“My male best friend has a girlfriend”

I have a male best friend. He’s always been in love with me but I was in a relationship and that created some distance . I broke off my relationship due to some issues and we became quite close again.

But then I thought he was over me but suddenly he’s seeing this girl and they are dating. We both lost our virginity to each other and he keeps saying he wishes he could be with me. I can’t stand him dating her and I think I should break things off with him. We still have sex often, even though he now has a girlfriend. I’m just confused on what to do.

“I don’t know if I was sexually assaulted, or if I cheated on my boyfriend”

I went out one night with my best friends and a newer guy friend who had been taking me and my boyfriend out on his boat. I met this guy though a mutual friend. He seemed like a pretty cool guy and seemed to be interested in one of my friends who was there.

The night had started out really fun. We went to a few places to get drinks and play games like ping pong, pool, corn hole. He spent a lot of time talking to my friend. By the end of the night, we ended back at the hotel we started off with for drinks. We weren’t in any position to drive, and I was extremely tired, so I said, “let’s just get a room.”

I have many guy friends, so I know how to share a space and sleep. Things don’t need to happen just because we’re in the same room or even bed. The night took a turn for the worst once we got up to the room, though. I remember plopping into bed and being ready to just pass out. Then I heard him and my friend making sounds. I could tell he was trying to get some action from her. I was on the end of the bed, my friend was in the middle, and he was on the opposite end. I couldn’t tell if she wanted what he was doing to her, but I remember at one point, I threw myself around her, as if I was spooning her from behind, and crossed my leg over her body, so he would hopefully stop and leave her alone. Continue reading

“I don’t see us getting together because of our families”

My best guy friend told me that he likes me like a lot, and I am confused. We have been friends for more than a year. I am single and I don t want to be in relationship, and I never had one before.

I have promised my mom to not have one until I graduate (we are both 19). I don’t think I am mature enough for a relationship, but deep down, I feel I also like him, as most of the time I can’t stop thinking about him.

We are really close, but I ended up telling him that I don t want to be in a relationship with anyone, and the friendship we have is more important than that. This was three months ago. We talk on and off now, because he always ends up telling me that he wants me and can’t get me out of his head, and my other girl best friend (who is also friends with him) keeps telling me how much he wants me and is really heartbroken. Continue reading

“Her male best friend told her to break up with me”

A few months ago, my girlfriend broke up with me after we had an argument. (It was an online relationship and I know it sounds crazy, but we just clicked.) We were talking and she told me she had to think, so I let her go for a while. About 30 minutes later she finally called and we talked. I tried to come to a happy medium so we could both be content, but she told me no. And that she’s so sorry through her crying, she just ended it. Her reasoning was that she didn’t have time for me with school and money problems arising. I had always felt like there was more to it.

Flash forward to now (months later), she tells me her “best friend” at the time told her to break up with me. But he then went on to tell her that he had liked her a month after she broke up with me. She denied him, but it just upsets me. I feel like she shouldn’t have brought him into it at all on that level. Am I right to feel this way?

“How do I get out of the friend zone?”

I’m crazy over this girl who I’ve know for years. She has me friend-zoned. I’ve told her before about my feelings and it didn’t work. So we’re still really close and she texts/snapchats me all the time and is constantly looking for my attention, but keeps me friend-zoned. I think maybe she is waiting for me to mature a little because, I can admit, she’s a lot more mature than me. I’m more into partying and drinking, and she’s more into studying and going to bed at nine o’clock.

We’re both 21, and I really think it could work between us. I don’t let the fact that I have feelings for her stop me from living my life. I’m open to meeting other girls, but, if she ever called me I’d leave any date at the drop of a dime. I’ve tried forgetting her and ignoring her, but I’ve never lasted more than a few days.

I wanna give up so badly but at the same time I’m clinging on to the little hope I have. One night we were both talking about how lonely we were and she told me that she wished she had more options and wouldn’t have to settle and that really hurt. But you can’t force anyone to like you and can’t get mad if they don’t. My analysis of the whole thing is she keeps me wanting her by giving me just enough of her attention but keeps me friend-zoned.

