“This long distance relationship is getting too distant”

So me and this guy have tried to hold a long-distance relationship. We met in the summer ,but we don’t see each other anymore. I had mixed up feelings if I liked him or not. Now I am certain of it. When I first met him though, I was kind of conserved about my feelings. I still am. He never told me how he felt about me though. I told him through a text message that I liked him, even though I wanted to do it face to face but we can’t meet each other at places. I really want to know how he feels about me.

We haven’t spoken to each other in about 2 months. I am trying to forget about him but I like him. We did what any couple did except “that”. I never had the chance though, to ask him any questions about him. Even though he gave me his phone number, we hardly texted each other. At first we texted each other every week, but now it has lessened. I don’t know if he ever liked me at all or just saw me as a one time thing.

He is very optimistic about everything. I don’t know if I should forget about him. I am thinking that next year in summer if I ever see him where we met, I am hoping to have a chance to talk to him. The only problem though is that my mom doesn’t know about it and never knew about him and I. I text him but he hardly texts back. We video chatted sometimes and called each other, but we never knew what to say to each other. I still hold feelings for him but I want to know what he feels about me. . I seriously don’t know what to do.

 

“How do I tell them I’m dating him?”

I’m 15 and I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months. We are really happy and he’s been a good influence. But I’m indian. My parents are fairly strict and it’s rather late, so telling them about him now is going to be a bit scary. How do I tell them?

PS – My mom asked me if I’m dating him and I denied it.

 

“I have to lie to my parents about my boyfriend”

This maybe long and I’m sorry. I have been having issues my parents for the longest time about my boyfriend. We have been dating for about four years and we have been through so much together. The problem is that my parents restrict me in seeing him often and blame him for my own faults.

I’ve also given up my virginity to him, and when my parents suspected that it may have happened, my father was ready to hurt me. I had to lie because I know they wouldn’t be able to handle the truth very well. I also know that I shouldn’t have lied and I’ll have to tell them eventually, but not right now. My parents also believe that he’s a distraction but I’ve maintained my grades with A’s and B’s. We are also taking many precautions before doing stuff together. Nothing I say seems to get across to them, I’m an adult and I believe that I’m making the best possible decisions that I can. Maybe I’m wrong? Can I have insight please?

 

“Am I a bad person for hating my mom’s boyfriend?”

Well, let me tell you my story. Ever since I could remember, my parents fought a lot, the times they got along were really rare, and so precious memories I’ll always keep. Then they got divorced, which was not really that surprising. I got to see my dad about once every other month. Like two years later, my mom got a boyfriend. Which was cool and all, since it meant my mom was getting better. Continue reading

“I want to see a therapist”

For the past couple of months I’ve felt like I might have anxiety and/or depression. I really want to get a therapist because I find it easiest venting to strangers. I don’t know how to bring up the issue with my parents. I’m afraid they’ll see it as some type of phase, as I’m only twelve but I just want to look out for myself I guess. Any advice?

“My parents have loud sex and I can’t sleep”

I’m 13 and I have been having a problem. For the past couple nights my parents have had very loud sex. My room is right next to theirs. One might say this isn’t too bad however as someone who is asexual and extremely prone to anxiety, this has been making it almost impossible for me to get sleep (which is really crappy because I have a friend coming over soon).

I think last night really messed with me because my mom and emotionally unstable dad had been fighting a lot the past week. I had literally worried he had killed her, as when ten minutes earlier she had stormed out of the house with no explanation and then when they came back my dad said “Calm down, [mom name]”. Not only was there the extreme anxiety and fear of my dad but on top of that them having sex mad me extremely anxious as well. Continue reading

“Grad school is stressing me out and I’m lonely”

Grad school has taken such a toll on me. I am earning a doctorate. I just moved back in with my parents so I can finish writing so I can get my degree ahead of schedule. I ended a relationship of four years in my first year of phd, and ever since I’ve been keeping a loop of guys to release some tension.

But now… I’ve never been more lonely. I moved out of the big city into a small town so I don’t have to stay in this program for the 6 yrs allotted (currently in my fourth). My day consists of waking up, French Lessons, working on my doc until 6, working out, dinner with the parents, sleep. I love this routine and I can see my progress, but I am so alone! I rationalised doing this for 6 months so I can pump out this baby and start my next step, but longing for human connection (beyond my wonderful parents) is making me unbelievably sad!

I can’t take on a relationship right now, and I left my hook-up loop players back in the big city. Any suggestions on how to alleviate some of this loneliness without jeopardising my routine?

Thanks!

Pre-doc saddy

“My mum caught me talking to a boy”

I am a Syrian muslim girl, born and raised in England, turning 20 in a month. I am second year Pharmacy student, currently revising for my end of year exams (eeek), I wish that was my problem though, but oh nono nooo.

Basically, I have a group of friends- consisting of girls, but this year a group of boys have become closer to us, and me and this guy- Foyzul have become really close- we call ourselves library buddies- we go to the library together everyday and get a lot of work done, and it’s really good; we motivate each other a lot- I get more work done when I’m with him. So we are currently on our holidays, and we’ve still been talking- video calling, mainly to motivate each other to revise, and ask each other for help etc etc. Continue reading

“I want my girlfriend back so much”

My girlfriend recently broke up with me after we were in the most ideal and wonderful relationship. We’re both seventeen, and maybe it was just us being young, but even people around us have commented that we seemed to have some sort of deeper connection, and the whole thing felt very soulmate-ish, if that makes sense.

The thing is, that we’re both girls, and things started to go downhill after my parents found out. Continue reading