“I can’t find a meaningful relationship”

I’m an 18 year old freshman in college. I’m from India and I study at a university in the United States of America. I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m pretty depressed when I see other couples because I’d do anything to have a meaningful relationship.

I like to think I am a good looking guy (that’s what many friends, both guys and girls told me). I’m pretty funny and I believe I’m a nice guy. I care for everyone close to me and I love to help people in need. I’m pretty outgoing and I can literally talk about anything. I never bore people and every friend I make gets close to me in a few weeks.

I feel lonely even when with friends and I get depressed when I think about me not finding love or having a relationship. I’ve moved to the US only recently but I already made a ton of friends who are of Caucasian, African American, Asian and Hispanic origins. I would say I have no problem in talking to strangers and I can’t understand why I don’t have a girlfriend. I have no other mental problems and I’m sure no one thinks I’m weird haha. I talk to a few of my close friends about how I’m struggling in finding a girlfriend and venting helps me be okay. I’m about 6 feet tall and I’m not fat nor do I have abs.

The problem in short is I can’t seem to find love or a relationship and I’d be thankful for any advice you guys can give me. If you guys can think of any other reason why I can’t find a relationship, please let me know. Thank you 🙂

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“Do I stick it out, or give up on my current relationship?”

When we first talked about dating, she promised an honest and open relationship in the sense of communication.

In the time we’ve dated, communication hasn’t gotten any better and is absolutely terrible compared to before. I’ve gotten cheated on, she lies consistently, still talks with the men she flirts with and is still incredibly irresponsible. She also claims to have cheated on a guy simply because she didn’t screw or see him for two weeks. I won’t be able to see her for a while so I’m concerned.

She has plenty of great qualities and I am madly in love with her,  but I can’t trust her to save my life. How can I resolve this? We get along great, and have awesome chemistry.

She has PTSD related issues, so I can’t approach these issues directly without her shutting down and going dead silent for two days. How can I resolve this?

“Is my wife in a relationship with my son?”

I’m a 50 year old male and I’ve been married to my current wife for about 5 years. We have a good marriage. I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. My son is 26 and recently came to live with my wife and me. I work during the day and my wife stays home with our children, ages 12 and 10.

I’ve noticed that my son and my wife spend a lot of time together. Whenever I come in from work, they are together, laughing or in deep conversation. It’s usually when I come in, they tend to get quiet or change the subject. It wasn’t until my 12 year old told me that she had seen them hugging that I really became worried. I realize it was a mistake to bring him into my home and I want him gone. My wife thinks I’m overreacting but I feel like I no longer trust either of them. It has not just affected my relationship with my wife, but most definitely my relationship with my son. What should I do?

“My girlfriend’s sister is ruining our relationship”

I’m in a relationship with the love of my life. She’s amazing and we are perfect for each other. The problem is that I’m her first serious relationship in a while, and her twin sister is having issues with me taking her sister away from her.

At first I got it, I’d feel bad too if someone took my best friend away from me. But recently she’s gotten seriously malicious towards me and I’m not sure if I’m pissed or upset or just confused as to what to do. Continue reading

“Am I in a toxic relationship?”

My ex-boyfriend and I of three years have had a very rough patch over the course of the years. We were so very in love but he did not treat me the way that I wanted to be. I had a few talks with him about what bothered me but there was little to no change. I decided to end it with him and try to see someone else.

That was a mistake. We tried working things out again but I left him once again. The next time I left him again and it went from a spiral. He wants me to quit my job in order for things to work out between us because a co-worker and I tried dating and another one currently has a liking towards me. I see where he’s coming from but I feel like this will be a mistake in the long run. I love him very much and I’m not sure what to do about the current situation. Any advice? Do you think this relationship will become even more toxic in the long run or will this solve some problems?

“Do I get back with my daughter’s dad?”

Going to try and keep it short…
I got pregnant by someone I hardly knew. The guy spent 3 years in prison and now that he’s out I thought I would try and have a civilized relationship with him for the sake of my daughter.

Now here’s the issue.. I find myself talking to him a lot now. I’m happy in a relationship already so I don’t want to, or plan on having a romantic relationship with my daughter’s dad. I’m so surprised at how good we are getting along, we laugh a lot, and it just feels so wrong. I try to stop his flirting but he is so persistent and dammit, he’s so charismatic. It’s weird, I don’t want a relationship with him, and don’t want to ruin the relationship I have now, but I’m having a hard time trying to stay away. HELP PLEASE!!

“Am I in this relationship because it feels safe?”

I’ve been in a relationship with a guy I met online when I was in high school (I’m currently a freshman in college). We instantly clicked and we’ve been dating for a little over two years. He lives in a different state. He has come to visit twice and it definitely confirmed our feelings. We work so well together and he is my first love, as well as the first person I’ve ever had sex with.

We’re both in college and both very busy but we’ve always made time for each other and while it is a long distance relationship, we are always very connected (we FaceTime, call, and text constantly). In the beginning of our relationship I hid him from my family, however, my parents found out about us and didn’t like the idea of me talking to someone I’ve never met. I spent most of my time on the phone with him and it caused a lot of tension between my parents and I, which upset me because we have always been very close. Continue reading

“Shall I date him or his best friend?”

About two months ago, my best friend since childhood confessed that he’s liked me for the last couple of years. Me, being myself, decided immediately that I wanted to preserve the friendship. We were the type of friends that both had really busy schedules but we’d hang out for hours and be at each other’s houses till the middle of the night.

So after a while of thinking things through, I decided I wanted to try a relationship. After informing him, he repeats that he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship and that he’s talking to a different girl. I know that he takes a long time to get over people in general so I’m unsure why he’s going after a different girl. I don’t know what to do. Should I hope for him to eventually stop liking her or should I get over him and date his best friend?