“My elderly mother spilt gravy on my son’s head”

Tonight at dinner, we had an unfortunate accident. My 5 year old was already at the table eating, while my mother (who is 70) was still trying to get the stuff on the table. She was trying to get my father his gravy, as he was sitting at the other end of the table. Unfortunately, some spilled on my son’s head. Understandably, he freaked out because it was painful, I was in the kitchen at the time getting a drink for him, so I didn’t see what actually happened. My bf, my son’s father, rushed him into the kitchen, freaking out and we rinsed his head with cold water. My bf was immediately saying we were taking him to the hospital. I kept my cool, and told him that it wasn’t that bad, 1st degree if that, it was barely red, no blistering and my son calmed down within minutes.  Continue reading

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“Should I have given him my details?”

I am starting college in a new country in September and unfortunately my boyfriend of over two years will be staying in Ireland. While I was abroad looking for accommodation I bumped into another Irish student who had just finished his first year there.

He asked me to write down my details and he would give me advice on things he wish he knew before starting college. I told my boyfriend and he got extremely jealous. He is making me feel like I did something extremely wrong, yet everyone I have talked to say that he should be supportive and happy that i have made a new contact in this strange new country.

Am I wrong for giving this boy my details or is he wrong for being so jealous over an innocent act?

“Will he ever propose?!”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 and a half years now (we are 23 years old), we have been living together for a year and do everything together. I have hinted a few times that I am ready to get engaged and he has agreed (even my family has been hinting).

But it feels like it is never going to happen. We get into fights about it all the time. I have expressed to him how I don’t want to be an “old” bride and would love for my aging grandparents to still be around when we tie the knot. He doesn’t seem to be interested and I’m over bringing it up as we just fight.

Do you think he will ever propose or am I just going to be someone’s 40-year-old girlfriend?

“I’m being forced to choose between my boyfriend and family”

I am 16 and I have been dating someone for 6 months. At the beginning, everything was perfect. He is the most loving, hilarious person I have ever met. I had my parents approval and everyone said we were the cutest couple.

But, my mother developed hatred toward my boyfriend. She now thinks he is disrespectful and a bad influence. She judges him and blames him for things he doesn’t do, and is now forbidding me to go out with him. I love him but she wants me to end things. I have tried fixing things and have invited him over to my family, but it only seems to make things worse.

I don’t feel loved or supported at home, and am constantly being told that everything I do is wrong. I also feel unsafe and scared for my future. I think I have met my future husband, and the fact that I am not allowed to date him is giving me severe anxiety and depression.

I don’t know what to do, because I can’t chose between my family and my boyfriend. I need advice.  At this point, I don’t want to live in my house anymore.

“I’m bored with my relationship”

I’ve been dating this guy for almost 6 months now, but recently I’ve been getting bored with the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy and an amazing boyfriend and we were even friends for a long time before we started to date. It’s just that recently I’ve been getting really annoyed over little things and the relationship isn’t exciting like it used to be.

Also, my ex is back from college and I’ve been fantasizing about him sexually.. a lot. I’ve been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend, but I’m afraid of losing the only person who’s close to me and I can open up to. I generally keep my feelings to myself and not many people really know me. I’m ready to be free of the obligations of a relationship and explore other options, but I don’t want to lose my only real friend.

“He’s really bad at kissing”

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just under 6 months and we’ve only kissed properly with tongues around 4 times. He’s really bad at it and I don’t want to tell him as I feel it will put him down. He’s always saying we need to get better at it and do it more so we can improve but it’s always super awkward and I don’t like doing it that much anymore? Help please :/

“Are his lies a deal-breaker?”

He didn’t cheat, but his lies don’t add up.  I say lies because I know they are. He’ll try explain one thing but I’ll question him about it again and everything he says contradicts his previous story.

He argues that he forgets and his memory isn’t good, but there’s just this feeling I get. I do trust he wouldn’t cheat on me but I think he has previously texted other girls suggestively and when I question him about it, he brings up my past and guys I previously chatted to before we got together.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting or thinking too deep but is this a deal breaker? Should I end it?

“I love him but don’t see a future”

I think loneliness has been accepting myself to get trapped in an unhappy relationship for years. I know I have the will power, but the fear of the unknown is really scary.. I have been in this relationship for three years. Wow.. I cant believe it’s only been three years because looking back, it feels like it’s been eternity. Him and I began as best friends and fell in love.

My boyfriend is a nice guy. He is loyal. He is smart. He is generous and also very easy going. These are qualities that I personally wished I possessed so I have always admired and appreciated the way his way of life brought me some zen.

However, as time went on, I realized that his easy-goingness really came from his lack of engagement to anything. He could not get anything done. Or he could not even start because he is “too afraid of failing”. He always pushes things to the last minute which always ends up stressing both of us out. I am not a planner. I am a Sagittarius for crying out loud. I like adventures and spontaneity, however, I saw myself gradually turning into a mom figure. Guiding him through very simple procedures of life, making sure to keep him motivated, making sure he follows through with his plans. It has become so exhausting, dragging him along to get things done.
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“Do I fix or forget my stuck-in-the-mud boyfriend?”

So, in the nicest way possible, I think I’m dating a loser. I guess I’m the quintessential girl that always dates guys that need fixing, but it’s never intentional. The last guy I dated had suffered emotional / physical abuse and it was complicated, but very passionate and I loved him very much. I kind of walked into a mess on this one. My current bf was still living with his ex’s family when we met, but they had already broken up and he was moving out and back in with his parents before we even got close enough to consider dating, but I didn’t know all this until later.

We were set up, and had two months of mixed signals and odd communication before finally getting together. He was struggling in school and didn’t have many friends because his ex was controlling and also pretty mentally and financially abusive, so he transferred to my university to get back on track with his life. I go to the university he was originally going to go to before his ex convinced him to go to her college , so it felt like he was going full circle. He was passionate and excited and I thought he would adjust quickly and be fine. We were hot and heavy and in love and were a really cute couple, and I felt that it could just go up from there. So I thought. Continue reading