“A depressing love relationship turning into an irreparable tragedy”

I [20/M] have been in love with a girl [20/F] for almost 4 years now. Initially it started off as a crush and then when I expressed to her my feelings, I was disappointed as she had a boyfriend back then.

Trust me, I being the perfect unconditional lover boy kept on caring for her as she underwent a stormy and tormenting love affair. It continued for 1 whole year. Late night calls, her crying, me consoling. Her telling me she loves me and then going back to her ex the very next day. Continue reading

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“Take her back or let her go?”

I’ve been seeing this girl, not that long, but have completely fallen in love with her. I see the good in people because that’s who I am, and I definitely see the good in her. I’ve managed to break down her wall and she says she sees us getting married and that I’m a different kind of love.

But she’s hurt me multiple times in many different ways, she hasn’t cheated though. She’s broken my heart twice from her cruel words and cold shoulder behavior at times. She’s been badly hurt before in a relationship and she blames the way she acts, on her being hurt. But I’ve seen the change in her, she stopped drinking and finally learned to open up and trust me.

The conflict is, no-one, friends and family, like seeing us together because of how badly she’s hurt me so many times before. I love this girl to death and can’t ever seem to let her go but I value the opinion of those around me. My heart says take her back and my mind says let her go. What do I do ?

“He loves both of us but chooses her”

My friend Jake and I have been best friends for 6 years. I was with our mutual friend, Greg, for 5 years. We got engaged and then we broke up because we knew we were better as just friends. He couldn’t give me what I needed and we both knew it.

Jake has been with Riley for 15 months. During the time I was with Greg, Jake and I were only friends; nothing ever happened.

 4 months after my breakup, Jake and I got drunk and made out. Continue reading

“He’s been messaging other women on Craigslist”

My previous ex had a relationship with a girl,  the last 2 years of our relationship. So I’ve always been “on guard” with all relationships after that one.

I found a guy who experienced a similar issue with his ex wife (outside relationships discovered via text msg,) so I felt good going in. I recently discovered that he’s been messaging girls/couples on Craigslist when I’m not staying over at his place. I can go into why I know this, but just know it wasn’t due to over snooping on his devices.

I don’t know how to bring it up to him. I want to because since I figured it out, I’ve made every excuse I can think of for us not to have sex for fear of transmittal. What is hard too, is I love him. He’s an amazing partner, if I didn’t know this was happening behind the scenes. Help please? Is there a way back from this?

“I’m in love with my best friend”

I became friends with a boy and we weren’t super close, but I struggled with depression and he got me out of it and we became super close. We’ve never been more than friends and while we do love each other and say it pretty frequently, we’ve friend zoned each other.

I’m falling in love with him more everyday and I don’t want to tell him in case it ruins our friendship. What do I do?

“Does he just love the idea of me?”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years and we do everything together. He encourages me often, is very thoughtful and loves to spoil me. But sometimes I feel like he loves the idea of me and what I do for him, rather than for who I am. He tells me that he loves my personality and compliments me often, but seems preoccupied most of the time when I’m talking to him, and isn’t thrilled about hanging out with my family.

Sometimes I feel like he loves me because we do so many of the things that he loves, and spend time with his family a lot, rather than the things on my side.

The beginning of our relationship was a little rocky, and we fought often. He had a job that he hated and tended to be pretty selfish at times. I know he can be immature at times and that some of my family and friends aren’t crazy about him, but he is my best friend and I’m crazy about him.

What do I do?

“Is he bipolar?”

What do I do … I don’t know where to turn for help? My man is a perfect gentleman most of the time, but will switch to a Demon in seconds?

I have been in a relationship with my man for 2 years. The 1st year was on/off, since we lived in different cities. The 2nd year he moved in with me, and we became serious. We both fell in love quickly! When he is normal, he does more for me than anyone I have ever been with. He’s affectionate, loving, giving, and true to me. Continue reading

“Do I stick it out, or give up on my current relationship?”

When we first talked about dating, she promised an honest and open relationship in the sense of communication.

In the time we’ve dated, communication hasn’t gotten any better and is absolutely terrible compared to before. I’ve gotten cheated on, she lies consistently, still talks with the men she flirts with and is still incredibly irresponsible. She also claims to have cheated on a guy simply because she didn’t screw or see him for two weeks. I won’t be able to see her for a while so I’m concerned.

She has plenty of great qualities and I am madly in love with her,  but I can’t trust her to save my life. How can I resolve this? We get along great, and have awesome chemistry.

She has PTSD related issues, so I can’t approach these issues directly without her shutting down and going dead silent for two days. How can I resolve this?

“I love her more than her boyfriend ever could”

I fell in love with this girl last year and it took 7 months of being in the friend zone for her to say she loved me back. She asked me to wait for her, so of course I said yes, but during the time I was waiting for her I had a lot of personal issues going on.

It caused a few mental issues so she stopped speaking to me, then got with someone else. She’s recently got back in touch with me and told me she regrets her decision and has made it clear she’s not happy, but she won’t leave her bf and no matter how much I try, she won’t see that I love her and would do more for her than her current bf ever would.

It kills me but the thought of losing her again hurts even more and I don’t know what to do…..
Someone please help?! She’s all I’ve thought about since January 2016 and I’ve been holding this in since she got with her bf in August 2016.