“I had a sex dream about a coworker”

I’m only 19 and have been in a relationship with a guy for a little over a year. This is my first serious relationship where we both have openly expressed our love for each other. He is my best friend and has been there for me through everything that I’ve gone through in the past year (it’s been a lot of sh*t to say the least). But I often have days where I feel different about him; some days I feel so happy and completely in love with him and other days I question why I’m even with him (even though he has never done anything like cheated or been physically or verbal abusive). Only downside is that I’m not really physically or sexually attracted to him; although sex is almost a daily occurrence.

Anyways now that’s there’s some background here is my dilemma. I had a sex dream about someone I work with whom I find very attractive and sweet and could even say I have a little “crush” on. After having this dream I can’t stop thinking about him. I noticed it has been affecting the way I feel about my boyfriend, but I have not made any of this known to him. I don’t really know what to do now since it has been all I can think about. I have felt this feeling of detachment with my boyfriend before but never because of someone else. Am I just looking too far into this dream or does it mean something?

 

“I don’t know how to deal with her ex’s”

Hi, I am a 26 year old man, I have recently entered what I believe to be and would like to be a serious relationship. I have some issues that I don’t know how to address. My new girlfriend is pretty good to me and seems to be loyal to the relationship.

That being said, there are several of her past intimate partners that she doesn’t want to let go of. I’m not normally a jealous person, but I’ve also never had to deal with this issue before. The primary issue is that most of her previous partners were friends of hers long before the intimacy started, and have remained friend’s after.

My issue is that when I mention having an issue with them still being around her and communicating with her, I always get excuses and reasons why I shouldn’t worry. Am I wrong for having a problem? Or is she wrong for keeping them around knowing that its an issue for me?

 

“My manager is being really weird”

I don’t know what to think of my manager. We communicate work issues through texting. He has ranted about his boss and called her names. He has also said things about other people. He calls me madame and sunshine and never uses my name, but does this with no one else.

He also has sent a hug emoticon once. The weird one that is blushing with hands. I don’t think he likes me, but the situation is weird. What is he doing?

 

“I swear she thinks my dick is small”

Hey, I’m a male. I had a pretty amazing relationship for almost an year. We enjoyed sex. She never complained. After about a year, a thing came to my mind that she had mentioned at the start of this relationship. The thing was ‘we were on a date and we started having kinda sexual chat, after some time there was a topic of dick sizes and stuff.’

Out of curiosity I asked her about her ex’s which I think I shouldn’t have done. She told me about it with gestures and was clearly bigger than my asset.  Now, I cannot get that thing out of my mind and I keep thinking about it again and again. We had numerous fights regarding this topic. I feel that I do not satisfy her. Even though she enjoys it a lot. After that thing happened last year. I have been very conscious regarding my dick size even though my girlfriend says it’s normal, it’s average, it’s not small. I think that this is for sympathy. Our relationship is on the verge of ending because of this thing. Please help.

 

“I like her, but she’s got a boyfriend”

I am a sophomore in high school, and I’ve never had a girlfriend. There is a girl in my band/the local youth orchestra who is a freshman, and I swear the most beautiful person I have ever seen. She is, in short, incredibly pretty. However, she is also very funny and shares my “interesting” sense of humor.

She is the first person I have really connected with who I would also consider a relationship with. I look forward to seeing her every day, even if I only get to talk with her for 30 seconds. The problem is: I found out last week that she has a boyfriend who she has known for years, while I am just getting to know her.

The obvious thing to do is wait, but can I really hope for anything?

“We were so happy and insanely in love”

They’ve been together since high school. But now, the stress of both college and her mom’s cancer has taken a toll on their relationship. Is it worth fighting for, or is it time to let go?

Carly says:

 I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. We hit it off senior year in high school, and have now made it through our first semester of college. We were so happy and insanely in love.

Two days before I went to college, my mom was diagnosed with stage four cancer. This obstacle has been a burden on our relationship. Every argument we get into now makes me feel even more depressed on top of all the stress I am dealing with. I have lost the joy and same amount of giddiness I have had in the past.

We have been going through an extremely rough time recently, and our relationship is suffering. I’m not sure if all this is because of what I am having to deal with or if it is time to let go. I want to fix things and I know he loves me, but I don’t know if I should be investing all my focus into fixing our relationship. The last thing I want to do is end it, but I am so tired and stressed out. I’m not sure if I have the energy to mend this. I do not want to do anything impulsive.

Travis says:

 I love Carly with all my heart. Around our one-year, we started having a lot of problems. I deeply regret the way I acted at times and apologized over and over. I am committed to making a change in things, but I don’t know if she believes me.

I am a terrible plan-maker, and that makes Carly feel like less of a priority when I forget things. I say stupid things sometimes and always end up feeling terrible about it. I just hope I did not commit to making a change when it is already too late. I am afraid I already lost her. She is not in an emotional position to fix what is broken. I got so focused on college and finding a friend group that I lost the focus I had on our relationship.

I am trying to make a change, but we seem to always be at each other’s throats still. I think she has also lost sight of how happy she has been with me in the past, and I never want her to forget that.

“I’m in love with my grandfather”

My grandfather and I are in love?

I’m 18 and he’s 70…I know it sounds terrible and awful and it’s not something that should ever happen. But he had to move in with us about six months ago and we really clicked. We binge-watched TV shows and ate ice cream and had so much fun! We just kept getting closer and closer. Eventually we sat on the same couch, and a while after that we ended up holding hands. Continue reading

“My crush turned into an obsession”

I met this one girl a few years ago and fell in love with her almost immediately. She was always outgoing and kind, and outrageously good looking. But more importantly, I felt I saw an element in her personality that no one else that I know has. And I loved it.

I felt that pursuing a relationship with her would have been remiss, however, given that we share different religious beliefs. I also assumed that I would find someone who was more attractive physically and in personality, and share my beliefs. But I still have yet to meet anyone other than her that I find attractive, and the more I try to stop thinking about it, the more lonely and frustrated I feel.

I thought that I would just have a crush on her for a few weeks, and forget about her, but thinking about not having her has become a living nightmare. I can’t stop thinking about her. This has been going on for three years, and is quickly becoming an obsession. Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

“Do I pursue a relationship with her?”

I met this one girl a few years ago and fell in love with her almost immediately. She was always outgoing and kind, and outrageously good looking. But more importantly, I saw an element in her personality that no one else that I know, has. And I loved it. I felt that pursuing a relationship with her would have been remiss, however, given that we share different religious beliefs.

I also assumed that I would find someone who was more attractive physically and in personality, and share my beliefs. But I still have yet to meet anyone other than her that I find attractive, and the more I try to stop thinking about it, the more lonely and frustrated I feel. I thought that I would just have a crush on her for a few weeks, and forget about her, but thinking about not having her has become a living nightmare. I can’t stop thinking about her. This has been going on for three years, and is quickly becoming an obsession. Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

“A co-worker is trying to ruin our relationship”

I am in the early stages of a relationship, and everything is going great. But, a former co-worker has decided that myself and her have “dated”, and messaged my new girl saying that we were still dating, so look out. It has dealt a pretty serious blow to our relationship, and we are looking to repair it. My current girlfriend worked with her in a networking group and may have slighted the girl that is trying to wedge into our relationship.

What would be the best way to handle this? We have thought of inviting this person out to call them to task, or to message her back, but I’m thinking this is just giving our relationship power, to her. On the flip side, we thought about just ignoring it and not giving it any energy. Thoughts?