“Why won’t he admit he has a girlfriend?”

I met him in one of my college classes. We studied together, and the last month of class it was obvious he liked me. At one point we had a conversation where he mentioned his “ex.” We planned to hangout after our final, but the night we were all going to go out (our group of classmates), he never showed up. We never talked again after that. It drove me insane– he had easily become one of my favorite people. I did some snooping and it turned out his “ex” was his current girl. I was so disappointed but dropped it. He must be loyal to her, and I’m no home wrecker.  Continue reading

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“I’m disturbed after discovering my husband’s social media accounts”

My  husband and I have been married for 6 years through arranged marriage. We have a son (5) and a daughter (2). He was never on Facebook, whereas I have been for some years now. He never seemed inclined and I didn’t fuss over it. However, a few months back out of curiosity I searched his name on FB and realised he had opened an account for more than a year.

When I asked him, he shrugged off stating he never really used it and had opened one on insistence of his colleagues and to connect with friends from his days abroad. When I asked him why hadn’t he added me? He just avoided it saying he never uses it. Nevertheless, I added him and though he seemed reluctant, he eventually accepted it. I checked his account and indeed most people on his friends list were his colleagues from work and few old friends. He had a picture from his late 20s as his profile picture (he’s 40 now). He hadn’t filled out any details and he hadn’t put a single picture of us or our kids. I was not too happy but I thought he wanted to keep things private and professional and let it be.
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“Do I fix or forget my stuck-in-the-mud boyfriend?”

So, in the nicest way possible, I think I’m dating a loser. I guess I’m the quintessential girl that always dates guys that need fixing, but it’s never intentional. The last guy I dated had suffered emotional / physical abuse and it was complicated, but very passionate and I loved him very much. I kind of walked into a mess on this one. My current bf was still living with his ex’s family when we met, but they had already broken up and he was moving out and back in with his parents before we even got close enough to consider dating, but I didn’t know all this until later.

We were set up, and had two months of mixed signals and odd communication before finally getting together. He was struggling in school and didn’t have many friends because his ex was controlling and also pretty mentally and financially abusive, so he transferred to my university to get back on track with his life. I go to the university he was originally going to go to before his ex convinced him to go to her college , so it felt like he was going full circle. He was passionate and excited and I thought he would adjust quickly and be fine. We were hot and heavy and in love and were a really cute couple, and I felt that it could just go up from there. So I thought. Continue reading

“My guy is looking up nude pics of his ex-girlfriend”

Baby daddy and I haven’t been together for a couple of weeks recently. I don’t know what to do, I went through his Google history and I found the weirdest stuff! He was looking up an ex girlfriend he hasn’t seen in 4 years, trying to find NUDES of her. He looked up one of his BEST FRIEND’S current girlfriend and tried finding nudes of her, or if she had a webcam. (She’s not the prettiest girl either).

Plus he was creeping on my best friend I’ve known since I was 14! And he knows her! He looks at porn regularly as well. I also think he has a Paypal account (why else would he go to the website?) I confronted him about the searches and he said, “I don’t know why i do that!  I think it’s because you don’t send me nudes and I like it when my exes sent me nudes. And you never wanna do that.” I told him he should’ve told me, but why MY best friend???? Or his friend’s girlfriend?? Is that some kind of fetish or what? Help me please.

“My boyfriend sent his ex videos of us”

I don’t know what to do at this point. So me boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We had our ups and downs. Before me he used to mess around with girls, had a couple of long-based relationships, but mostly messing around.

When we got together, we were bumping heads, but we did fall in love and worked things out. Recently there’s been one girl he used to mess around with — I found out that he sends her videos of us and basically gets off to it, trying to I guess convince her to get into it, too.

When I found out, I lost it. I knew her sort of because we’ve talked before. I told her I didn’t want them talking and she was being cut off after I went to him first. After the yelling, the crying, the begging, and him deciding to go to therapy, we are slowly working on this. And it’s better. Continue reading

“My boyfriend’s ex keeps posting stuff about us”

I really need help with this weird situation I am facing because I can’t handle it alone anymore. I am in the middle of trusting issues with my boyfriend because of his crazy ex.

So, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. He broke up with his ex, because (as he said) he didn’t love her anymore, and he fell immediately for me. At the beginning things were fine, and I was sure he loved me from all the things he would do for me. Only someone in love acts like that.

But then like 5 months after we started dating, his ex became part of our lives. She started posting descriptions on Instagram about me all the time. Like, he is still mine, he has been lying to you, he loves me, open your eyes, etc. I saw all that by coincidence. Continue reading

“I’m angry about my ex-girlfriend’s rape”

I’m not exactly sure how to word this, as it’s a fairly odd situation. One that shouldn’t be any of my business whatsoever, but I haven’t been able to sleep for the last two nights because I just feel so much anger and at the same time a deep sense of loss. Not for myself, but for an ex-girlfriend.

She was my first serious girlfriend and we had dated for over a year. I didn’t feel appreciated in the relationship as I was willing to do anything for her and frequently proved it, but I felt as if I never got the same treatment back. Eventually stress kept piling up on me between school work and our relationship, that I told her I needed a breather to get myself figured out. I realize now that I should have just talked to her about my feeling instead of bottling them up. However, she told me that she would wait for me and when I was ready we could begin again. Continue reading

“Should I make a fresh start and leave the love of my life behind?”

I’ve been in a two-year relationship with a girl I’m in love with. We used to argue about little things and disagree a lot. However, I love her more than I have ever loved someone in my life, and I can’t imagine my life without her. She has changed me for the better and taught me valuable things in life that I will never forget.

For the past 6 months, though, we’ve been on-and-off because of our arguments. Recently I started talking to someone else. She is a really nice girl, and we have a lot in common. I thought maybe this could be my fresh start. Continue reading

“He says he’s committed to me, but he wants to keep living with his ex”

My entire relationship has been a series of “do this and be this way, and we won’t have any problems.” I have a hard time being controlled and breaking down walls to trust people. Finally, after all my efforts and much wear and tear emotionally, I have given in to every request.

That is not the problem, though. My issue is the last two years, I’ve been getting serious. After the ring and time invested with one another’s children, I feel betrayed and manipulated. I have been accepting of him living with his ex and kids half of the week. He would assure me they were done over and over again, yet he had me tip-toeing around her because I shouldn’t “rub it in.”

It recently came to light for her that he and I have been together. She is accepting of it now. Only problem is, he admitted to having sex with her monthly to make sure she was being faithful. Now that he wants to stay fully committed to me, and she knows about who I am, he has stopped and doesn’t want to do it. Continue reading

“I found out her mother has breast cancer”

So the story goes… I dated this girl for about 9 months. The first few months were great, our families already knew each other, everyone approved, and life was good.

As the days passed, I started to realize she might not be for me. She got on my nerves and we were just different people. We ended up breaking up.

Two days ago I found out her mother has breast cancer. I text her to say how sorry I was. This news literally shook me to my core. I felt like such a piece of shit that I added to her misery at this trying time. My mother has passed away so it really hit home. We started talking about us and how hurt she is. She asked me not to speak to her anymore if we are really over so she could find closure. I agreed. Continue reading