“I’m dating someone for stability”

I’m not claiming to be a great person but I’m dating someone for stability. I didn’t realize that was what I was doing until I really looked at the situation. He has a house that he asked me to move into, I’m saving money, I have a companion, and I get to be closer to my family. Everything sounds good on paper but there are a few downsides.

I’m moving several hours away from where I live for him and the only time I’m really attracted to him is when we’re having sex. He doesn’t give me the emotional support that I’m craving. He was so kind before we started dating but as soon as we put a title on us (which he pushed for) he became distant and cold. He’s one-worded and I feel like he doesn’t care about me. He has no problem going two days without any kind of communication (which is a big deal to me since this is long distance right now.)  When I press him on it, he apologizes and is okay for a day or two before reverting back to old habits. Continue reading

“Should I say ‘I love you’ first?”

We’ve been dating for 7 months now… traveled together many times and everything seems to be fine. I already feel in love with him but never said it. He keeps telling me that he thinks I am a great girl but it’s too early to judge me. He also talks about how he’s not emotional and how he hardly says “I love you” to his family members. Should I go ahead and say it first? In all honesty his actions show that he really cares and does have feelings for me but he never says it straight up.

“His twin brother wants to date me”

So about 5 or 6 years ago I was occasionally talking to this guy. Nothing serious. We texted sometimes, maybe had 2 phone conversations but never dated or anything. The first time we hung out we ended up having sex. Next day went on as if nothing happened. We only had sex one more time after that before we just eventually drifted to other interests I guess you can say.

Fast forward 4 years later, me and my girls would chill out with these guys that my friends grew up with. Guys were really chill… liked to genuinely have fun and yada yada. One of the guys always flirted with me and eventually made it clear that he liked me so I asked a few people about him to see what vibes I would get. One source revealed he had a twin brother.

OMG! Once that was said to me it made sense why he looked so familiar of another person – the guy I slept with years ago.  Ever since learning this, I basically friend zoned him. I never once revealed that I slept with his brother because frankly it wasn’t something I was too excited about and I didn’t want it to change how they viewed me. His brother in question moved down south and started his life there with a whole new family. Been there for a while and doesn’t seem to come back to where we live anytime soon. So me and the current brother have actually been on a date because he always asked but I felt bad after. IDK, like I  feel like it’s inappropriate and also pretty gross in a way but then again this happened yearssss ago and the family has a new life somewhere else. What should I do?

“Why do I have so much anxiety about my relationship?

I’ve been dating this guy for a year-and-a-half, and I’m scared of us running out of things to talk about, and of him falling out of love with me. Also, I’m scared of us not lasting, and honestly, our relationship gives me anxiety. It’s been like this since the beginning of our relationship.

I know there probably isn’t a clear-cut answer given only this description, but I was wondering if you could tell me what’s wrong with me. I mean everything about our relationship is great. We haven’t even argued yet. I don’t know why I have so much doubt in us, so I was wondering why do I feel like this?

“He let his friend drive my car and lied to me about it”

I am dating a guy. We recently went out of the country together. When we were away, he let one of his guy friends (whom I have never met) drive my car, and he lied to me about it. I found out because I found a receipt in the car, and when I asked him about it, he lied initially. I asked him again, and he came clean. I was annoyed, but tried not to get too upset about it. I have a tendency to overreact. He didn’t understand my being upset. Was I wrong for being annoyed by this?

“I like him, but he’s so attached to his mother”

I’m a single mom with 3 girls ages 2, 3, and 5. I’ve been single for about 2 years now and just recently met a great guy. He’s also a single parent with a little girl, age 9. He’s a pilot so he frequently travels.

His mother lives with him because while he’s gone, she takes care of his little girl. Which I think is sweet! He’s a good guy and seems very willing to be a part of my kids’ lives and he’s very understanding of my busy schedule. We’ve only been on 3 dates within the past month.

I’m basically new to dating after being in a very long (abusive) relationship and I need to take it slow and casual at first. But the only thing is, this guy is soooo attached to his mother. Which I think is nice BUT he asked me if it was okay to bring her along our last date. It was at the park to let our kiddos play so I said sure. But thought it was a little strange and I honestly wasn’t ready for all that. She ended up not coming and it sounds bad, but I was relieved. Continue reading

“He didn’t know what he wanted two years ago, but now wants to see me”

I dated a man (whom I met through a personal friend) back in ’14. Whilst things were going great at first, I decided after a pull back and keep things friendly. After a while I just realized that he honestly didn’t know what he wanted, didn’t know where he was going in life and simply put wasn’t ready for a relationship. Despite the fact that there was an age difference. I’m now 31 he’s 41.

We kept in contact and met up occasionally but again, I kept things casual and as friends despite the fact that he continued to give me mixed messages. He would continue to flirt with me, be touchy, want to spend time together, etc. Our mutual friend didn’t understand really what was happening there either. But I eventually moved on and started seeing my ex (wasn’t planned at all) but life goes on.

Early last year, he told me that he started seeing someone. I was happy for him and told him I was in a good place as well and that I had reconnected with my ex and that we were expecting (wasn’t planned either but was completely awesome nonetheless). He got completely saddened by it (strange for someone who didn’t know what he wanted when we were dating and was now in a relationship with someone else) and drilled me about my ex. Continue reading

“He acted romantic, but then didn’t want anything serious”

I got matched with this guy on Tinder. We talked for a couple of days and decided to meet up. The first planned meeting didn’t happen because he was too tired from work. Yup, he is flaky! But it eventually happened a few days later, when he had his off day from work. It was plain getting to know each other through a meal and a couple of drinks. He walked me to the bus station, I went home and that was it. Nothing physical. Didn’t realise the purpose of Tinder changed!

We texted almost daily after that. I invited him over to mine for our second meeting. We had sex. And a couple of times more across a few weeks. Then, it turned out weird. We started going on romantic dates. We walked the park. We explored some new places. We watched movies. We met up for dinners. Sometimes with sex after, sometimes without. It got really confusing. We would cuddle all night and have breakfast together. It wasn’t just about sex anymore.

From the beginning, we assured each other that we don’t want anything serious, especially since I am leaving the country in a year time. But, eventually, I got attached and I confronted him. He then said he doesn’t want to take things further and would only like to meet sometimes and sleep together. Continue reading

“She still has feelings for her cheating ex”

I met this girl at a place and we started inboxing. After a week-and-a-half, we went on a date of sorts where she told me she liked me and I admitted that I liked her too. She almost kissed me that day, but I backed off, knowing she had to sort out stuff with her ex. Anyway, the next day we met again and she came over to my place and she stayed for the night and for next few days to come we practically lived together going to work and coming back and the whole deal.

On our first night we discussed that she needed to make the decision that 100% being with me or nothing. After 4-5 days she meets up with her ex and she rediscovers her feelings for her ex, who’s a profound skirt chaser and had cheated on her multiple times and still she decided to go back while I was better at everything. Now this stuff is messing with my head I really did like this girl … what should I do?