“I have to choose between a career and my family”

My parents are strict: doctor, lawyer, engineer. You know typical high pay employment. I like arts. I like it but more importantly I like being able to choose my focus, my topic. If I’m not interested in it, the outcome is pretty brutal.

They don’t really recognize that I detest the topics related to those jobs (doctor, lawyer, engineer). So basically I am stuck between gambling my options; trying to pursue a career in the arts, without my family supporting me, or I can give up what I love, and possibly make some good money, and have my family.

I’m lost. Very lost.

“Does he just want to date me for sex?”

My friend set me up with a guy friend of hers. He texted me and we planned our first date. Our date went very well, we had dinner, drinks, dessert and made out a little at the end of the night. We texted a bit the next day and then I didn’t hear from him for a couple of days. When he finally texted again, he apologized for being MIA and we made plans for him to come by my place as I was ill.

He brought me some tea and soup. We watched a movie in my room and he kept trying to get me to sleep with him, without success, because I was sick. I asked if he’d like to get together the following day, he said yes, he’d be free after 7. Next day, sporadic texting and he didn’t end up being free until 11:30pm. I told him I was already in bed and let’s try again when we can hang earlier….no response. He went away for the weekend, so I figured I wouldn’t hear from him. I texted a quick, “hey stranger” 2 days after he got home, no response….that was 3 days ago. Yet he looked at my snapchat story, so I know he’s alive, but he hasn’t contacted me. I understand he’s a busy guy, but this is ridiculous. When we were planning our first date, the texts were frequent and answered almost immediately, now I get nothing. I thought we had really hit it off, but now nothing…..wtf?!

“My boyfriend of 6 years is texting another girl”

My boyfriend and I of 6 years have broken up and have been broken up for almost 2 weeks now. We’ve been dating since high school. Ever since we’ve broken up, not much has changed. We still see each other everyday, he’s still on my phone plan (we have a great rate) and are pretty much on this break to work on being better so we have a stronger relationship once/if we get back together.

Yesterday, he kept telling me that he loves me and that I’m his best friend and that more likely than not, we’ll be together in the end. I felt that he brought it up kind of randomly and that there was something peculiar about what he was saying. With lack of better judgement, I look at his phone records and it says that he’s been texting someone.

He had been texting this person since 8am all way until 12 at night. This morning I confronted him about this just to see where we stand and if he is moving on to someone else. He says that they they are “just talking” and they are “just friends”. In the last six years he has never had any female friends, he works a retail job for his parents and only has 2 coworkers that he always complains about. I even looked up her name and the area that this girl lives in, which is not in our local area. He says that he loves me and just me and cares about just me and that he’s only interested in investing his time in me.

I find it kind of hard to believe that I’m the only one, when he texts somebody else 15 hours a day. He says it’s not going anywhere. And today he even texted her at like 6.30 in the morning.

Should I trust what he tells me? I feel that his actions/reactions are not adding up. Is it really that likely that if a guy and girl were texting for 8am-past midnight were not interested in each other? For those of you who are familiar with the show Friends, I am Team Ross. I don’t think my ex is doing anything wrong by texting her, but I don’t believe that he has feelings for just me as he is trying to lead me to believe. I am looking forward to hearing advice from outside parties. Please indicate if you are a male or female so I can understand your perspective. Thanks.

“Why wasn’t I invited out to dinner?”

My boyfriend of 2.5 years has two older brothers, both of whom are in relationships (that began after ours). Yesterday, him and his two brothers and their girlfriends (who live out of town) took their mother out for a special dinner.

I was not invited, as he assumed I “was busy” without even asking. I live pretty much on the way to the restaurant, and had literally nothing going on. Needless to say, I was pretty upset and still am…. yet he refuses to apologize as he feels he did nothing wrong. I only found out about said dinner when I saw photos of everyone that their mom posted on Facebook, when I texted him. His reply was “I guess you can still come”. By the time I got into my car and called, they were leaving. Am I right to be upset? I feel like shit because in my opinion I look like the jerk for not being there.

