“I get nauseous every time we get sexual”

I need help. So I’ve been seeing this girl for months now and everything with her is perfect, until we get into the bedroom. Every time without fail anything gets even remotely sexual with her, I start to feel REALLY nauseous, to the point where I have on multiple occasions run off and had to throw up. It could be anything from fooling around on the couch, to even just lying next to her in bed.

We’re both virgins, but want to get into the more real stuff soon. I’m worried this will get in the way, and could use some advise. I’m a perfectly healthy person, and it is in fact rare for me to be ill or to throw up, so this is all really confusing for me. Might be worth mentioning I get this feeling when I’m with her in a restaurant too, and we’re just finishing food, a very sudden nausea feeling which I can’t ignore and am forced to run off quickly to the toilet.

“My girlfriend cuddled with another guy”

My long-distance girlfriend gave me her Facebook login because I had a couple of doubts and came clean to her. She let me log in to it, but told me to stay off her friends chat. I did at first, but then curiosity got me. I went back about 4 weeks and I found that the guy she stopped talking to had cuddled with her every time she hung out with him at his house (About 4-6 times). A couple of the times, they kissed or made out as well, I asked her about him, and she said that they don’t talk or hang out and didn’t ever do anything remotely sexual. Do I call her out on it? Do I stay quiet and believe her?

“I’m breastfeeding and don’t want my husband touching my breasts”

My husband and I have three kids, and I am still breastfeeding the youngest. I’ve requested that while I’m still breastfeeding, I really don’t want him to touch my breasts. They just have a different sensitivity right now, and it doesn’t feel good at all. In fact, it puts me out of the mood almost instantly if anything touches my nipples, to the point that I don’t even go bra-less at night.

This being our third child, these limitations are nothing new. The last time we had sex, though, he kept reaching for my breasts. I was trying to subtly push him away, but he wasn’t getting the message, or at least was pretending he doesn’t. Now I don’t know whether to mention it to him, but it’s been several weeks, and I still DREAD having sex because I think he might do it again. Continue reading

“My husband has an obsessed fanboy”

When I met my now-husband two years ago, he had a friend whom he had met while dating his ex (her cousin). Sweet guy. Young and naive. They race cars and karts, and they enjoy working on them together.

Anyway, fast-forward to my wedding and our new marriage. We have a bbq every week, and this guy comes along and brings nothing. No drinks or meat. When I spoke to my husband, he said no, that John helps him a lot when it comes to racing and building, so he doesn’t mind.

I mind. I think this boy is a complete sponge.

Then to compound on that, I have not had one week without this guy coming over a minimum of twice a week. Sometimes it goes up to 4-5 times!

I’ve complained to my husband, and he has just told John that we are a new marriage and he must give us space, not that he must start contributing and stop sponging. Continue reading

“He stole my car keys, then tried to make me give him a BJ to get them back”

About three months ago, a guy from school/work asked me out to dinner, as a date, presumably. I gladly accepted, as this was a man I was growing fond of. It all started out wonderfully, mindless chatter, stories from work, and at once, I noticed a very protective aura coming from him. Even as we walked out, he was latched to me in an endearing way.

Things changed quickly. Right off the bat, he made it 100% clear he was a sexual person. Every time I wanted to come over just to CASUALLY hang out, he would grab me as I approached, kiss me, and begin to feel me up/grope in his driveway. Any location of the body, you name it. Nothing affectionate, nothing tender, and often times, bruises were left on my chest from his grip and painful bite marks on my shoulders, that stung a day later. I brushed it off, figuring that was natural in the moment. Continue reading

“My boyfriend recorded secret videos of all his exes”

I recently was going through my boyfriend’s external hard drive (we’ve been together for 5 years on and off). I first found a bunch of videos and pictures of all of his exes he had kept. I then found a few he recorded of them that they obviously didn’t know were being filmed.

It made me stick to my stomach. I dug a little more and found a video where he had done the same thing to me. I made copies of everything and deleted them off his external drive. He now knows I know everything and is trying to apologize and make it up to me.

When he did it, it was at the beginning of our relationship, and he swears he would never do it again. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if all the tears and trying to kiss my ass are because he truly gets how upset and disgusted I am (it’s to the point that things trigger me and I can’t stop shaking and crying), or if he is really just trying to make things right, because he knows I can turn him in to the police. Continue reading

“My boyfriend won’t text me photos when he’s out with his friends”

My boyfriend goes out to his friend’s house almost every weekend. That’s okay to me.  Previously (ages ago) I asked him to take a photo at their place, and he did, very reluctantly.

Yesterday he went out again, and I asked him to take a photo for me, and he completely refused and ignored me straight afterwards.

He came back today, and I asked him why he refused. After a while he snapped and said, “Then do you want me to just message you 24/7? Just take random pictures while I’m chilling with my friends just for you?” Continue reading

“My best friend is throwing her own party on my birthday”

My best friend is going to have her massive birthday house party on my birthday, and I don’t know what I should do. I am obviously not okay with it, but I don’t know if I’m just being overly dramatic?

We had recently talked about our dreams of having a massive party together. Then she asked me out of the blue in front of some of our other friends if she coulc have her party on my birthday, so I was obviously kind of shocked and just said, “yeah that’s fine,” because I didn’t want to sound like a spoiled brat in front of our friends. Continue reading

“My fiance is still seeing his ex-wife”

We’re sitting here talking, and he’s texting her. He doesn’t think I know, but I do. He changes her name to the person he is talking about or “talking to” the most that day and acts like the conversation is still going on.

She is his “ex”-wife (and I use that term loosely), and I am his fiancee. He has told me stories of how horrible she was to him, and how she “bamboozled” him into marriage. Yet he still talks to her. I know a woman’s intuition is usually spot on, but not only do I have that “gut feeling,” I have the proof to back it up. I know what time he actually gets off work, but he doesn’t know I am aware of the time.

H stays with me every night and talks to me all day long, but I know when he is talking from work, and talking when he is with her. We have dubbed the day I found out about him being married (we have been together for over a year — again — now, and this is a recent issue from August) to be called “D-day.”  He has “walked away” from everything he owns and knows, and I know that he hasn’t. Continue reading

“If my current relationship fails, should I try again with my ex?”

I’ve been online dating someone for a year now.

That aside, in 2011 when I was 16, I’d started online dating my ex. In 2013, the day I turned 18, I dropped out of school and bought a bus ticket to where he lived. It was great at first, but declined quickly as soon as trouble arose. For whatever reason, I’d stuck around for a few years after and only moved out and back in with my dad June of this year. I did love my ex, and I was sad to leave, but there was so much bitterness nothing could be done.

Back to my current LDR, I do deeply love this boy. However, I cry a lot since leaving my ex’s place, and every time I talk to him (which isn’t often, but sometimes he lets me know, because we did have a life together). Continue reading