“My mom makes me feel guilty for wanting to move”

I’m 24, almost 25 and my boyfriend is 26 and we’re in a long term, long distance relationship. My bf lives in New York with his parents, and I live in Texas with my parents and siblings. For a year and a half now we have been planning for me to move to New York in the summer of 2018.

We have plans and goals for when I move there, and we told my parents together this month, about me moving me but my mom is completely against it, because she doesn’t like the decision, so she makes me feel guilty for it.

 

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“I need to get over my ex”

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost 2 years ago. We were dating for 2.5 years, mostly a long distance relationship. I found out that he went on a business trip with an female co-worker and they shared the same room. When I asked him why he didn’t tell me, he said there were 2 beds and they didn’t do anything.

Long story short, we broke up, he blocked my Facebook and still does. After a year or so, he emailed me to catch up, but I said nothing. Anyway, I’m dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now and we are very happily in love. However, whenever it came to him or I saw his Instagram post and his girlfriends, there is a feeling that I cannot describe. But I know it’s definitely not love, not friendship, nor happiness.

So I want to ask for advice how to get rid of that feeling, because I know it is unfair for my boyfriend, if my mind still thinks about my ex, even just for 1 sec. I don’t want to see my ex ever again if by any chance we meet, I want myself to walk past him like I don’t know who he is. Please give me some advice.

“He kissed another girl”

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 7 months, we’re young (17) and each other’s first loves. He was a border at a school in my town but had to move back in with his family so we’re now in a long distance relationship (4 hours away).

He recently told me he had feelings for another girl at his new school and they kissed a couple days ago. I’m really worried about being hurt again and I’m not sure if I can trust him again. He seems genuinely sorry, has admitted everything, we’ve had long conversations about it as I went to visit him and he’s even messaged the girl (who really likes him) saying how he f**ked up and doesn’t want anything else to do with her. I’m just so lost and hurt, someone help or share advice. Thank you xoxo

“Do I tell him why I broke up with him?”

My ex boyfriend asked when we broke up, if I could eventually tell him what he did wrong. In the same conversation, I learned that he has asked this of all his exes and that he does absolutely nothing to fix those problems.

I’ve been tempted to tell him what he’s done wrong,  but always didn’t, because I doubt he’ll try to improve himself in any way. I always try and take the high road even if it is rough and I don’t want to do it. Continue reading

“He hasn’t spoken to me since I moved home”

I met my boyfriend on an online game and we live in 2 different states. I lived with him for 2 and a half months, but unable to get a job to stay with him in his state, and eventually moved back home.

While I was with him we got into a pretty big fight (I was waaayy too drunk and don’t really remember it, sadly) but we slowly solved the problems and I completely got over it. A month goes by, no fighting or anything but he isn’t as loving towards me as he used to be. No intimacy at all. It felt like I was living with a friend. But he says repeatedly that he is over it, it is irrelevant, etc.

About 2 or 3 weeks later he takes me to the airport and I fly home. It has now been 2 weeks that I have been home and I haven’t spoken to him. I text and call him, maybe every couple of days and he will never return my call or text back. He is my second love but I love him more than I loved my first. I know I could be overreacting and that I jumped around in my story a lot. I’ve lost way too much sleep over this and it hurts, I’ve been trying since I was with him to mend our relationship and fix what I broke in the fight we had, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him. Any help is appreciated.

“I kissed another guy”

Okay well… I’m gonna start with the fact that I am in a relationship and have been for 2 years. We have had a lot of problems, as he was being inappropriate with another girl for half of our relationship over text.

I recently went to a Villa my family own and met this guy, he is 8 years older than me and also has a partner. Well, the night before I came home, he came to say goodbye as my family get along with him and works at our favourite bar. Long story short he kissed me… he cuddled me and held me. It felt nice, I felt something for this guy and he’s now telling me we can only ever be friends?

I feel disgusted by what I’ve done to my partner but I haven’t had any affection in months and it felt nice but now this guy has thrown it in my face. What do I do? I love my boyfriend but I’m not sure if it’s right anymore, and I haven’t stopped thinking about this guy.

 

“I did something really stupid”

I did something really stupid that I probably shouldn’t have done, and now a friend of mine is extremely angry with me. But first, I should probably explain what led me up to this situation.

I met this boy on Instagram back in August or so. We’ll call him G. G lives in England. We started talking more, and by January, there were plans for him to move over here and live with me. Well, he started talking to his other friends about this plan, and he created a group chat with the friends who were willing to come to America with him. The group consisted of G, his girlfriend, some guy we’ll call J, and K. K was a lovely guy. He was sweet, caring, and very cute. We started PMing each other, one thing led to another, and we were in a relationship. A long distance relationship. With distance came desire. We wanted to see each other, and more of each other (if you know what I mean). It was amazing until April. Continue reading

“I cheated on a guy I wasn’t even dating”

Last week I met a guy (I’ll call him F) through a project in another city and I was fairly certain both of us had fallen in love. He told me I was the kind of girl he could love. The project ended and both of us went back to our hometowns, but because I have an aunt where he lives I said I’ll come visit after he was coming back from his family vacation. We were texting for a few days when he just stopped answering me. He wasn’t even “seeing” my messages on Facebook. I was confused because if he cared more for my feelings he would have explained, if not, we could have still slept together, things that didn’t happen until now.

I tried to let it go and a week after, I invited an old friend (let’s call him B) among others, to my house party. I told everyone they could spend the night, but he was the only one who stayed. We ended up sleeping together, even though we haven’t flirted all night but just because he was suddenly eager and I felt confident in just a hook up. Now I’m almost 100% percent sure he wants more.

But right now I just want to go to F’s home town and send him a message, or try to reach him even sooner. I feel like I cheated on him, because he referred to us as a couple back at the project, still he disappeared. And I need to tell B how things are before I reach F, but it feels like mission impossible. I might have been too nice by accident. I don’t mind ending up alone, I just want no one to get hurt and me and F to talk about us.

P.S. The only (good) reason I think F was ignoring me is because we study in different countries, I’m here just in the Summer. Still too confused he just stopped talking to me.

“He hasn’t said I love you”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months. He is incredible! He is my best friend and we get along very well. I have met his family multiple times and they seem to really like me. He has met mine and they really like him. We discuss buying a home together and he is currently looking for a job to relocate to live in my city (we currently live 2 hours away from each other). The only issue is that he hasn’t said “I love you”.

I know it sounds silly but I truly believe the guy should say it first. I waited until after we hit our year anniversary before I brought it up. He said he very much sees a future with me and hopes his actions speak for his feelings but wasn’t ready to say it as he had been burned in the past. We both agreed we hoped for a better moment than that so it would be happening in the near future. So I waited… Continue reading

“I lied to her and lost her trust”

I’ve been with my partner for 10 months now. We were in a long distance relationship for 7 months. I moved out of state and dropped everything to be with her. It was my choice I was willing to risk it all. We have had a really good relationship. We laughed together, we went out, we stayed in, we were strong. We had a great sex life. Everything seemed to be ok. But lingering in the back of my mind was the fact that she was 50/50 on marriage. Continue reading