“I’ve been catfishing my friend”

I was friends with three girls. Let’s call them Cayenne, Cinnamon, and Mint. Cinnamon and I suddenly stopped being friends, so I became friends with Mint, who Cinnamon had problems with. A few months into my friendship with Mint, she told me that she had been catfishing Cinnamon as revenge for bullying her. Cayenne was still friends with all three of us at the time, having to keep her and Mint’s friendship secret from Cinnamon.

Mint eventually got me to join in catfishing Cinnamon. After about six months of catfishing Cinnamon, Mint, Cayenne, and I broke up. Since this had happened, I’ve had the urge to tell Cinnamon who we really are, but I know it would cause an end to Mint and Cayenne’s friendship, and I don’t want it to look like I did it just for them to fight. What should I do?

“My elderly mother spilt gravy on my son’s head”

Tonight at dinner, we had an unfortunate accident. My 5 year old was already at the table eating, while my mother (who is 70) was still trying to get the stuff on the table. She was trying to get my father his gravy, as he was sitting at the other end of the table. Unfortunately, some spilled on my son’s head. Understandably, he freaked out because it was painful, I was in the kitchen at the time getting a drink for him, so I didn’t see what actually happened. My bf, my son’s father, rushed him into the kitchen, freaking out and we rinsed his head with cold water. My bf was immediately saying we were taking him to the hospital. I kept my cool, and told him that it wasn’t that bad, 1st degree if that, it was barely red, no blistering and my son calmed down within minutes.  Continue reading

“Should I have given him my details?”

I am starting college in a new country in September and unfortunately my boyfriend of over two years will be staying in Ireland. While I was abroad looking for accommodation I bumped into another Irish student who had just finished his first year there.

He asked me to write down my details and he would give me advice on things he wish he knew before starting college. I told my boyfriend and he got extremely jealous. He is making me feel like I did something extremely wrong, yet everyone I have talked to say that he should be supportive and happy that i have made a new contact in this strange new country.

Am I wrong for giving this boy my details or is he wrong for being so jealous over an innocent act?

“Will he ever propose?!”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 and a half years now (we are 23 years old), we have been living together for a year and do everything together. I have hinted a few times that I am ready to get engaged and he has agreed (even my family has been hinting).

But it feels like it is never going to happen. We get into fights about it all the time. I have expressed to him how I don’t want to be an “old” bride and would love for my aging grandparents to still be around when we tie the knot. He doesn’t seem to be interested and I’m over bringing it up as we just fight.

Do you think he will ever propose or am I just going to be someone’s 40-year-old girlfriend?

“Is my older man bored with me?”

I have been with a man who is 26 years older than me for 6 months but recently, within the last month or so, I feel as if he’s not interested anymore. He claims it is because of stress but I just don’t know what to do anymore.

He does not give me affection anymore and the only time he acts as if we are together is when we are around others. I have anxiety and I don’t want to ruin an otherwise happy relationship because of my anxiety or his stress, I just need to know if this is normal. Has the lust just worn off is he bored with me?

“I’m 25 years old and I’ve never had sex”

I want to but I’m so socially awkward that I push away anyone who’s interested. The only guys I’ve ever kissed were those who surprised me. I’m mad at myself that I didn’t let it get further with the first guy when I was 16. I was drunk, he was experienced and I had a big crush on him.

Now, nine years later, I’m still a virgin. I want to have sex and for the first time in my life and I’m trying to seriously date someone (I met online). He’s nice but there is absolutely no attraction. There are guys I am attracted to (I feel like there are more of them ever since I started dating) but none of them would notice me, and if they did their confidence would probably make me run the other way. I don’t know if I would feel more comfortable around men if I had sex.

Am I shallow for wanting to have sex with someone I actually find attractive instead of a guy I feel comfortable taking to but have no desire to even kiss? I feel like the longer I wait the less likely it is that I will ever have sex with anyone. I wish I could just get drunk and lose my virginity that way but I have never been drunk enough to actually go through with it.

“I have a crush but my friends don’t like him”

I have a crush on a boy. This boy is really sweet and funny. I’m afraid to tell any one because everyone thinks he’s weird. Even my best friends make fun of him. People say he’s bad for me because he has a bad reputation, but the truth is, he’s there for me.

He understands what I’m going through and supports me, my other friends just can’t do that. I want to date him but I’m afraid people will make fun of me. What should I do?

“I’ve lost my self-worth after sleeping with a married man’

So to keep it short, since about April I have been involved with a married man. He is 37, and I am 25. I too, am involved in a long term relationship so I guess we both could relate on some of the issues that we have been dealing with in the both of our relationships, which in turn sort of started the whole affair.

We both agreed to trying our best at not developing feelings, which was totally cool at first. But lately I’ve been having strong feelings. I feel a lot of guilt on so many levels, and I feel so worthless ever since we started sleeping together. Each time we have sex and he leaves, I can’t help but due to the shame that I feel. It’s like he takes a piece of me each and every single time he leaves after we are done.

I really want to break this off, especially knowing that our relationship will never be anything more than what it is. But sadly I have fallen for him. I have nobody to vent to, and it’s eating me up inside. I’m just curious as to how do I let this guy go? How do I emotionally and spiritually pick myself back up again? How do I get my self worth back again? He took it all from me.

“I’m being forced to choose between my boyfriend and family”

I am 16 and I have been dating someone for 6 months. At the beginning, everything was perfect. He is the most loving, hilarious person I have ever met. I had my parents approval and everyone said we were the cutest couple.

But, my mother developed hatred toward my boyfriend. She now thinks he is disrespectful and a bad influence. She judges him and blames him for things he doesn’t do, and is now forbidding me to go out with him. I love him but she wants me to end things. I have tried fixing things and have invited him over to my family, but it only seems to make things worse.

I don’t feel loved or supported at home, and am constantly being told that everything I do is wrong. I also feel unsafe and scared for my future. I think I have met my future husband, and the fact that I am not allowed to date him is giving me severe anxiety and depression.

I don’t know what to do, because I can’t chose between my family and my boyfriend. I need advice.  At this point, I don’t want to live in my house anymore.