“I’m starting to have feelings for another guy”

So, my boyfriend and I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and he is working two jobs, which is nice, because he is supporting us. He is constantly home late, around 11pm, and I’m sleeping, since I have my own job in the am. I know he is not cheating because we share a car and often times I have to pick him up, however he is never home.

In the meantime, I have been hanging out with a friend who is a guy, and there seems to be some feelings there. My friend has admitted he likes me and there has been some cuddling. It really messed with my head and I not sure what to do. I’m not sure I even like my friend, or he is filling the void. I’m still young – I’m 20.

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“I love the person she used to be, but I’m not sure she exists anymore”

I met a girl when I was 14 years old, and I’m gonna sound like a dumb kid, but I was pretty certain that I was gonna spend the rest of my life with her. That was not the case. We broke up after about two-and-a-half years, and it didn’t end well.

I ended up moving states to create a bit of distance. We’ve been on again, off again for almost three years since we broke up, only seeing each other maybe twice in that time. We’ve left partners for each other, and for some delusional reason, think we are both meant to be together, even though the odds are stacked against us.

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“I don’t trust my girlfriend’s guy friend”

I have a girlfriend who has lied to me about an old friend. In the beginning of our relationship she told me about him and said that they stopped being friends because he proclaimed his love for her and she didn’t feel the same way. For awhile this was true — she never talked to him or anything and he was never a concern. A few months ago she started talking to him again, and he said that he just wanted to be friends and I was fine with this because I trusted her. It made me a little uncomfortable but nothing too extreme and I told her how I felt and we were fine, no problems.

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“My boyfriend won’t marry me unless I lose weight”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time now. When we began dating, I weighed close to 210 pounds, then dropped to 140, and am now back up to 168.

Recently, he let me know that he doesn’t want to get married until I am in better shape. Obviously, this crushed me, but, he said marriage is forever, and he does not want to have the urge to cheat on me with women who are in better shape.

In the mean time, he assures me he is committed to me, and is very much in love.

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“I like this guy, but dating is against my religion”

So, in my religion, dating is strictly prohibited. I graduated high school this past June, and I met this boy in eighth grade. He is such a sweetheart and we both have dreams of playing professional soccer, and I know he likes me a lot, I do, too. He’s gonna be a senior this year while I start college, but I skipped a grade, so he’s older than me by two days. I am commuting, and he is now homeschooled so he can focus on soccer, so it could work out.

He’s in Germany right now training with a junior pro team and he says he thinks he’ll move back after school. I told him I want to move to a bigger soccer country when I graduate, and he said he’ll take me with him.

What I am really wondering is if I should go for it, and lose everything I’ve learned in my religion, or should we stay friends? I like really like him and I’ve never had a crush before, but if we date that would mean sneaking around my parents. Ugh! Please help!

“My husband is obsessed with other girls”

My husband is in a group text with a bunch of his coworkers, and all they talk about are hot girls and constantly send pictures of naked or half-naked girls. Some are famous, some  are Instagram models, and some are girls they hook up with. My husband chimes in occasionally by just agreeing that one of the girls is good looking.

Today I saw that one of his friends sent a picture of a girl’s vagina that he had recently had sex with. My husband replied with “I like that p**sy a lot. Definitely down to bang her if you want.” Then someone else wrote “he’s obsessed. He wants to eat it so bad” (talking about my husband).

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“How do I make new friends?”

Hi! I’m going to be a sophomore in high school very soon and I want it to be better than my freshman year. My freshman year, I didn’t make any friends, people didn’t really like me, I didn’t really talk much and I hated every moment of it. But, I want to turn that around this upcoming year.

I’d really like advice on like how to start conversations, make friends and enjoy the supposed “best four years of my life” (even though I totally bombed the first year).

Please help! Thanks!

“How can I revive my marriage?”

I have been married for almost 20 years. For 10 of those years, I have lived apart from my wife. There are no jobs in my hometown, and I am eager to work. With that being the case, I have been working out of town for the past 10 years. I have moved back into town for short stints over the year, but the best employment has always been elsewhere.

She has never wanted to move with me. It has always been the house from her previous marriage, the kids, the job, the church, the family, or the friends. Recently, something changed. I used to drive four hours each way every week to be with her. All of a sudden, I didn’t want to be with her anymore. I told her that I wanted a divorce. A better man would have been able to tell his woman to quit her job and join him in the new location, but that is not me. I work government contracts, and they are usually for less than a year in length. When I told her that I wanted a divorce, she told me that she wanted to meet every weekend in our midway point. The midway point is my house, which is midway between where I work and where she lives. I said no, she showed up anyway. She wanted to remain in contact throughout the end of the year. I agreed. Not because I wanted to, but because she seemed to need it.

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“I want to drop out of school and be a YouTuber”

How can I tell my mom that in a few months I’m dropping out if school and won’t go to college? I want to be a YouTuber and entertain people like I have my entire life. I love video games, but my mom hates it. Anything that happens (even if it doesn’t make sense) she blames video games. She never sees any side except her own and she won’t like or listen to anything I say because that’s how she always is.

School starts in 1 month and I’m too scared to ask her to take me out even though I will do it anyway when I turn 16 in a few months. I want to do this because I can’t fathom getting an 8+ hour job and still being able to play with my online friends and worry about other lively things.

“My dad is overprotective and tells me not to follow my dreams”

I don’t know what to do about my dad. He and I have always disagreed on how I should live my life (I’m 19). He thinks that I shouldn’t follow my dreams, and that I should instead go to college to get a degree in something I don’t even like and have a career in something I hate.

My dream is to travel the world, and he HATES that I want to do that. He’s worried about my safety out in the dangerous world (which I understand) but traveling is the thing that makes me feel like I have a purpose, and it’s the reason I get out of bed everyday, I have an adventurous soul! So we’ve been fighting for the last couple years about how I should live my life.

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