“He’s leaving to become a Marine”

My boyfriend is leaving soon to go do basic training to become a marine. He’s my best friend and I’ve always loved him as a friend, and even had a crush on him and now I’m falling for him. We have been dating for almost 3 months, which isn’t long, and I want to commit to him while he’s away.

But my mom says it’s a waste of time seeing as he will not be home for 3 months then 4 years. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this, because I don’t know what to do. Stay or leave? I have only felt this way about one other person and even then I wouldn’t go this far.  After that ex, I built up a wall, and after 3 years this is the only guy I want to commit to and be with. He tore down my wall and I want to be with him. Please help! I’m still in high school and I’ve got one more year then I graduate, and can move up there and see him every now and then.

Help please!



“I’m going through a tough time and not ready for a relationship”

Sorry this is so long but please read. I need help!

Well, it started the summer before last. 2015. Me & my now ex husband split. I was crushed. So I spent the next 4 months piecing life together. In October, I met a really funny & great guy named Jamie. It took me a lil bit to warm up to him but soon I loved him. Was in love with him. That coming up March, I found out I had to have a partial hysterectomy. Continue reading

“He ignores me and spends more time with his friends”

I need some advice… I don’t know what to do anymore…

My boyfriend always spends more time with his best friend than with me. When we have plans to go somewhere together, he always picks his friend up before me, to spend more time together. I usually have to wait longer than the time he said he would be there.

Last week really did it for me… he invited me to a block party and then said he wasn’t going and ended up going with his friends anyway. He completely ignored me all afternoon and I started to get worried because it isn’t like him to do that, so I reached out to his friend to see if he had heard from him, since I knew he hasn’t been feeling well the day before. His friend saw my message and ignored it. Continue reading

“I feel like the guy I’m with is using me”

We’ve been seeing each other since last November. So about 9 months now. I go out of my way to do things for him. We have sex all the time. I get him surprises all the time. And I’m committed to him.

Since day one he has said that he doesn’t want to commit, that he’s not ready, that he loves me and I’m a big part of his life, and that he’s not ready for a relationship, but that he is trying. Continue reading

“My boyfriend is weird about tipping”

I’d like advice on how to handle some things I’ve noticed about my boyfriend of almost three months. A few times since dating, he has sent back food at a restaurant — not because the order was wrong, but because the dishes did not live up to his expectations. I think I have sent dishes back maybe like two times my entire life, and it’s been because the orders were wrong.

Then on one occasion, we ordered two glasses of wine, and the waitress indicated she would bring us a carafe. When he received his ticket at the end of the meal, the carafe was either $2 or $4 more than it would have been if we would have just received the two glasses of wine. He proceeded to write a note on the ticket. I was so embarrassed. To make matters worse, the next morning, we went out to breakfast and I paid. At the bottom of the receipt it had gratuity recommendations and $7 was 15%, so I tipped $7. He then asked me why I only tipped $7. The night after he didn’t tip a waitress and wrote a note on a receipt!

I can’t decide if I should say something to him about this. I Feel like this could be a character flaw, in that he is extremely picky.

“My ex-husband lives with us and I want him”

This is insane. 23 years ago, I got pregnant with a child, and the father was 9 years older than me. He was a felon just released on parole, and I was a 16 year old in a catholic school. I truly loved him and married him at 18.

He did go back to prison and for the next 10 years, he was in and out of prison.  I continued on with life, and got married to another man, and had another child. Since then, I divorced him, and moved back home. Continue reading

“Is he lying about his ex’s tumor?”

I’ve been seeing a guy since July. And everything is going really well with him. He had cancer and is now in remission. He told me he had a best friend who is a girl, at first I was (oh I’ve never came across this unless there is history) so I asked him and he said he went out with her when they were 17 briefly, but just became friends!

So I was ok about that, since it was years ago. Anyway, he told me she had found out she has a tumor in her cervix, so bad and big that it had hair and teeth! Continue reading