“I feel like a guy, but I’m a girl”

I feel like a guy even though I’m a girl. My mom thinks I’m too young for the surgery (which I agree,) but she teases me that I want to wear guys clothes etc. She is supportive of trans people but is for some reason scared that I might be.

I only liked pink when I was under six and I only stopped wearing dresses roughly 6 months ago. Please help. When I told my friends they just laughed and started to tell me that I’m not a guy and “you’d look bad with short hair” or “you look good as a girl, you ungrateful bitch” and “I didn’t even get a chance to give you a makeover .” 😦

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“We got high and he hasn’t asked me on another date”

I’m 20 years old with a shit ton of anxiety. So I might need some advice and someone to hit me over the head and snap me back to reality. I met this guy (23) who super liked me on Tinder and we went on four dates in total and he’s been texting me regularly with a few minutes too a few hours gap in between our texts.

Each date got progressively better and the fourth one seemed like it was the most successful, he wanted to hang out longer, so we smoked some weed and watched a really bad movie in my dorm. Things were fine (and I’m also kinda sure he got a boner LOL) until the end, I got a little nervous once I realized it was late and he had to go home stoned. Continue reading

“Shall I ask him out?”

I like this guy and I think he likes me too, but a mutual friend told me that he said that he’s kinda interested in me but I live too far away.   I’m a year younger and I am interested in him. I want to make a move and ask him out, but I’m too scared. We’ve been talking for not a long time.

 

“Confused about a younger guy…and my maturity”

I’ve been crushing hard on this guy I work with and it turns out he’s probably like 17. I feel kinda weird about doing anything about it cause I’m 21. Generally, I wouldn’t think of four years being a big age gap but it is when one person is still in high school and the other is old enough to be graduating college.

I doubt I will do anything anyway because I am very shy. I just feel weird cause he’s barely older than my little sister. He definitely looks old enough to be my age, and I definitely look like I’m still in high school which is the funny part. Knowing me, I’m just being ridiculous because by the time I get it together enough to even talk to the guy, he’ll be married with kids or something. I don’t know… And yes I did say I’m crushing on a guy and yes I am 21, I know I sound like a luststruck middle schooler. Maybe that just goes to show I really am not as mature as my age would suggest, I have no idea. All I know is I am technically 21 even though I still think of 21 year olds as adults and myself as not an adult. This started as a concern about age differences between a boy and myself and it seems to have become a discussion with myself and my own maturity. Not even sure what the point of this post is anymore, sorry.

 

“I like this guy at work”

I’ve met a guy at work last week, and it clicked on all levels, I can’t stop thinking about him! But the day we met was his last day in our office, now he works in different one. Should I send him an email and ask how his new place is? Don’t even know if he would respond, but I think he liked me too. Should I email him??

Forgot to mention, I’m already married…

 

“I cheated on a guy I wasn’t even dating”

Last week I met a guy (I’ll call him F) through a project in another city and I was fairly certain both of us had fallen in love. He told me I was the kind of girl he could love. The project ended and both of us went back to our hometowns, but because I have an aunt where he lives I said I’ll come visit after he was coming back from his family vacation. We were texting for a few days when he just stopped answering me. He wasn’t even “seeing” my messages on Facebook. I was confused because if he cared more for my feelings he would have explained, if not, we could have still slept together, things that didn’t happen until now.

I tried to let it go and a week after, I invited an old friend (let’s call him B) among others, to my house party. I told everyone they could spend the night, but he was the only one who stayed. We ended up sleeping together, even though we haven’t flirted all night but just because he was suddenly eager and I felt confident in just a hook up. Now I’m almost 100% percent sure he wants more.

But right now I just want to go to F’s home town and send him a message, or try to reach him even sooner. I feel like I cheated on him, because he referred to us as a couple back at the project, still he disappeared. And I need to tell B how things are before I reach F, but it feels like mission impossible. I might have been too nice by accident. I don’t mind ending up alone, I just want no one to get hurt and me and F to talk about us.

P.S. The only (good) reason I think F was ignoring me is because we study in different countries, I’m here just in the Summer. Still too confused he just stopped talking to me.

“I want to be more than just friends”

I met my best guy friend, J, in February through match.com. We immediately clicked, had common interests, similar morals, and communicate well. We both are interested in each other, but he does not want to jeopardize our great relationship that we have as friends.

A lot of it has to do with his prior relationships and being hurt by them; and also them never speaking to him since. He doesn’t want that to happen with us. He also has episodes of clinical depression which contributes to this thinking of his. His last relationship ended a little over a year ago and lasted 8 years. My last relationship was over 3 years ago and I’ve dated a lot if anyone was wondering. I feel like he is what I’ve been looking for. I am 34 and he is 32, so we are not teenagers or in our early 20s either. I want to keep him in my life and will stay friends with him, but does anyone think there is a chance he will change his mind in the future?

“My sexual behavior disgusts me”

I was intimate with a man in exchange for a favor. It’s been a few months, and ever since then I cannot stop thinking about how disgusted I am with him, and myself with making a bad decision that I had full control of.

The whole time with him that night in my head I did not want to comply. I never found him attractive and looking at him now is just the worst. That night I was making excuses to stop. And now I mentally feel screwed up.

“My best friend and I have feelings for the same guy”

I think I’m starting to have feelings for a guy I’ve been friends with for a while. I suppose it was inevitable; he’s the type of person who is playful and easy to talk to. I genuinely love spending time with him.

Here lies the problem. My best friend has had feelings for him for the past 2 years. I know, at first glance it sounds like a cliche romance plot. But it isn’t a joke anymore whenever I have to listen to her talking about how amazing, kind, beautiful he is and having to say things like, “you’d be perfect for each other”.

I tried to repress my feelings at first, knowing it would end up like this. But I can’t stay away, no matter how hard I try to keep him at arms length. His personality just draws me in. Thankfully I only see him a few times a week since we have different classes, but I know that if I allow myself to get closer, I will fall for him.

I’m beginning to get too nervous to talk to him, because I know she is around somewhere and will start to suspect something is going on if she sees us laughing and joking around like children, which is what our conversations inevitably end in.

I don’t know what to do. Does it make me a terrible person? And before you go to answer that question with “no”, think about the fact that I might actually have a chance with him if I tried (that’s what his friends have hinted at) and I would be taking away her dream guy. Advice would be greatly appreciated.

(P.s. Sorry for the length. This is the first time I’ve opened up about this so it’s more of a rant :-))