“I think I want to be more than friends”

I started talking to this guy from my college like one and a half months ago, I barely knew him and never ever talked to him before, but it felt great texting and talking to him online. The very first day we kept talking for long and had even assigned ‘bye signs’ for each other on fb. He is an introvert and I was the only girl he talked to for so long.

The first month, since we were home, we only talked on social media. And then I met him and he was absolutely different than the person I used to text, he was definitely more closed, didn’t talk much. We met again, like 5 times now, and he is more okay with me now, is a little less weird. I like him a lot, he is my buddy, I like talking to him a lot. Now, I have reached a stage where I miss him if we have not talked for like 2-3 hours. I want to talk to him. Every morning I wake up thinking of him and message him first and he is the one I say goodnight before I sleep. And it has just been 40 days of talking. But I know for sure that he is not the guy I want to date.

Can anybody tell me what’s going on? Is it okay, to care for someone so much, want to talk to someone, expect and blush when they compliment you, want to go out with them but still want to be just friends?


“This long distance relationship is getting too distant”

So me and this guy have tried to hold a long-distance relationship. We met in the summer ,but we don’t see each other anymore. I had mixed up feelings if I liked him or not. Now I am certain of it. When I first met him though, I was kind of conserved about my feelings. I still am. He never told me how he felt about me though. I told him through a text message that I liked him, even though I wanted to do it face to face but we can’t meet each other at places. I really want to know how he feels about me.

We haven’t spoken to each other in about 2 months. I am trying to forget about him but I like him. We did what any couple did except “that”. I never had the chance though, to ask him any questions about him. Even though he gave me his phone number, we hardly texted each other. At first we texted each other every week, but now it has lessened. I don’t know if he ever liked me at all or just saw me as a one time thing.

He is very optimistic about everything. I don’t know if I should forget about him. I am thinking that next year in summer if I ever see him where we met, I am hoping to have a chance to talk to him. The only problem though is that my mom doesn’t know about it and never knew about him and I. I text him but he hardly texts back. We video chatted sometimes and called each other, but we never knew what to say to each other. I still hold feelings for him but I want to know what he feels about me. . I seriously don’t know what to do.


“He gave me his number then ignored me”

So there is this guy who I know because he works for my parents. He is 3 years older than me and super cool! We talk occasionally when at my parents’ work and what not. So over the New Year’s I went to a festival which he was also attending, we both knew that each other was going as we had talked about it months prior.

About 2 months before the festival was gonna happen, I went to a work function and he was there also, we were talking about the festival and he ended up giving me his number and said give us a call when you’re up there, if anything goes wrong or you wanna hang, and I was like yep cool awesome!

So once the festival comes around I was debating whether to get in contact with him or not, because I was scared he wouldn’t want to hang and because low key I find him attractive and have a little crush. I got up the courage to message him on the first day to which I got no reply. On the third day I rang him and no answer and later that night I messaged him on Facebook so I would know if he read my message. Again no reply. I was feeling kind of bummed because I was really hoping to catch up with him at the festival.

Two days after the festival I posted something on Instagram to which he viewed it, so I know he has been on his phone. Why do you think he would give me his number and then ignore my efforts to reach out? Also please note 4 days after my Facebook message he hasn’t opened it even though he has been online.

“I’m not sure why he’s being distant”

So I have been with this guy I met off Tinder for about 6 months. I met him in March of 2017 and ended things with him in May 2017 since he didn’t want to be in a relationship and I did. He came back around during the summer in June and told me how much he fucked up, how much he was trying to resist the person he truly wanted.

So, me being the one who still had major feelings for this guy – I gave in and we started talking again. Our relationship seems to be organic, we can be ourselves with each other, it’s so comfortable being around him. But it seems like I am always the one who opens up to him and tells him how much I like him and don’t want to lose him, etc. He recently graduated and went back to his mom’s for a few weeks but now he doesn’t really talk to me. Continue reading

“I like him but he’s creeping me out”

There is this guy who was an acquaintance of mine who somehow got my phone number 6 years ago. He texted me and I texted back because I didn’t see any harm in it. I found funny pictures to send or sometimes we would just chat about our day. I guess a friendship sort of developed from this, but from the beginning he’s been trying to push for a romantic relationship that I have never shown any interest in.

He sometimes texts me creepy comments or takes my pictures of of my social media and types text over them, about how bad he wants me and he sends them to me or posts then on my wall. Today he recorded himself saying my name and making weird noises, and sent it to me and it was super creepy and uncomfortable. I told him that but he said he was trying to be funny. It was not.

