“I keep going back and forth between two guys”


I have a serious problem with commitment. I get so overwhelmingly into a guy and then it all crashes because I realize I would rather have the other one. I started dating this one guy in high school, and we decided to break up before college. He was always nice to me, and we lost touch. Then I started liking this other guy in college and we were a thing for a full semester. But when I took him home to meet my friends, my ex was there!

Next thing I know I broke up with the college boy and am back with the boy from high school. I NEVER doubted things with the college boy before that moment and it was like I blinked and it was all over. Being back with my ex was awesome for a good month but now I have some SERIOUS regrets because the boy from college sees me way more and understands me on a deeper level. I don’t know what the hell I’m supposed to do, I already have broken both of their hearts before and I don’t want to cause any more pain. I feel like such a piece of shit and I’m so worried I would just do it again if I went back to the college boy. Any advice would be great!!

“I think I want to be more than friends”

I started talking to this guy from my college like one and a half months ago, I barely knew him and never ever talked to him before, but it felt great texting and talking to him online. The very first day we kept talking for long and had even assigned ‘bye signs’ for each other on fb. He is an introvert and I was the only girl he talked to for so long.

The first month, since we were home, we only talked on social media. And then I met him and he was absolutely different than the person I used to text, he was definitely more closed, didn’t talk much. We met again, like 5 times now, and he is more okay with me now, is a little less weird. I like him a lot, he is my buddy, I like talking to him a lot. Now, I have reached a stage where I miss him if we have not talked for like 2-3 hours. I want to talk to him. Every morning I wake up thinking of him and message him first and he is the one I say goodnight before I sleep. And it has just been 40 days of talking. But I know for sure that he is not the guy I want to date.

Can anybody tell me what’s going on? Is it okay, to care for someone so much, want to talk to someone, expect and blush when they compliment you, want to go out with them but still want to be just friends?


“He stopped talking to me when he found out my age”

I met this guy a few months ago. He is 25, I’ll be 18 next week. I mentioned to him my age, but I guess he didn’t hear me. He found out my age on Christmas eve and cut things off (he has a kid and a steady job so I get why.) Since then he was short, purposely ignoring me, etc.

I had many heart to hearts with him, he changed, but yesterday he went back to ignoring me. He just would tell me he’s interested but he would still ignore me,  yet I know he is talking to someone else because of his Snapchat score. I got onto him about ignoring me and he got upset at me and told me he didn’t wanna fight.

This morning I got tired of it. I told him I was putting off talking to other people and it wasn’t fair when he didn’t care. He came back with “don’t stop talking to other people” and told me to go out and have fun. I told him I was going to delete him and that if he wanted to talk when I did turn 18, he had my number. That I needed to let go. He agreed with that. My friends seem to think he was trying to use me for sex. When I first met him he was all sweet. He never did anything I wasn’t comfortable with. Idk if I should message him after my birthday and ask him if he still wants to talk or what? I truly love him.. Please help.

“I’m dating two guys at once”

So, I’ve been dating two guys at the same time. I’m not in a relationship with either one, but I’ve been dating both of them. We are all in the same friend group, and have a ski trip coming up next month. Both guys are going. Airline tickets are bought and house rental paid.

Well I feel like I need to make a choice eventually, but I don’t know if I should wait until after our trip or what?

Please give advice regarding timing of the trip.

“I’m pregnant with a felon’s baby”

I need some advice. Sorry in advance, its pretty long.

Back Story: I met a man in January of 2017 and for the sake of discretion we will call him…Shawn. I met him through work. I am the secretary for the company I work for. I work in the office at a cleaning company, and he got hired as a cleaner. It’s just a small cleaning company and almost 100% of our employees are felons or have done jail time at some point in their life and our company is one of the few that hires “jail birds”. As the secretary, all of the workers/cleaners (mostly men) know me and are very protective of me in a sense, since they are all older men (40+) and I am 23. This particular man got hired in late January of 2017, almost 1 year ago. He was 39, I was 22. For some odd reason, I became immediately attracted to him. He was fine as hell, for a 40 year old man. Even though I knew he was a felon, even though I knew he didn’t have shit to his name, didn’t have a car or money or his own place, even though I knew he had been in and out of jail and prison since he was pretty much 18, even though something about him seemed a little….not right, we started messing around. Discreetly, of course…because, duh, I’m the company secretary, I would die if any other employees found out. Continue reading

“She accepted my friend request, do I ask her out?”

