“I kissed another guy”

Okay well… I’m gonna start with the fact that I am in a relationship and have been for 2 years. We have had a lot of problems, as he was being inappropriate with another girl for half of our relationship over text.

I recently went to a Villa my family own and met this guy, he is 8 years older than me and also has a partner. Well, the night before I came home, he came to say goodbye as my family get along with him and works at our favourite bar. Long story short he kissed me… he cuddled me and held me. It felt nice, I felt something for this guy and he’s now telling me we can only ever be friends?

I feel disgusted by what I’ve done to my partner but I haven’t had any affection in months and it felt nice but now this guy has thrown it in my face. What do I do? I love my boyfriend but I’m not sure if it’s right anymore, and I haven’t stopped thinking about this guy.

 

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“I did something really stupid”

I did something really stupid that I probably shouldn’t have done, and now a friend of mine is extremely angry with me. But first, I should probably explain what led me up to this situation.

I met this boy on Instagram back in August or so. We’ll call him G. G lives in England. We started talking more, and by January, there were plans for him to move over here and live with me. Well, he started talking to his other friends about this plan, and he created a group chat with the friends who were willing to come to America with him. The group consisted of G, his girlfriend, some guy we’ll call J, and K. K was a lovely guy. He was sweet, caring, and very cute. We started PMing each other, one thing led to another, and we were in a relationship. A long distance relationship. With distance came desire. We wanted to see each other, and more of each other (if you know what I mean). It was amazing until April. Continue reading

“I cheated on a guy I wasn’t even dating”

Last week I met a guy (I’ll call him F) through a project in another city and I was fairly certain both of us had fallen in love. He told me I was the kind of girl he could love. The project ended and both of us went back to our hometowns, but because I have an aunt where he lives I said I’ll come visit after he was coming back from his family vacation. We were texting for a few days when he just stopped answering me. He wasn’t even “seeing” my messages on Facebook. I was confused because if he cared more for my feelings he would have explained, if not, we could have still slept together, things that didn’t happen until now.

I tried to let it go and a week after, I invited an old friend (let’s call him B) among others, to my house party. I told everyone they could spend the night, but he was the only one who stayed. We ended up sleeping together, even though we haven’t flirted all night but just because he was suddenly eager and I felt confident in just a hook up. Now I’m almost 100% percent sure he wants more.

But right now I just want to go to F’s home town and send him a message, or try to reach him even sooner. I feel like I cheated on him, because he referred to us as a couple back at the project, still he disappeared. And I need to tell B how things are before I reach F, but it feels like mission impossible. I might have been too nice by accident. I don’t mind ending up alone, I just want no one to get hurt and me and F to talk about us.

P.S. The only (good) reason I think F was ignoring me is because we study in different countries, I’m here just in the Summer. Still too confused he just stopped talking to me.

“He hasn’t said I love you”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months. He is incredible! He is my best friend and we get along very well. I have met his family multiple times and they seem to really like me. He has met mine and they really like him. We discuss buying a home together and he is currently looking for a job to relocate to live in my city (we currently live 2 hours away from each other). The only issue is that he hasn’t said “I love you”.

I know it sounds silly but I truly believe the guy should say it first. I waited until after we hit our year anniversary before I brought it up. He said he very much sees a future with me and hopes his actions speak for his feelings but wasn’t ready to say it as he had been burned in the past. We both agreed we hoped for a better moment than that so it would be happening in the near future. So I waited… Continue reading

“I lied to her and lost her trust”

I’ve been with my partner for 10 months now. We were in a long distance relationship for 7 months. I moved out of state and dropped everything to be with her. It was my choice I was willing to risk it all. We have had a really good relationship. We laughed together, we went out, we stayed in, we were strong. We had a great sex life. Everything seemed to be ok. But lingering in the back of my mind was the fact that she was 50/50 on marriage. Continue reading

“I don’t feel like my boyfriend appreciates me”

We are in a long distance relationship for the summer and he rarely makes time for me. He says we should Skype but when I bring it up he always has a reason to blow me off. When I travel a long distance to see him (I always go to him, he never comes to me), he spends the majority of the time playing video games or watching videos while I wait for him to finish (he never does). I try to show interest in his hobbies, but he always puts them before me.  Continue reading

“Should I have given him my details?”

I am starting college in a new country in September and unfortunately my boyfriend of over two years will be staying in Ireland. While I was abroad looking for accommodation I bumped into another Irish student who had just finished his first year there.

He asked me to write down my details and he would give me advice on things he wish he knew before starting college. I told my boyfriend and he got extremely jealous. He is making me feel like I did something extremely wrong, yet everyone I have talked to say that he should be supportive and happy that i have made a new contact in this strange new country.

Am I wrong for giving this boy my details or is he wrong for being so jealous over an innocent act?

“My sexy teasing is making him upset”

Hello! So me and my boyfriend are going through a long distance relationship right now, and we’re having a difficult time trying to get through it. One of the most recent bumps that we went through was that sometimes I tease him too much. And when I mean tease I mean wear sexy clothes, give him shows on Skype or FaceTime, or talk dirty to him. Before we went on the long distance thing we had sex regularly, and it has always been fun.

When we were together we would always tease each other and no one ever complained. But the reason why he thinks it’s too much sometimes is because he just misses me a lot. I understand what he is trying to say but my thing is that I don’t want to tease him if it’s just going to lead to him being turned off. Whenever I try to give him a show it always ends in us being sad or misunderstood. I don’t want to stop and he doesn’t either, we want to have fun, but we just don’t know how to tell each other “that’s enough” without making the other person feel bad.

“Is it a rebound relationship?”

My head is spinning and I don’t know that what my mind wants, is actually what it wants. I also don’t know what is the right thing to do in my situation. Help.

About 8 months ago I moved away from Cali to New York leaving my girlfriend of 4 years and we started to do the distance. Our relationship started to go sour and my girlfriend started blaming me for the reason things were going bad because I was pursuing my dreams. She wanted to break-up multiple times but I guess I convinced her to stay with me and maybe it will get better. Continue reading