“When do I confront her?”

I found out yesterday my wife just started sexting with a high school sweetheart from 30+ years ago. She doesn’t know I know & I haven’t confronted her about it yet. I recently screwed up our relationship big time (finances), so I have no ground to stand on.

She kicked me out for 3 nights, before letting me back in the house while we fix the finances, but nothing promised. We have a family picnic this afternoon (not at our house) & I’m trying not to confront her before then as to not ruin the day, for the family’s sake, not hers, but I’m struggling keeping it in! We have two older kids from her first marriage, & a 14 year old of ours living in the house. When do I confront her?

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“She undermined me about my kid’s TV”

When my wife and I first married we decided that our kids would not be allowed to have TV’s in their bedrooms. We recently bought a new house and our now teenage son has been asking for a TV for his room.

We discussed it and I still feel very strongly about him not having one in his room. We have 3 other TV’s in the house. He doesn’t need to be holed up in his room 24 hours a day. A few days ago, while I was working, he asked my wife if he could take a TV up to his room that we had, that wasn’t hooked up because it didn’t work very well. She let him and no one ever said anything to me about it, after multiple discussions on the topic.

I saw it yesterday and told my wife I was not happy about it. I didn’t go off or blow my lid but I am pissed about it. And now I am being treated like I’m an ass for being upset about it. Am I wrong for being mad? I feel like she undermined me on something I felt very strongly about even though “the TV barely works, what’s the big deal?”

“My wife and I are fighting over another guy”

My wife and I have been fighting over an issue that came up a while back. It was brought to my attention that a friend of hers seemed overly “friendly” when I wasn’t around. This, coupled with some things that I saw in their interactions, made me confront her and ask why someone thought this.

She immediately took his side and began defending him and their relationship. The fight progressed into a huge fight in which I asked her “do you care more about his feelings than mine?” Her answer was YES, I was completely floored by this and could not believe she would say that to me.

Since then we have several altercations and every time it ends the same, she acts like my feelings are not important and his are. I feel like there is something going on at a subconscious level, as I do trust her and we both work too much to have any time to mess around with somebody else? So how do I let go of how this makes me feel, she has apologized and I believe she is? HELP

“My wife is mad that I helped my mom out”

So here’s my situation… I’m wondering if you guys think that this is absurd or whether I did something wrong.

In a nutshell, my older sister (34) passed away unexpectedly last week. My mother was obviously very upset, so I left work early to see her that day. Around dinner time, I went to the kitchen to cook her some dinner and realized that she was pretty much out of groceries. So, I ran to the store, picked up some dinner, and then bought her about $85 worth of food to keep her going for a few more days.

Fast forward to tonight. My wife, after analyzing our online banking transactions, comes downstairs and is LIVID after finding out that I spent $85 on groceries for my mom. After laying into me for a bit, she tells me that I am not to waste our money like that, and that my mother is taking advantage of me. She also told me to ask her to pay us back.

We’re not exactly struggling. My family income is about 85k annually, of which my job generates about 80%. My mom is divorced and makes somewhere around 22-24k.

Was I wrong here? I feel like this was just a small way for me to help in a time of need….

“Is my wife in a relationship with my son?”

I’m a 50 year old male and I’ve been married to my current wife for about 5 years. We have a good marriage. I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. My son is 26 and recently came to live with my wife and me. I work during the day and my wife stays home with our children, ages 12 and 10.

I’ve noticed that my son and my wife spend a lot of time together. Whenever I come in from work, they are together, laughing or in deep conversation. It’s usually when I come in, they tend to get quiet or change the subject. It wasn’t until my 12 year old told me that she had seen them hugging that I really became worried. I realize it was a mistake to bring him into my home and I want him gone. My wife thinks I’m overreacting but I feel like I no longer trust either of them. It has not just affected my relationship with my wife, but most definitely my relationship with my son. What should I do?

“My wife wants to sleep with other people”

My wife announced that she wants to sleep with other people. She claims that our sex life is bad, and she is not satisfied. We had incredible sex just the night before and she thoroughly enjoyed it. I know her, and I know when she is faking and she wasn’t.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to cheat, but she is convinced she won’t be happy until she gets to sleep with someone else.

“My wife slept with a guy on a cruise”

I have been married for almost 2 years and have dated her for 16 years. About 10 months ago, my wife told me she slept with a guy while on a cruise with girlfriends 12 years ago. I’m upset about it and can’t let it go.

After telling me about him,  I found a picture album with a number of pictures of her with him, taken on the cruise, and she told me she called him after the cruise twice.

“My wife didn’t come home last night”

The other day my wife texts me saying that she is going to work a little later, and if I can pick up our son. She says it won’t be too late. About an hour later she calls asking if everything is going okay, wondering if I needed her to come home otherwise she was going to work just a little longer. I said everything was fine, this is approx 6:00pm. At about 10:00pm I hadn’t heard from her in a while so I try texting, calling, no response.

Then I see her coworker is on Facebook messenger, so I ask the coworker if she could have my wife call me. She then tells me that my wife told her that she was going to work from home that day. I tried calling and texting my wife 20 times with no response. Finally I get a text from my wife saying, “yeah I lied, I’m out with my friends and I’m not coming home tonight”,  and I didn’t hear from her until the next morning. Should I be concerned?

“My wife has a slight drinking problem”

My wife has a slight drinking problem. Not an alcoholic but she just can’t control how much she drinks when we’re out with friends. We can’t go out and just have a couple beers or glasses of wine and enjoy an evening.

It starts out as one beer that gets drunk immediately, not chugged, but rapidly drunk, swallow after swallow. It’s like compulsive, it’s there and I have to drink it. Then she needs another one. Can’t just sip and enjoy it, nope, has to consume it because it’s there. About the third beer in, she’s getting intoxicated, but denies it. If I try to get her to slow down, she gets defensive and belligerent. Now it’s up to 5 or 6 beers and she’s loud, belligerent and nasty. We fight and argue about it and go home. Next time we go out I try to get her to control it but it never works, another spoiled evening, because she consumed too much, too fast and will not stop. She usually apologizes the next day and says she won’t do it again. Always does. This is very frustrating. She refuses to get help or counseling as she is convinced in her own mind that everything is fine. What do I do?