“Can I date another guy?”

I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months now. When I met him he had a girlfriend, he was slightly flirty but I never thought anything of it. I’ve always really kind of liked him but never did anything obviously, because he had a girlfriend.

They broke up about two months ago and a couple of weeks ago we kissed and have been texting non stop ever since. We ended up having sex a couple times as well over the past few weeks. We see each other every other day to hang out or to study since we are in the same college classes. I can’t seem to tell if he is talking to other girls or not. I want to ask him but I’m not sure how to bring up the convo because as I do want to date him I also understand that he is still kind of newly single and probably doesn’t want to rush into anything.

I’m also absolutely fine with just doing whatever we are doing. I just want to know if it is okay for me to go on a date with another boy if I was asked or if we are somewhat exclusive. Above all else I don’t want to hurt our friendship or whatever we have going on. Any advice?

“Should we stay together or shall I let her go?”

My girlfriend and I are fourth year students just finishing our degrees. Our relationship is both of our first serious relationship and we’ve been together for almost a year. We’ve had a lot of difficulty lately, especially with school stress and having to work closely together on many projects and reports.

She broke up with me a month ago, and a week after that we discussed things and decided we didn’t want it to end and we wanted to work on things. Things continued to be difficult, and now I know we’re back on the rocks.

I know she needs to see that I’m ready to grow up and take control of my life, but I don’t think I’m going to get the chance because I think she’s ready to give up again. I still think we have a relationship worth fighting for, but I’m torn because fighting for it will only make it harder on her to walk away if she has to.

I don’t want to lose her, and if all relationships require work then I think ours is worth working for.  What should I do? If we should stay together, how can I tell her? Can I tell her somehow that I want to fight for us? Should I leave her to think about things even if it means losing her?

I know I’m capable of making her happy and I want to stay together so we can both be happier.

I don’t know what help I expect to find, but please help.

“I keep thinking about this guy”

I fell in love, well maybe not love, with this guy I met a few months ago. I’ve always been attracted to girls and guys and have been open in regards to sexuality. But to be honest I’ve only ever connected romantically with girls – until this guy.

I don’t know what it is, but he meant so much to me in such a quick time, the kind of person you lock eyes with and neither of you look away…

It’s stupid because I know he’ll never reciprocate these feelings, maybe he’s open sexually like I am, but I doubt it.

We always try to see each other but it never happens, eventually I just dropped it because I thought about him too much. But now and then he’ll make an effort and text random things and it just sends me into it again! Continue reading

“I cheated on my wife then gave her an STD”

I have been diagnosed with gonorrhea. Got from my sexscapdes outside of marriage. I am taking antibiotics now and getting better. I haven’t told my wife yet. But I think the symptoms are starting to appear on her. I just told her to have herself checked.

Im really confused because if I tell her then she’ll probably leave me. I think by the time she is diagnosed mine will be gone already. What do you think should I do? Thank you.

“I want us to have multiple sexual partners”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and I love him dearly. The problem is that I have the desire to sleep with other people, and having multiple partners is a turn on for me, but I still want to only be with my boyfriend emotionally and him with me.

He could sleep with other people too if he wanted, but I’ve dipped my toe in the water and he doesn’t seem interested in it and I don’t wanna leave him, but how can we be together if we aren’t on the same sexual desires? Opinions?

“My boyfriend spends more time with her than me”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about one year and everything has been going great. The thing is, is that we’ve only gone on two dates, and I’m fine taking things slow, but he hangs out with my best friend A LOT.

Almost every single weekend he has been going to the park with her and my other friend. Their siblings are dating, and that might be the cause of it, but I’ve known this girl for a really long time and she spends more time with him than she does with me, and the same with him spending more time with her. They also text me more when they’re together than when they’re apart.

He is the first one she goes to when she is upset and lately he’s been really distant. I’m pretty sure he hasn’t kissed me in two months and whenever I try to initiate the flirting he just ignores it. I don’t wanna be the jealous girlfriend but I don’t know what to do. Should I talk to him about it or just leave it be?