Got dating advice, yep. Now … need personal dating help?

Hi there! My name is Dennis, and I’m the creator of LemonVibe. You may not know me (nor do you even care to), but I’ve been at this whole dating-and-relationships-writing thing for almost 10 years now. I’m also a teacher and currently in the process of becoming a Marriage and Family Therapist.

And now, I’m taking all my years as a teacher/professional speaker/interpersonal communications guru/dating and relationships writer/dating advice giver, and mashing them up into a new service called Social Savvy Sage.

On the surface, I’m putting myself up as a dating coach. Woot woot. Okay, yeah.

But … unlike so many other dating coaches out there, my mission is to help people develop their fundamental social skills first, rather than offer generic dating advice or strategies. As my own personal experience and professional background have shown, if you hone your social savvy first, your natural attractiveness will follow, and your dating life can flourish without having to rely on gimmicks or fakery.

So if you feel you — or anyone you know — can benefit from a bit social skills coaching, feel free to check out the site!

And if you want to be super-cool, you can also follow me on Twitter or like my Facebook page.

“Concerned mom!”

Hello! My daughter recently got pregnant and decided to terminate the pregnancy about 2 weeks ago. (we have respected her choice although it was very hard.) She has been with her boyfriend for about a year and we are meeting him for the first time soon, as he is coming to stay with us for 4 days.

We already let him know we want to discuss the matter with him because we are very concerned about how much he cares about her. He has cheated and given her an std once before and obviously they do not have safe sex or a healthy relationship. Any advice on how to have a productive discussion and questions would be so helpful!

 

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“I’m fantasizing about another man”

I have a problem.. so I’ve been with my bf for a while now, we dated for 7 months, broke up for a while, and now we’re back together for almost 6 months. I got back with him because I thought I loved him, but recently I feel like our relationship is falling apart.

Everything he does annoys me and makes me feel unwanted and I keep fantasizing about another man, and I also want to talk/tell everything to the other man instead of my boyfriend. I don’t know what this means considering I haven’t talked to the other man in six months since me and bf got back together, so why am I thinking about him so much now? And what do I do about my boyfriend? I’m so confused and I don’t want to leave him because I feel like I’m making the wrong decision. Please help!

 

“It hurts to think that I’m not good enough for him”

I don’t know what to do anymore. My boyfriend won’t propose to me, and we’ve been together for over a year. I am currently 5 months pregnant with his child, and even then it seems he doesn’t want to. He is 31, and I am 25. He and I are both divorced; however, he proposed and married his ex within 1 year of being with her, even though she didn’t have his child.

Apparently it ended badly though. Anyways, I am heartbroken, and it gets worse when he mentions how marriage is “just a paper.” He says he wants to marry me someday…but I don’t know when :/ He also goes out a lot on his free time and drinks/smokes medicinal weed, which I am not a huge fan of. I am two weeks away from graduating with my bachelor of science in criminal justice and then heading to law school. I’m an honor student and have a promising future. It just hurts to think that sometimes I may just not be good enough for this man. Whatever happens, my child will always be my first and only priority. Any advice on this situation would be greatly appreciated.

“It’s her first time and I want to make it special for her”

I’m 16 right now and I need advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 and a half months. We haven’t made love yet, but I can tell she wants to . As a matter of fact she even told me she did, but we haven’t yet.

I know it’s her first time, so how do I make it special for her? I love her with all my heart and I would love it if I could have this be the most memorable moment… any ideas beside the usual candles and rose petals??

“I’m starting to have doubts”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and the last year has been long distance. He is without a doubt my favorite person in my life and the best guy I know. We have so much fun together and he is incredibly kind and thoughtful – the type of guy many women dream about marrying and starting a family with.

He is completely devoted to me, but for some reason I can’t get doubts out of my head that something is not right. Even though I really love him, I’m not as attracted to him as I would like to be. This has caused a problem with our sex life because I don’t particularly want to kiss him or have sex with him. Continue reading

“Am I a bad person for hating my mom’s boyfriend?”

Well, let me tell you my story. Ever since I could remember, my parents fought a lot, the times they got along were really rare, and so precious memories I’ll always keep. Then they got divorced, which was not really that surprising. I got to see my dad about once every other month. Like two years later, my mom got a boyfriend. Which was cool and all, since it meant my mom was getting better. Continue reading

“Is he into the idea of me?”

I have a parent who creates online content and has a semi decent following. Recently he introduced me to a friend of his (same age) who has been a long time fan of his work. However this guy seems to have made a lot of effort for me, despite the fact we don’t actually know each other.

He waited a year to talk to me after he was initially introduced to me (online) while I was already in a relationship. Then we started talking a little bit when that relationship with my ex ended. Within those 2 months, he’s flown internationally to visit me, and then my dad. So we met for the first time. In person. He told me he was into me, and looking at transferring schools to either mine or my dad’s city.

This seems excessive. I’d be uncomfortable with someone I’ve known for a long time going to this kind of effort for me, but someone I’ve only been talking to for a few months? And this is someone that honestly doesn’t even know the start of who I am.

I wonder if he’s really into me at all or into the idea of me being my father’s daughter.

Do these seem like worrying signs, or am I reading too far into all this?

 

“We lost contact then she messaged me on my birthday”

Hi guys, first time I have used anything like this, but I need advice really bad. I am currently halfway through being 18 and breezing through University life.

6 months ago, on my 18th birthday, I got a message from a girl I used to be really close friends with, and it was odd as I had not seen or had contact with her for 6 years. Obviously, it was my 18th birthday and I was a little drunk and as a result, I messed up the conversation and it was awkward and cringeworthy to read back the next morning. Continue reading

“I want to break up with him, but he pays my bills”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now. We took a break a few months ago and I started seeing someone else. I fell in love with the other guy, we had the same goals but the other guy just wasn’t stable. He did drugs and was unemployed, but we clicked.

I got back with my boyfriend and the other guy was devastated, and honestly I was too, but I also loved my boyfriend a lot and the plan was always to just be a break. Anyways, a few months have passed and I just don’t feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. I still love him a lot and the thought of not being with him hurts like hell, but I can’t be intimate with him without thinking about the other guy.

I feel so guilty, and I know I should probably break up with him, but he pays most of my bills and I’m working part time so I can finish school. Without my boyfriend, I wouldn’t be able to work things out financially. I don’t want to keep delaying this break up… but I don’t know what else to do.