“Am I in this relationship because it feels safe?”

I’ve been in a relationship with a guy I met online when I was in high school (I’m currently a freshman in college). We instantly clicked and we’ve been dating for a little over two years. He lives in a different state. He has come to visit twice and it definitely confirmed our feelings. We work so well together and he is my first love, as well as the first person I’ve ever had sex with.

We’re both in college and both very busy but we’ve always made time for each other and while it is a long distance relationship, we are always very connected (we FaceTime, call, and text constantly). In the beginning of our relationship I hid him from my family, however, my parents found out about us and didn’t like the idea of me talking to someone I’ve never met. I spent most of my time on the phone with him and it caused a lot of tension between my parents and I, which upset me because we have always been very close. Continue reading

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“My racist parents are ruining my relationship”

I’ll just keep it simple here. I am a white female and I have a crush on a black male. This is perfectly normal and I am not racist and am accepting of all people. My parents on the other hand, are very racist, to the point where they remind me by threatening me to not be interested in anybody but white guys.

I really have a good thing going with this black boy that I really like but I don’t know what to do. They won’t change their views but I’m 17 and have my own opinions and I am my own person. They can’t force their views onto me. And I’m not going to let them stand in the way of something like this over something as ridiculous as skin color… any advice?

“My newly divorced dad is falling apart”

I’m a 24 year old lesbian living with my dad. Just got out of the military 6 months ago. I have a job and help with bills etc. I moved back in with my newly divorced dad. Mom cheated. Now I’m seeing a whole new side of my dad that I don’t like. He gets new girlfriends and tries to show off in front of them by talking bad about how I’m messy (when he’s the messy one,) and tries to basically make me look like a child.

He went in my bathroom and showed her my dildo in the shower lol.. which I use to suction the drain shut. (I’m desperate) … Anyway, I’m just wondering if I’m over reacting or if that’s messed up? He also doesn’t care to spend time with me or my sisters. And spent all my grandma’s will money that she had saved for my mom. He can’t pay bills, so I’m helping, my wife is helping, and he continues to talk down to us. I don’t know what to do.

“My husband invites his parents when we go out”

Any time I ask my husband to go somewhere or do something we plan it out, but then he “uses the bathroom” and calls his mom and invites her and his dad along. It ends up that I don’t go. I do not want to spend time with them,  I want to spend time with my husband.

We went out to eat on Saturday night and I wanted pozole but he invited his mom and we went somewhere else. It just really bothers me.

“My dad and stepmom are keeping me on lockdown”

I can’t seem to find a solution to this. My Dad and Stepmom have been keeping me on “lockdown” because of my insufficient grades and not doing chores, but I have all A’s and B’s (although admittedly more B’s), and I’m really stressed out all the time with varsity sports and trying to figure out my life as a high school junior.

They say that the problem is that I can handle everything on my plate if I just apply myself, but I signed up for three college classes and play a full-time sport, and it’s always taking a toll on me. I try to explain that I’m constantly stressed out and questioning what my motivations for doing all this are, but they only see my pleas as excuses for not doing stuff. Continue reading

“Is my dad only staying to keep the family together? “

My Mom and Dad recently got into a rather large fight and had announced to my sister and I that they planned on getting a divorce. Obviously, this was very tough for us. My Dad had a sit down with my sister and I, and said that he didn’t love my mom anymore, and that the sparks weren’t there anymore (married for 16 years).

However, today they said that they were okay and that nothing was going to change. Do you guys think they really made things better or if my Dad is only staying to keep the family together? I’m scared that he really does feel the way he said and that he is only staying because he doesn’t want us kids to feel badly. Please give your opinions.

“I’m depressed with my home situation”

I am 30 and I have been with my girlfriend who’s 26, for 7 years and we are engaged. We have a 4 year old chocolate labrador and live with my girlfriend’s brother and their mum in her house.

It is very stressful living here, my girlfriend’s mum is very opinionated and suffers from mental instability. She is on antidepressants and is very hot and cold with her emotions. My girlfriend is studying animal conservation at University and her brother works part time at a farm. Their mum works at a school full time. I work full time as a security manager. I know this is all over the place but it’s hard to think what I want to say so thanks for bearing with me.

There are constant arguments over all sorts of things. I argue with my girlfriend’s mum, which I hate, as I’m living under her roof so it feels majorly awkward. My girlfriend’s brother hardly works any hours so gets hardly any money which makes matters worse as he doesn’t pay his way at all. My girlfriend’s mum wants my girlfriend and I to pay for his share of bills,  but I think it’s unfair as he makes no effort to get a full time job. He’s very picky about where he will work. We can’t move out because I am in some debt and can’t afford to rent a house big enough for the 2 of us and our dog.  My girlfriend only gets student loan money which is soon to stop as she graduates this year so she can’t pay towards it.

I get massively depressed and sometimes feel like I need to leave the situation, break off the engagement and get out, but I can’t. We have been together through a lot and I love my girlfriend too much to quit on her. I worry that she will never find a job and will just end up working a crap job and we won’t be able to afford to move out. We want to start our life together and have a family but it really feels like it will never happen. What shall I do?

“Do we need to move out of my parents’ house?”

I need some advice on how to handle/move forward on a situation.  My husband and I have been living with my parents as we search for our first home. We’ve been married 2+ years and have rented until Nov. 2015 when we moved in with my parents. We were hoping it would be between 6 months to a year for us to pay off some debt, save some money and find our new home.

We have been here now  for 14 months with nice savings in the bank and completely debt free. We’ve looked at houses in and around town. We’ve had nothing but busts. We’ve wasted over $1,000 on inspections and we’re completely frustrated with the process.   Continue reading

“I don’t think my Dad wants to be kept alive”

3 years ago my father had a serious accident where he fractured his skull and had lack of oxygen to the brain. Since the accident he has been in a permanent vegetative state and all doctors who have seen him have said there is no chance of recovery at all. So effectively he is a bed ridden corpse.

My mother is insistent on keeping him alive for as long as possible at great expense, but I know my father and he would never want to be kept alive in this way. She simply will not listen to any of the other family member’s wishes and thinks this is the right thing for him. I don’t. I am the only son and my 4 sisters and half brother all pander to her wishes as they know she has a wicked temper and perhaps don’t want to be scolded. Continue reading

“I hate my dad and I never loved him”

I live with my mom and dad . These days I’m feeling a little distanced with my family especially with my dad. My dad drinks daily, he comes home after work, locks himself in his room and starts drinking for no reason. My mom never took a stand and stopped him. She has always cared about what other people will think about our family.

I hate my dad and I never loved him. I’m so frustrated living with them. I feel helpless and somewhere I’m afraid to stop such behavior of my dad because he starts abusing my mother and me when anyone says anything against him. I really don’t know what to do.