I’m really shy and I don’t like to hurt people’s feelings. And I feel like some of it is my fault because I continued to talk to him even though I was not interested.

Lately I ignore his texts for days at a time but end up responding because I feel bad because he’s been there when I needed to talk for the last 6 years! Honestly, he creeps me out so much but I don’t know how else I can tell him without hurting him.

Please help me.


“I lost my virginity to him and he never calls me”

Hi 🙂 I’ve been pretty sad lately. All throughout middle school and high school, guys had limited interest in me. As a senior in high school, I got a job at a pizza shop. This was the first time a guy really gave me attention. I don’t think I really knew how to handle myself. We started texting in April and our first date was in May. We had a few dates and then he started getting busy during the day with questionable friends (he hadn’t gotten drunk until he started hanging out with them).

We kept texting everyday until probably late July. Sometime during that time I invited him to sneak over to my parents house at night so we could hang out again. He did and we made out and watched a movie. Then he went on a trip and the texting got sparser. I went on a trip later in early August so we could hang out. Then he snuck over once more before I went away for college about 3 hours away. Continue reading

“Was she playing with me?”

I met this girl at clothing store. I was with my daughter. I wrote my phone number on the receipt and gave it to her. She texts me a couple of days later. We set up a date and she shows up late, she said she couldn’t find the place, which was odd, but I went to meet her and help her find the place. The date was shorter because of this, so we hiked for about 1/2 hr, and talked for another 40 min. It was nice, there seemed to be chemistry.

We continued to text for several days and sometimes phone interaction, things still seemed okay, however I tried to set up another date. She sort of had excuses. Realized that she was a friend of the bottle. Continue reading

“I feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him”

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he and my children bonded quickly and the family dynamic between the 4 of us felt effortless and we were all happy.

Since we’ve been married though, I have found text messages between him and 3 different girls. I tried to improve myself to see if he would stop, I thought it was something I was doing to push him away but then I found out he was saying awful things about me and my kids to a girl while he was telling me how much he loved me. Continue reading

“Shall I ask him outright how he feels?”

Hi, I’m a bisexual guy and I’ve been meeting up with this guy for a few weeks now for sex basically, I’ve been to his a few times he’s been to mine etc, and the other day I told him that I actually like him, he seemed to kind of avoid saying anything like he likes me etc…

He’s really talkative in person but seems to be lacking in texting skills and always seems to blank my message when a topic becomes overused in a conversation instead of what people normally do and divert it over to something else… and as he’s blanked the message I don’t want to look like a fool by messaging him to start the conversation again.

I’m really not too sure how to go about it as some of my mates have told me just to ask him outright how he feels/if he feels anything for me and what he wants, but I don’t really want to force him into anything, or drive him away especially only having known each other for around three weeks…


“My boyfriend of 6 years is texting another girl”

My boyfriend and I of 6 years have broken up and have been broken up for almost 2 weeks now. We’ve been dating since high school. Ever since we’ve broken up, not much has changed. We still see each other everyday, he’s still on my phone plan (we have a great rate) and are pretty much on this break to work on being better so we have a stronger relationship once/if we get back together.

Yesterday, he kept telling me that he loves me and that I’m his best friend and that more likely than not, we’ll be together in the end. I felt that he brought it up kind of randomly and that there was something peculiar about what he was saying. With lack of better judgement, I look at his phone records and it says that he’s been texting someone.

He had been texting this person since 8am all way until 12 at night. This morning I confronted him about this just to see where we stand and if he is moving on to someone else. He says that they they are “just talking” and they are “just friends”. In the last six years he has never had any female friends, he works a retail job for his parents and only has 2 coworkers that he always complains about. I even looked up her name and the area that this girl lives in, which is not in our local area. He says that he loves me and just me and cares about just me and that he’s only interested in investing his time in me.

I find it kind of hard to believe that I’m the only one, when he texts somebody else 15 hours a day. He says it’s not going anywhere. And today he even texted her at like 6.30 in the morning.

Should I trust what he tells me? I feel that his actions/reactions are not adding up. Is it really that likely that if a guy and girl were texting for 8am-past midnight were not interested in each other? For those of you who are familiar with the show Friends, I am Team Ross. I don’t think my ex is doing anything wrong by texting her, but I don’t believe that he has feelings for just me as he is trying to lead me to believe. I am looking forward to hearing advice from outside parties. Please indicate if you are a male or female so I can understand your perspective. Thanks.