I’m a 21-year-old female that hasn’t had very much dating or relationship experience. I’ve recently been trying out online dating apps for the first time, including one called Her, for gay and bi women. I wasn’t expecting to see anyone that I’d have a strong reaction to, but I came across one girl who really captivated me for some reason. She lives in my city and even goes to the same college (though our school is very large and it’s unlikely we’d have ever met there anyway). Because I was so intrigued, I looked her up on Facebook and it turns out we share a lot of the same interests and political views, which is very important to me.

On an impulse, or perhaps because I suspected she doesn’t use the Her app much, I sent her a friend request, and to my surprise, she accepted. Now I really don’t know what to do. I feel like if I message her and ask her out that’ll seem really creepy since we’ve never actually met, but I don’t want to let this chance go since she’s the only person on one of these dating apps that I’ve truly been interested in. Furthermore, I’m worried that she only accepted my friend request because she thought we might have met somewhere before, since we go to the same school. We don’t have any mutual friends, though.

How should I approach this? Should I reach out to her through Facebook or just not do anything at all? I really don’t want to seem like a creeper or a stalker or anything like that. I’m still not entirely sure why she accepted my friend request and I don’t want to make any rash assumptions. Please help!


“Do I tell him I miscarried his baby?”

Around two years ago, my fiance (now husband, lets call him Joe) and I broke up and shortly after, I started seeing another guy. He was married, but separated, and there was an undeniable spark and attraction between us from the second we met. I was madly in love with him (lets call him Will), and if I’m honest, I still have very strong feelings for him. Very long story short: some complications came up with his wife and son and custody/divorce so we stopped dating. The last thing I wanted was to cause an issue with his son.

After we stopped dating, I was devastated and knew that Joe would take me back and we could be some kind of happy (which we are). This all happened within 4 months or so. The issue is that shortly after I married my husband (a month or so) I discovered that I was pregnant with Will’s child. A girl. We had talked about kids in the hope that one day we might have one together and we both wanted a little girl to share our lives with. And just after I learned the gender, I had a miscarriage. I’m still so heartbroken over it. I want to tell Will what happened, but it’s been so long and I’m married and he is seeing someone else… I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone. No one knows except me and I feel like he deserves to know, but at the same time I don’t want to cause trouble with his girlfriend. What do I do?


“How do I tell them I’m dating him?”

I’m 15 and I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months. We are really happy and he’s been a good influence. But I’m indian. My parents are fairly strict and it’s rather late, so telling them about him now is going to be a bit scary. How do I tell them?

PS – My mom asked me if I’m dating him and I denied it.


“I have to lie to my parents about my boyfriend”

This maybe long and I’m sorry. I have been having issues my parents for the longest time about my boyfriend. We have been dating for about four years and we have been through so much together. The problem is that my parents restrict me in seeing him often and blame him for my own faults.

I’ve also given up my virginity to him, and when my parents suspected that it may have happened, my father was ready to hurt me. I had to lie because I know they wouldn’t be able to handle the truth very well. I also know that I shouldn’t have lied and I’ll have to tell them eventually, but not right now. My parents also believe that he’s a distraction but I’ve maintained my grades with A’s and B’s. We are also taking many precautions before doing stuff together. Nothing I say seems to get across to them, I’m an adult and I believe that I’m making the best possible decisions that I can. Maybe I’m wrong? Can I have insight please?


“It’s her first time and I want to make it special for her”

I’m 16 right now and I need advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 and a half months. We haven’t made love yet, but I can tell she wants to . As a matter of fact she even told me she did, but we haven’t yet.

I know it’s her first time, so how do I make it special for her? I love her with all my heart and I would love it if I could have this be the most memorable moment… any ideas beside the usual candles and rose petals??