“Is it a rebound relationship?”

My head is spinning and I don’t know that what my mind wants, is actually what it wants. I also don’t know what is the right thing to do in my situation. Help.

About 8 months ago I moved away from Cali to New York leaving my girlfriend of 4 years and we started to do the distance. Our relationship started to go sour and my girlfriend started blaming me for the reason things were going bad because I was pursuing my dreams. She wanted to break-up multiple times but I guess I convinced her to stay with me and maybe it will get better. Continue reading

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“My boyfriend quit college”

I need help in determining if I am in a dead end relationship. It started in June 2016. I started talking to this guy on Facebook. We both attended the same college and planned on meeting for the first time then. We were pretty much in a relationship when we first met. We have been dating 7 months now.

Last fall semester, he told me he hadn’t been going to class about half way through the semester. After telling his parents, he was warned if he did the same thing in the spring, he would move back home. Which is 3 and 1/2 hours from our school. So the spring semester comes around and he does the same thing. However, he told me in March but it’s been since February he hasn’t been going to class.

He has made specific lies about how he’s in class and has homework and lying to me for months. He tells his parents and his parents tell him he has to withdraw and go back home. So now he is at home and he is choosing to work until he can come back to school. I love him but I don’t feel like I can trust him and also with the distance and his job, I am not sure I will be able to see him as often as I’d like to. Help.

“My friend confessed his love for me”

About two years ago, I met this wonderful girl a few states over. It was incredible. We have the same taste in music, movies, shows, plays, and we work so well with each other. We even started saying we loved each other before we started dating. It took a while, though, quite a few in-person visits, before we actually became a couple. Most of my friends were happy for me, except one. He just seemed neutral about it, which I brushed off as jealousy (since he hadn’t been in a relationship yet) or the fact that he still had some hangups about lgbtqia+ relationships, which I can understand to a point. Continue reading

“The biggest problem is that he’s not Christian”

I’m currently in college and have been in a LDR (~3,742 miles – overseas) for over 3 1/2 years now. I’m very happy, but the biggest problem is that he’s not Christian… There’s another guy, though, who goes to the church I go to while I’m at college. He’s super sweet, but he rarely talks to me.

Once in a blue moon we’ll have a five minute conversation, but I think he might be kind of reluctant to talk to me because of the boyfriend I have, or he’s just super shy (don’t get me wrong here, but I think he likes me because every now and then I’ll catch him glancing at me and what not). Now my current boyfriend is trying to come to Jesus, but it’s seeming to be really difficult for him. I just don’t know what to do. If I could put qualities of both of them into another guy, I would, but I can’t. I don’t want to give up everything I’ve invested with my current boyfriend, but I don’t want to never experience the other guy either.

“Should I go to my sister’s wedding?”

I’m in a long distance relationship and we plan out our visits months ahead of time because we know what long weekends we will have to see each other.

My sister broke up with her boyfriend in August, was dating a new guy two weeks later, and 3 months later in November she was engaged to the new guy. They announced they would be married a year from then. Suddenly in December, they announced they would be getting married in 6 weeks. (Some background… this new boyfriend got her involved in Amway, a company known for its multilevel marketing aka a pyramid scheme.) We did our research and the company works more in your honor as a married couple. So our consensus – they are marrying such short notice because of their jobs BUT they are telling everyone it’s so soon because they want a small wedding with immediate family only. Continue reading

“My lovely boyfriend turned into a real jerk”

Please help me. This is my first serious boyfriend. We’ve been together for a little over a year. He and I are in a strong long distance relationship, or so I thought. He moved away from me in Summer 2016. It’s been so amazing up until this point. We trusted each other tremendously and had planned a future and everything you could imagine a love stricken couple would do.

After this Christmas, he suddenly stopped talking to me. Maybe the occasional, awkward ‘hi’ if I was lucky. All of the sudden, my lovely boyfriend turned into a real jerk. He would ignore me after I called him out on the issue, and he still does. Flash forward a month and it’s really rocky. We still talk, but it’s so awkward. It’s nothing like before Christmas. I’m seeing a side to him that I don’t like. Recently he has been denying the fact that I love him. He blows it off. I don’t say cutesy little things anymore or tell him I love him because then he’ll ignore me. I need help. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to assume things and be THAT girlfriend, but I’m fearing the worst. Please help.

“I cannot get this girl out of my head”

I met this girl online 4 years ago, when I was 16 and she was 14. I fell in love with her, we talked every day, but never saw each other. She lives in Idaho, I live in Oregon. Back then, we couldn’t see each other cause of the distance, and there was no way our parents would take us to see each other. It was definitely a romantic relationship, she was perfect personality wise, and so beautiful.

After 2 years, we had a falling out, I feel because we literally never saw each other. I didn’t have a job, could barely drive to the store, and tried keeping everything a secret from everybody. She’s legit and real, there’s 100% no chance of her being not who she says she is, we’ve Facetimed, Snapchatted thousands of times, talked/seen many friends + their social medias and everything- she’s real. I still love her, I still care about her, I still think about her not every day, but definitely a lot. We’ve talked on and off ever since, but I haven’t heard from her in at least a
year now. Continue reading

“My girlfriend cuddled with another guy”

My long-distance girlfriend gave me her Facebook login because I had a couple of doubts and came clean to her. She let me log in to it, but told me to stay off her friends chat. I did at first, but then curiosity got me. I went back about 4 weeks and I found that the guy she stopped talking to had cuddled with her every time she hung out with him at his house (About 4-6 times). A couple of the times, they kissed or made out as well, I asked her about him, and she said that they don’t talk or hang out and didn’t ever do anything remotely sexual. Do I call her out on it? Do I stay quiet and believe her?

“If my current relationship fails, should I try again with my ex?”

I’ve been online dating someone for a year now.

That aside, in 2011 when I was 16, I’d started online dating my ex. In 2013, the day I turned 18, I dropped out of school and bought a bus ticket to where he lived. It was great at first, but declined quickly as soon as trouble arose. For whatever reason, I’d stuck around for a few years after and only moved out and back in with my dad June of this year. I did love my ex, and I was sad to leave, but there was so much bitterness nothing could be done.

Back to my current LDR, I do deeply love this boy. However, I cry a lot since leaving my ex’s place, and every time I talk to him (which isn’t often, but sometimes he lets me know, because we did have a life together). Continue reading

“I’m in love with my best friend, who lives in New Zealand”

I live in America and I have a best friend who lives in New Zealand. We have been talking for four years. I am in love with him and he feels the same. I am hesitant to try long distance right now, though, in the past I haven’t been. In the past he was scared, and now its me who is afraid. We have been besties through a lot, so I know our friendship can survive a lot, but I am scared if we broke up we might not be friends, and that would basically be unbearable for me. He does wanna move here, but doesn’t have the money at this point, and it would be a year or more before he did.

I really do love him – he’s great to talk to and gives good advice, and I can tell he really cares about, and loves me. Should I try long distance???