“I’m in love with my best friend, but he gives me mixed signals”

I have known this guy M since 2010, and we have been friends since. However, we did move away for a few years and both recently moved back to the same city, so our contact has been off and on for a long time.

Earlier this year in April, we started meeting up with one another, and I have always thought he was a good-looking man, but after seeing him this time, I was very attracted to him in a way I had not been before when we first met back in 2010. Anyways, since April we have started seeing each other regularly — hanging out and going out once or twice a week — and have gotten very close. We completely trust each other, we discovered we have a lot in common and expect the same thing out of relationships.

One day we were hanging out watching a movie, and he started holding my hand, so I was really excited, because I was thinking “holy crap he must have feelings for me.” Since then, we have been cuddling, and he’s started showing me a lot of affection. Sometimes I stay overnight and we cuddle and sleep. We however have never been sexual. He has kissed me on the face and playfully bit me on the neck once. When we cuddle, he touches my hips, so to me, that is more than just friendly, right? Continue reading

“I miss my best friend”

I have a question, well, it is almost more like a long-winded life story that requires a solution to solidify a happy ending.

Here goes. In Grade 8, I changed schools, and I met my best friend, I’ll call him Marty. Anyway, at first, Marty and I were indifferent towards each other, until one day, we started speaking, and then we discovered that we were cut from the same cloth, if you will. From then on, we were inseparable. In the beginning of our Grade 9 year, Marty and I started dating, but the relationship, although absolutely wonderful, was short-lived, lasting just longer than a month. Marty ended our relationship very abruptly, and, as I found out later, this was because he has issues with trust, and, apparently, did not believe that I was really the person that I made myself out to be. Regardless, the split broke my 15-year-old heart, as far as a 15 year-old’s heart can be broken.

I was devastated and sought comfort in a group of girls, who introduced my young self to weed, alcohol, and other mind-numbing substances. I spent the remainder of my Grade 9 year, completely wrapped in a bubble of somber depression and a substance induced haze. I told myself that when Grade 10 came, I would straighten my life out and focus on my studies. And then Grade 10 rolled on in, and, on the first day of the school year, I found out that Marty was in every single one of my classes, except for one. So, I made up my mind to mend bridges, and I did this quite effectively, and in a short while we were inseparable again. Continue reading

“How do I end a friendship?”

I have a friend I don’t want to be friends with any longer. We were good friends in high school, but never particularly close. Since then, we’ve gradually lost contact and went our separate ways. However, he keeps contacting me from time to time, and I honestly cannot hold a conversation with him. Our lives and our interests are simply too different now. Plus he’s like, a super opinionated elitist, so any conversation I try to have with him always ends up with him trying to show off, while I defend my interests from his uninvited critique. I seriously hate talking about tv or games with him. His tastes are awful too.

I don’t want to make up with him or overcome this. I just don’t really want to exchange niceties with him every so often anymore. Occasionally he sends some pretty weird things for a platonic friend as well, like little hearts and stuff. I’ve never been attracted to this pasty fool, and it makes my boyfriend really uncomfortable as well. Continue reading

“One minute he’s flirtatious, the next minute he’s distant”

I am VERY confused. About a month ago, I started college and on my first day I met this boy in one of my courses. Immediately I was attracted to him and after a couple weeks passed and conversations started to flow, I started to gradually develop feelings for him. However, I was scared to ever admit this to him for many reasons. Despite the fact we had only known each other for a short amount of time, he was also always mentioning that since he has started college he has had to “friend-zone” a bunch of girls, as the attention from them was becoming annoying and he was only looking for a friendship. I didn’t want to be added to this list.

After texting him for a while, we decided to meet up for the first time outside of college. He came round mine and we hung out for a few hours. Everything was going fine and we were both more comfortable around each other compared to how we were at college.

However, things soon got very confusing, as at the end of the night we kissed. Usually I don’t kiss someone who I am only friends with, but something felt right and honestly I couldn’t have been happier. Continue reading