“Is he about to leave me?”

I’ve been with this guy for almost over a year now, and lately he’s been worrying me. For the past few days I’ve had to consistently reassure him that I love him still, and that he’s amazing to me. I have no idea where this is coming from and I’m starting to get worried that he’s going to end things with me.

I’ve asked him if everything is okay between us, and he’s told me that he feels like someone better is going to come along; making me leave him in the process. I honestly have no intention of doing that, I’m still very much in love with him, but I don’t know how to make him believe me. Everything I seem to be saying to him just doesn’t seem to be reassuring him, and I don’t want to lose him.


“Do I tell him I cheated?”

I met a guy at work during a rocky point of my relationship, who introduced me to his poly-amorous lifestyle. Once we got to know each other, there was some really strong attraction between us, and after some flirting over a few months, we ended up dirty texting each other and slept together twice: once really drunk, and once sober.

After it happened sober, I had an eye opening realization about everything I was fucking up, and how much I love my boyfriend. So I ended everything, and will NEVER cheat again. Honestly made me realize that I want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend. What I’m trying to figure out is if I should tell him?

I know 100% certain I will never cheat again, and that he is the person I want forever, so I feel like maybe it would be better for him to just never tell him, and that telling him might make me feel better about my guilt, but just hurt him and ruin us in the process. Just looking for some advice from anyone who has been on either side of this scenario, and how you think the best way to proceed is.


“I cheated because we never have sex”

So here’s the thing. I have a boyfriend. We’ve been together for 7 years and I truly love him, he’s my best friend. My problem is, we’re pretty much just friends. The intimacy is gone. On his end. He doesn’t want to have sex anymore, and even the rare occasion it does happen, it’s like a chore for him and I’m always left wanting more.

He’s gained some weight (which I find sexy af) and is very stressed out, which I’m sympathetic to. I just need some kinda intimacy in my life. I’ve tried to discuss it after about 2 years of unsatisfaction, he won’t even tell me exactly what he’s going through or how to help. He’s even gotten angry when I pushed this discussion.

I’ll be honest, its led me to infidelity. I don’t wanna leave him, I love him more than I’ve every loved anyone, but like everyone, once in a while, I feel starved for emotional AND physical affection, and I’ve strayed to an ex who I know still loves me. I always feel like shit after, but 6 months later I’m calling that side man.

Should I let him go, or stick it out?


“He still spends time with his ex”

Recently I’ve been talking to this boy. We’ve known each other since the beginning of the year when we met in our class. At the time he had a girlfriend, and we were pretty good friends. Fast forward a few months and him and his girlfriend break up after she cheated on him. Him and I started talking not long after (first just as friends, then it developed as more) and I told him I didn’t want him to feel rushed into anything and that we could take our time with a relationship.

The problem is, he still spends time with his ex. His family is really good friends with her, so they often see each other and hang out, and although he assured me nothings going to happen, it doesn’t sit well with me. They dated for almost three years, and it’s not easy to move on from someone like that. I told him them being friends didn’t bother me, because I didn’t want to come across as the jealous girl who always needs his attention, but in all honesty them being close does bother me. Am I crazy for being jealous? What should I tell him?


“My boyfriend thinks I was on a date”

Hi, I have a question. Is it wrong to eat out and watch a movie with a good friend, which is a guy, even though you have a boyfriend? Does that pass boundaries? Because my boyfriend got totally pissed. He’s aware that I was going to eat out with my male high school friend.. but he got pissed when he found out we were going to watch a movie, where he perceives the situation as if it was more of a “date” then a “hang-out”… Help!


“He doesn’t want me to get implants”

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 2 years, we own a home together, vehicles as well as animals, but still not engaged.

I have thought about getting breast implants since I was probably 16 years old (I’m 20 now, almost 21 & my boyfriend just turned 21). I am currently a 34B and would like to see myself as a 34/36C. I just recently brought it up to him and he said he doesn’t want me to get them because he likes my body the way it is.

I understand… but that doesn’t make me not want them anymore. It’s hard for me to take no for an answer. When I told him I at least wanted to go to a consultation he got really upset and said he would leave me if I even went to a consultation since he didn’t want me to go. I think he just said that out of anger considering how serious we are. But I need advice and help on how to get him to at least consider it.


“I don’t like the way he touches me”

I have had many problems with my boyfriend but we always work it out. Or at least I thought we did. We had a big fight recently and he confessed a lot of feelings he had kept bottled up for a long time and the thing that bothered me the most was the way he talked about a problem we had with consent.

I told him I didn’t like being touched many times and almost every time he tried I would move his hand away and/or tell him no or to stop. He has stopped since we had a very serious conversation about how violated it made me feel when he ignored me and kept insisting and guilt tripping and pressuring me to do things I didn’t want to. He ended up crying and apologizing over and over and said he didn’t realize what he was doing and he stopped doing things I didn’t want. But when we were fighting he brought it up and said “oh yeah like when you apparently felt like I ‘assaulted’ you or something” and asked how I can touch him and then “act like” I don’t want him to touch me. We’ve had a lot of misunderstandings because of the way he sometimes words things incorrectly but I really don’t know how to go about this.

“I don’t want to go through with this marriage”

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Everything was going fine then we started arguing everyday. When he’s around and we argue he gets in my face and yells louder. When I try to leave wherever we are at, so I can have a break away from him, he prevents me from leaving.

He calls me names everyday and even called me a “sly little bitch” because I was in the living room with my 6 year old sister and didn’t want to get in a fight over the phone. I love him but I also want to leave. We are supposed to get married in 5 months but I’m not sure if I really want to go through with it, I don’t want things to get worse. I’m not sure what to do. Yes I have tried talking to him but he doesn’t seem to care. When I tried to talk to him about the argument today he just said he was tired and was going to bed.

“I have his child and keep finding nudes on his phone”

When I was pregnant I got extremely insecure and paranoid, and starting going through my boyfriend’s phone. I had never been that girl until an ex of mine cheated and I found very upsetting things on his phone. I hadn’t felt the need to do it with my boyfriend now, until I was a month or so pregnant.

I found naked pictures from snap chat and found a bunch of cam girl websites. I got upset, he got upset that I went through his phone, we fought and then he deleted it all and said he wouldn’t do it anymore because it upset me, but that he didn’t see why it was such a big deal, it was just open to him. Continue reading

“I have to lie to my parents about my boyfriend”

This maybe long and I’m sorry. I have been having issues my parents for the longest time about my boyfriend. We have been dating for about four years and we have been through so much together. The problem is that my parents restrict me in seeing him often and blame him for my own faults.

I’ve also given up my virginity to him, and when my parents suspected that it may have happened, my father was ready to hurt me. I had to lie because I know they wouldn’t be able to handle the truth very well. I also know that I shouldn’t have lied and I’ll have to tell them eventually, but not right now. My parents also believe that he’s a distraction but I’ve maintained my grades with A’s and B’s. We are also taking many precautions before doing stuff together. Nothing I say seems to get across to them, I’m an adult and I believe that I’m making the best possible decisions that I can. Maybe I’m wrong? Can I have insight please?