her, and acts like he’s better than me in every possible way. The annoying part about him being a jerk around his girlfriend is I’ve told him how I felt about him treating me. So, that’s the situation. Do I break away? Do I make a last effort? If I break apart how do I do it?

“I lied to her and lost her trust”

I’ve been with my partner for 10 months now. We were in a long distance relationship for 7 months. I moved out of state and dropped everything to be with her. It was my choice I was willing to risk it all. We have had a really good relationship. We laughed together, we went out, we stayed in, we were strong. We had a great sex life. Everything seemed to be ok. But lingering in the back of my mind was the fact that she was 50/50 on marriage. Continue reading

“Why won’t he admit he has a girlfriend?”

I met him in one of my college classes. We studied together, and the last month of class it was obvious he liked me. At one point we had a conversation where he mentioned his “ex.” We planned to hangout after our final, but the night we were all going to go out (our group of classmates), he never showed up. We never talked again after that. It drove me insane– he had easily become one of my favorite people. I did some snooping and it turned out his “ex” was his current girl. I was so disappointed but dropped it. He must be loyal to her, and I’m no home wrecker.  Continue reading

“She is skeptical of my trustworthiness”

I’ve been single for a few years now, but I’m talking with a girl, Lauren, who I was really good friends with a few years ago. We’ve hung out a few times but nothing more than a hug and no serious dates.

I met her years before through my then girlfriend, Sam. I will admit, I cheated on Sam one time when I kissed another girl. It was a mistake and we made up and continued our relationship for more than a year after, but now Lauren found out that I cheated, not knowing really what happened, and is understandably skeptical of my trustworthiness. I have fallen completely in love with Lauren but don’t know how to prove to her that I’ve changed for the better.

“I’m scared to show her what I look like because I feel ugly”

I really need help… my girlfriend (I am also a girl) who I only know on Skype, is really pretty. We recently called and she calls herself ugly but she’s very beautiful. She has long, brown hair. She has flawless skin and she makes me all squidgy inside. She makes me feel so happy and wanted in the world. I can’t explain.

But now, she wants me to show her my face (she says I’m beautiful but she doesn’t know what I look like) and I look like an ugly human. Continue reading

“Did I cause their break-up?”

I don’t know if it was directly my fault, but I might have just influenced a couple to break up.

So, a little background first. My guy friend, N, and I have been pretty close for about 6 months now. We only met last August, so our friendship got deep pretty fast. He’d been seeing this girl for about 3 months in private, she’s part of our friend group and neither of them wanted to stir up drama. He told me about the relationship a while back and I supported it, even though I kind of like him. Which is why this next part gets a little weird, and lines get blurred.

This past weekend, there was a party at my house for my friends and me, about 24 of us, to drink and have a laugh and fall asleep in a tent (not important to this story but still cool) and N was there. He and I stuck around each other the whole night, I was stressing out and he was just trying to keep me from having a panic attack. At about 2:30 everyone is either in the bed or has gone home (some didn’t want to sleep over) and it’s just me and N in the house. Continue reading

“I love her more than her boyfriend ever could”

I fell in love with this girl last year and it took 7 months of being in the friend zone for her to say she loved me back. She asked me to wait for her, so of course I said yes, but during the time I was waiting for her I had a lot of personal issues going on.

It caused a few mental issues so she stopped speaking to me, then got with someone else. She’s recently got back in touch with me and told me she regrets her decision and has made it clear she’s not happy, but she won’t leave her bf and no matter how much I try, she won’t see that I love her and would do more for her than her current bf ever would.

It kills me but the thought of losing her again hurts even more and I don’t know what to do…..
Someone please help?! She’s all I’ve thought about since January 2016 and I’ve been holding this in since she got with her bf in August 2016.

“I’m not a part of her social life”

I’ve been with my partner now for about 14 months. I find it quite difficult to accept how secluded her social life is. I’ve only met her best friend twice (once properly) and whenever she goes anywhere, it’s always without me.

I understand that sometimes when she goes out with her girl friends that I would naturally not go. But every work event or get together is never open to partners, and I feel as though I’m a separate part of her life. I feel as though I shouldn’t be irritated by it, but I can’t help the way I feel. I’ve not really discussed it with her. I’ve mentioned it in a passing conversation but she brushes it off and just says ‘go out with your friends on the same days.’ But I don’t want to set up extra socialising events just because I’m not invited to anything she does.. Am I being unreasonable?

“Should we stay together or shall I let her go?”

My girlfriend and I are fourth year students just finishing our degrees. Our relationship is both of our first serious relationship and we’ve been together for almost a year. We’ve had a lot of difficulty lately, especially with school stress and having to work closely together on many projects and reports.

She broke up with me a month ago, and a week after that we discussed things and decided we didn’t want it to end and we wanted to work on things. Things continued to be difficult, and now I know we’re back on the rocks.

I know she needs to see that I’m ready to grow up and take control of my life, but I don’t think I’m going to get the chance because I think she’s ready to give up again. I still think we have a relationship worth fighting for, but I’m torn because fighting for it will only make it harder on her to walk away if she has to.

I don’t want to lose her, and if all relationships require work then I think ours is worth working for.  What should I do? If we should stay together, how can I tell her? Can I tell her somehow that I want to fight for us? Should I leave her to think about things even if it means losing her?

I know I’m capable of making her happy and I want to stay together so we can both be happier.

I don’t know what help I expect to find, but please help.