“I’m going through a tough time and not ready for a relationship”

Sorry this is so long but please read. I need help!

Well, it started the summer before last. 2015. Me & my now ex husband split. I was crushed. So I spent the next 4 months piecing life together. In October, I met a really funny & great guy named Jamie. It took me a lil bit to warm up to him but soon I loved him. Was in love with him. That coming up March, I found out I had to have a partial hysterectomy. Continue reading

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“A depressing love relationship turning into an irreparable tragedy”

I [20/M] have been in love with a girl [20/F] for almost 4 years now. Initially it started off as a crush and then when I expressed to her my feelings, I was disappointed as she had a boyfriend back then.

Trust me, I being the perfect unconditional lover boy kept on caring for her as she underwent a stormy and tormenting love affair. It continued for 1 whole year. Late night calls, her crying, me consoling. Her telling me she loves me and then going back to her ex the very next day. Continue reading

“He loves his friends more than me”

I don’t know how to start this, but I think it’s best if you know as much detail as possible.
I’ve been with my current partner for just over two years, I am 23 and he is 19, almost 20. I have a 4 year old son, who’s father is my ex.

At the beginning of our relationship, I discovered he was still actively using a dating app because he was unsure if ‘we’d work out’. He was also deleting messages from his ex. This situation was confronted and quickly forgiven. I absolutely adore him, and as cliche as it sounds, he came in to my life when I needed someone very badly (I suffer with depression). Like I said, I adore him. Continue reading

“I was drunk and I felt raped”

My ex boyfriend had sex with me when I was in and out of consciousness after a night of drinking. He was completely sober and we had a fight that night. I came over to his place, leaving my friends at a bar, because he had accused me over text of staying out late to get drunk, and hook up with someone random.

I was so drunk and upset, that I left my friends immediately and stumbled over to his apartment. I was crying and thought we would just cuddle and go to sleep. I woke up with him on top of me and then blacked out again. I felt raped but didn’t say anything until a few months later after we broke up. Continue reading

“My companion just disappeared”

I’ve been having a rough couple months. Nothing seems to be going right, and it’s been really hard to smile lately. My relationship with my family, as well as my lover, has been slowly deteriorating. I’m currently taking a break from any intimate relationships, but I was always, always seeking for a friend to talk to. It got things off of my mind, even if just for a moment.
It became a sort of coping mechanism.

One ever-so-fateful night, I found myself in some random chatroom with another person. We stumbled under the same topic category and he was very pleasant to talk to (none of my close friends were up at the time, or were far too busy for me to approach). We talked about absolutely everything. We had deep talks about religion, society, and any intellectual thing imaginable. At the same time, we spoke about quirky references and memes. It felt like we had known each other for years (as exaggerated as that sounds). It just felt so different. I had never connected with anyone so similar to me before.

Later on, he decided that we should keep in touch, and so we did. We added each other on a chat-based app and messaged one another. A couple of days hereafter, we became fast friends, to say the least. I’ve never been one to act impulsively, nor upon my emotions.. But something about our interactions made it so easy to open myself up to him. He asked why my lover and I took a break, and he gave me insight as to why I should love myself instead of worrying about my current relationship status. I’m a very pessimistic person, and he brought a very insightful perspective unto me. One that I needed to hear after all the other shit I’ve been going through. I hadn’t smiled so easily in such a long time.

Now.. neither of us were foolish. We didn’t rush into anything sexual. And it was absolutely wonderful how we could care less about being touchy and affectionate with each other. (We lived quite a ways apart, so I wasn’t expecting anything). I was sure to make clear that I wasn’t ready to be in any sort of relationship anytime soon, and I was happy to know he respected that. There was even a time when we distinguished that we fit into the “demisexual” side of society. We both looked down on one-night stands and summer flings. Emotion and a personal connection always came first to us, and I never sympathized with anyone so deeply about these ideals. Several times, however, he showed interest in me. They weren’t bold statements, but they were surely there. His cunning, subtle little flirts made my heart swoon. He had an incredible way of saying things that he knew I would appreciate.

For about a month, however, he stopped messaging me. It took a lot amount of courage to initiate conversation with him again. He didn’t reply the first time, but I caught him online a couple weeks later, and we conversed once again. He apologized for not getting in touch with me sooner. His reasoning was that he didn’t want me to emotionally invest in whatever was happening between us. But honestly, I was perfectly ok with being friends for a while. In fact, I didn’t really want him to be a lover right off the bat. Our friendship was absolutely beautiful the way it was. His company was all that I needed, and I felt as though he sought my presence, as well.

