“I did something really stupid”

I did something really stupid that I probably shouldn’t have done, and now a friend of mine is extremely angry with me. But first, I should probably explain what led me up to this situation.

I met this boy on Instagram back in August or so. We’ll call him G. G lives in England. We started talking more, and by January, there were plans for him to move over here and live with me. Well, he started talking to his other friends about this plan, and he created a group chat with the friends who were willing to come to America with him. The group consisted of G, his girlfriend, some guy we’ll call J, and K. K was a lovely guy. He was sweet, caring, and very cute. We started PMing each other, one thing led to another, and we were in a relationship. A long distance relationship. With distance came desire. We wanted to see each other, and more of each other (if you know what I mean). It was amazing until April. Continue reading

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“Is this how kissing is supposed to be?”

This guy I’ve never heard of popped up to me on Facebook. We spoke a few times and he made it evident that he wanted to kiss me and I told him I’d never done it before.

So tipsy me texts him to come to this party I’m at. I meet him out the front. I told him I didn’t really want to kiss him, I just wanted a peck. So I literally go in for a peck and somehow his tongue was like licking my lips. Is this how kissing is supposed to be? I’m quite scared and ended up blocking him when I got home. Did I do it wrong? I’m so confused! I just wanted a peck on the lips and this guy went for tongue but my mouth was completely closed.

“I’m not lazy, I’m insecure”

I’m a college senior with an English major and a music minor. I’ve finished 75 of the required credits, I have 49 credits left to graduate, that means I’m taking 18 credits in the Fall of 2017, I’ll have to take 18 credits in the Spring of 2018, and at least 13 in my last semester to graduate in the Fall of 2018.

I also was born with Spastic Hemiplegic CP, and I suffer from dyscalculia as a result. I tried to go to the Disabilities specialist for my school with documentation of my disability to see if I could get out of the math core, but they wouldn’t budge, so I have to take College Applications Math (Finite Math) to graduate, even though it’s likely that I’ll never use it again afterwards in my life. I tried to take the three credit Finite Math class, and even got tutoring. But my grade wasn’t getting above an F in the class, even with all that help, so I dropped it. Now, I’m going to be taking the four credit Finite Math class, which is slower and covers some remedial topics. But I’m still not sure I’m going to be able to do it, even with the best tutoring. Continue reading

“I cheated on a guy I wasn’t even dating”

Last week I met a guy (I’ll call him F) through a project in another city and I was fairly certain both of us had fallen in love. He told me I was the kind of girl he could love. The project ended and both of us went back to our hometowns, but because I have an aunt where he lives I said I’ll come visit after he was coming back from his family vacation. We were texting for a few days when he just stopped answering me. He wasn’t even “seeing” my messages on Facebook. I was confused because if he cared more for my feelings he would have explained, if not, we could have still slept together, things that didn’t happen until now.

I tried to let it go and a week after, I invited an old friend (let’s call him B) among others, to my house party. I told everyone they could spend the night, but he was the only one who stayed. We ended up sleeping together, even though we haven’t flirted all night but just because he was suddenly eager and I felt confident in just a hook up. Now I’m almost 100% percent sure he wants more.

But right now I just want to go to F’s home town and send him a message, or try to reach him even sooner. I feel like I cheated on him, because he referred to us as a couple back at the project, still he disappeared. And I need to tell B how things are before I reach F, but it feels like mission impossible. I might have been too nice by accident. I don’t mind ending up alone, I just want no one to get hurt and me and F to talk about us.

P.S. The only (good) reason I think F was ignoring me is because we study in different countries, I’m here just in the Summer. Still too confused he just stopped talking to me.

“I love him, but he’s lazy with no ambition”

Hello, first time here. My boyfriend and I are both 21, dating for a little over 2 years now. I am in school and have future goals, while working part time and freelancing for myself. On the other hand, my boyfriend has been jobless for over a year now, not in school and lacks motivation and ambition.

I love him very, very much, but this is really starting to bug me as I think it would for anyone. I just do not know what to do anymore, we have talked about it many times and have gotten into arguments about it as well because he gets annoyed or defensive. Continue reading

“He’s talking marriage but I just don’t trust him”

I need some advice! My boyfriend and I have been together a total of almost a year and a half and just a few months ago he had “out of no where” broke up with me for about a month . It all started when his phone lit up and he received a text from a girl talking about what each of them like to do (like go hiking). They seemed to be talking about things in order to get to know each other.

I am all about having friends so I have never really went too far into anything , but this struck me as a little odd, so I confronted him and asked him to see the texts and he promptly said “no”, put his phone away and turned it around on me and exclaimed that if I trusted him I wouldn’t be asking him about it. Continue reading

“My best friend hates my boyfriend”

One of my best girl friends has started acting a bit suspicious when it comes to getting together with others. It’s starting to feel like she is tactfully excluding my boyfriend and I’m wondering who is in the wrong and how to address this situation.

Let me start off by saying, I love a girls night! I’m perfectly content ditching our boyfriends, fiances, and husbands for a night just us girls. This is not the issue. The problem is other times, when we are all going out (brunch at a restaurant, drinks at a bar, a get together at a mutual friend’s house) where there will be people of both genders, she makes it a point to exclude my boyfriend. I’m not sure how it affects her if my boyfriend is there or not. Let me give some examples:

Brunch with a group of friends, she told me “no boyfriends allowed” per one of the men attending’s request. I found this odd and decided not to go. Funny thing is, we actually ended up meeting the said man before the brunch and he asked why we weren’t joining them.

A bunch of our friends are all getting drinks at an outdoor bar this weekend, there is a Facebook event for it. She invited me and the other girls in our friend group but none of our boyfriends, even though they are friends with a lot of the people attending.

There have been many situations like these and it doesn’t seem to be just my boyfriend she excludes, 2 of my other girl friends have boyfriends as well and she excludes them the same.

My question is, if other guys are going to be at these events, why is it an issue if we bring our SOs? These are public places and they have every right to be there. I don’t really understand how our partner’s presence affects her, besides the fact that we aren’t available to make small talk with other men, who think we’re single.

Are we both in the wrong? Or just one of us? Is there something I should do to address this moving forward?

“He hasn’t said I love you”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months. He is incredible! He is my best friend and we get along very well. I have met his family multiple times and they seem to really like me. He has met mine and they really like him. We discuss buying a home together and he is currently looking for a job to relocate to live in my city (we currently live 2 hours away from each other). The only issue is that he hasn’t said “I love you”.

I know it sounds silly but I truly believe the guy should say it first. I waited until after we hit our year anniversary before I brought it up. He said he very much sees a future with me and hopes his actions speak for his feelings but wasn’t ready to say it as he had been burned in the past. We both agreed we hoped for a better moment than that so it would be happening in the near future. So I waited… Continue reading

“He’s overweight, has poor hygiene, but I like him!”

I’m dating this guy, we’ve known each other for 8 months now. We started hanging out as friends, but approx. 2 months ago we kissed for the first time, and since then it’s starting to get kinda serious. It’s funny because we weren’t expecting it, it just happened for some reasons.

Problem: I don’t find him attractive. He has a cute face, but he is quite overweight and doesn’t seem to take care of himself at all. And trust me, I’m not that picky when it comes to looks and body hygiene… Continue reading

“He dumped me when it made his friendship awkward”

This is a long post, but it’s a long story.  I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally, and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he’s also in love with a girl at work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feelings, and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.

Enter my messy life. Continue reading