“I’m depressed with my home situation”

I am 30 and I have been with my girlfriend who’s 26, for 7 years and we are engaged. We have a 4 year old chocolate labrador and live with my girlfriend’s brother and their mum in her house.

It is very stressful living here, my girlfriend’s mum is very opinionated and suffers from mental instability. She is on antidepressants and is very hot and cold with her emotions. My girlfriend is studying animal conservation at University and her brother works part time at a farm. Their mum works at a school full time. I work full time as a security manager. I know this is all over the place but it’s hard to think what I want to say so thanks for bearing with me.

There are constant arguments over all sorts of things. I argue with my girlfriend’s mum, which I hate, as I’m living under her roof so it feels majorly awkward. My girlfriend’s brother hardly works any hours so gets hardly any money which makes matters worse as he doesn’t pay his way at all. My girlfriend’s mum wants my girlfriend and I to pay for his share of bills,  but I think it’s unfair as he makes no effort to get a full time job. He’s very picky about where he will work. We can’t move out because I am in some debt and can’t afford to rent a house big enough for the 2 of us and our dog.  My girlfriend only gets student loan money which is soon to stop as she graduates this year so she can’t pay towards it.

I get massively depressed and sometimes feel like I need to leave the situation, break off the engagement and get out, but I can’t. We have been together through a lot and I love my girlfriend too much to quit on her. I worry that she will never find a job and will just end up working a crap job and we won’t be able to afford to move out. We want to start our life together and have a family but it really feels like it will never happen. What shall I do?

“Do we need to move out of my parents’ house?”

I need some advice on how to handle/move forward on a situation.  My husband and I have been living with my parents as we search for our first home. We’ve been married 2+ years and have rented until Nov. 2015 when we moved in with my parents. We were hoping it would be between 6 months to a year for us to pay off some debt, save some money and find our new home.

We have been here now  for 14 months with nice savings in the bank and completely debt free. We’ve looked at houses in and around town. We’ve had nothing but busts. We’ve wasted over $1,000 on inspections and we’re completely frustrated with the process.   Continue reading

“I don’t think my Dad wants to be kept alive”

3 years ago my father had a serious accident where he fractured his skull and had lack of oxygen to the brain. Since the accident he has been in a permanent vegetative state and all doctors who have seen him have said there is no chance of recovery at all. So effectively he is a bed ridden corpse.

My mother is insistent on keeping him alive for as long as possible at great expense, but I know my father and he would never want to be kept alive in this way. She simply will not listen to any of the other family member’s wishes and thinks this is the right thing for him. I don’t. I am the only son and my 4 sisters and half brother all pander to her wishes as they know she has a wicked temper and perhaps don’t want to be scolded. Continue reading

“I hate my dad and I never loved him”

I live with my mom and dad . These days I’m feeling a little distanced with my family especially with my dad. My dad drinks daily, he comes home after work, locks himself in his room and starts drinking for no reason. My mom never took a stand and stopped him. She has always cared about what other people will think about our family.

I hate my dad and I never loved him. I’m so frustrated living with them. I feel helpless and somewhere I’m afraid to stop such behavior of my dad because he starts abusing my mother and me when anyone says anything against him. I really don’t know what to do.

“My parents are kicking me out of the house, and I have nowhere to go”

In May of 2015, my boyfriend of three years broke up with me. He was my best friend, and he stopped talking to me altogether. The stress and emotional turmoil on top of my depression and anxiety caused me to have to go to the hospital for mental instability. This was the year I graduated high school.

That summer I got better (mainly by being so high on the medicines from the hospital) that I went off to college that fall. The work load was so much on top of being drugged out of my mind that I physically could not do it, and to get a medical withdrawal, I had to go back to the hospital. Ever since, then my parents have bitched about me going back, but I don’t know what to do with my life, and I don’t want to waste my time or money to not do anything with a bullshit degree.

Ever since I dropped out I have had a job. In May of 2016, I tried to move out because of my parents being the abusive asshats they are, and my mom sent me to the hospital because “I obviously had to be crazy to not live with her.”

Once I got out, I still lived with the guy I was with, but two months later things didn’t work out, so I moved back in. I started dating one of my coworkers (let’s call him Jim) and we both got fired. I really loved Jim and he seemed to love me too. He lived with his mom, stepdad, and four siblings. We both found other jobs and he didn’t live far from me. Continue reading

“How do I get away from my dysfunctional family?”

Why are my parents so dumb?

You probably read that and said, “that’s no way to talk about your parents!” Well, once you read this, you’ll be asking the question too.

I grew up with ridicule, abuse, both physically and mentally, and neglect. They literally did not care about our health or well being, but only about our grades (which still turned out poorly due to all of this harsh abuse).

My mother smokes and gambles behind our backs. We tell her to stop, but she has a real gambling problem now. Constantly sneaking out, pouring thousands of dollars into slot machines. Leaving at 10:30pm and returning at 8am. She once withdrew so much money from my account, the bank had sent me emails about suspicious activity, soon finding out that it was my mom.

Now, my dad on the other hand, is another story. He’s selfish. Continue reading

“My dad is overprotective and tells me not to follow my dreams”

I don’t know what to do about my dad. He and I have always disagreed on how I should live my life (I’m 19). He thinks that I shouldn’t follow my dreams, and that I should instead go to college to get a degree in something I don’t even like and have a career in something I hate.

My dream is to travel the world, and he HATES that I want to do that. He’s worried about my safety out in the dangerous world (which I understand) but traveling is the thing that makes me feel like I have a purpose, and it’s the reason I get out of bed everyday, I have an adventurous soul! So we’ve been fighting for the last couple years about how I should live my life.

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“I don’t want to go on holiday with my wife’s elderly parents”

My wife of 12 years is angry because I don’t want to go on holiday with her elderly parents. The thing is, we have already been away once this year, have another holiday next week with grandkids and another for me and her at new year. She doesn’t even have to work as I give her money every month, too.

It’s not just down to cost either, as I can’t stand her parents. They constantly bicker and have really bad and embarrassing manners. Wife is saying that they are old now and may not have many more holidays but her mum goes on about 3 or 4 holidays every year anyway. I feel like I am being blackmailed. Am I being unreasonable?

“My parents care about my brother more than me”

I am really confused and I need some family advice!

I feel like my parents care about my brother more than me! Every time he asks them for something, they are always more than happy to give him what he wants. For instance, he asked to be taken to a summer camp about an hour-and-a-half away from where we live, but when I asked to go to a church youth group two minutes away from where we live, my mother told me that no one wanted to take me. And at that time, my parents had friends over, which i understand….but still. Its only two minutes down the road.

And also, they let my brother invite friends over and even go out to other friends homes, but when I ask, I am always told no. I feel like they hate me and love my brother. Please help! What should I do?

“My dad and his girlfriend have become overbearing parents”

Okay, so I live at home with my dad. He hates me, doesn’t trust me, calls me names on a daily basis, etc. He has a girlfriend who is very strict with her kids as well, and she gives my dad advice on “how to fix me.”

She taught him how to put parental restrictions on my phone (which means I can’t FaceTime, delete apps, download apps, and I have no camera or safari). The current app that I have on my phone is a game that I have replayed numerous times and is about two years old. I have no social media, and my father says I cannot be trusted enough to get it back. My dad’s girlfriend also told my dad that I was giving her the cold shoulder and giving her dirty looks behind my dad’s back (which I DID NOT do), and I have gotten into even more trouble because of that.