Days passed again, and it just seemed like we grew a lot closer. I actually started getting excited to see him message me back. This hasn’t happened in a long time. I’ve had feelings for my previous lover for 8 years, and I haven’t quite emotionally invested in anyone ever since. But this quote and quote “friend”? I felt as though he was about to beat that long-time record.

The first time he asked me to watch a show with him while speaking to me on the phone, I couldn’t stop smiling. He had stayed up messaging me and out of the blue, he proposed it as if it were a date. I later reminded him that I didn’t want to hurt him because I was still figuring things out with my lover (we are still broken up), and, as if to make me feel better, he suggested to watch it with me as my friend. I willingly agreed, but when the time came to watch it with me, he was unable to do so. I forgave him the first time because we both hadn’t slept the night before. He had slept through the appointed time. But, the following day or two, he brought it up again. He boldly suggested that we try again on Tuesday (which was yesterday). And again.. He didn’t show up. I just feel so devastated.

Last Saturday, I noticed that he wasn’t on my friend’s list anymore. My intuition screamed at me that he removed and blocked me. I pretended it didn’t bother me.. But slowly, I grew more and more disappointed. Everything had ended so abruptly and I was taken aback. He hadn’t done a single thing to upset me until now, and he seemed to enjoy my company. He seemed like a very reasonable young man, and I felt as though we connected uncannily well. I had never hit it off with someone this well in such a short amount of time, and now I’m just in utter shock. He’s left without a single trace and I tried to add him back.. Only time will tell if he’ll ever see it.

I honestly just wanted to get to know the guy. He was so intriguing. It wasn’t every day that I stumbled into someone who enjoyed conversing about deep obscurities about life,and then immediately switched the conversation to memes. I cannot deny that I developed a sort of crush on him; but being his companion was more than I could ever ask for.

Would he be worth pursuing? Had I done something to upset him? Would any of you have any ideas as to why he just up and left?

 

 

“I’m in love with my best friend”

I became friends with a boy and we weren’t super close, but I struggled with depression and he got me out of it and we became super close. We’ve never been more than friends and while we do love each other and say it pretty frequently, we’ve friend zoned each other.

I’m falling in love with him more everyday and I don’t want to tell him in case it ruins our friendship. What do I do?

“I want to see a therapist”

For the past couple of months I’ve felt like I might have anxiety and/or depression. I really want to get a therapist because I find it easiest venting to strangers. I don’t know how to bring up the issue with my parents. I’m afraid they’ll see it as some type of phase, as I’m only twelve but I just want to look out for myself I guess. Any advice?

“He’s an alcoholic and I feel like his mother”

My boyfriend is a depressed, functioning, alcoholic.

We’ve been dating for a year and a half, at about 6 months into our relationship I found out about his drinking & progressively after that more and more was revealed. He drinks alone when his depression gets heavy (1-2 times per month). He’s never violent or angry, just emotional and the drinking upsets him more. He does tend to call me in the middle of the night as he is wandering drunk around NYC at 3am and begs me to let him stay over (I oblige because I worry).

He lost his job (not because of alcohol) but it’s factored into his depression. He doesn’t seem interested in working again but he is going to therapy (on my insurance).

I don’t want to leave him but I feel like I’ve had to put my life on hold to take care of him (emotionally and financially). I’m starting to feel more like a mother than a girlfriend. I’m in my early 30s, never married, and want a future with him, but it seems like he’ll never get to a place to think about the future. Everything is just dealing with him right now.

I don’t know what to do.

“Should I stay or should I go?”

My husband had a really bad work accident almost a year ago, it’s put a lot of strain on our marriage, and he’s also going through depression and anger issues. He’s never laid a hand on me till recently.

I’m ok but I do have some bruises and everyone keeps telling me to leave him, but I do love him and we have a son together, and I can’t exactly just up and leave. I have no job or car or anything, everything is in his name . I don’t fear my safety or for my son’s safety and he did agree to get some help. But has anyone else gone through this , did your relationship work out? Did it end up getting physical again?

“My parents have loud sex and I can’t sleep”

I’m 13 and I have been having a problem. For the past couple nights my parents have had very loud sex. My room is right next to theirs. One might say this isn’t too bad however as someone who is asexual and extremely prone to anxiety, this has been making it almost impossible for me to get sleep (which is really crappy because I have a friend coming over soon).

I think last night really messed with me because my mom and emotionally unstable dad had been fighting a lot the past week. I had literally worried he had killed her, as when ten minutes earlier she had stormed out of the house with no explanation and then when they came back my dad said “Calm down, [mom name]”. Not only was there the extreme anxiety and fear of my dad but on top of that them having sex mad me extremely anxious as well. Continue reading