Around two years ago, my fiance (now husband, lets call him Joe) and I broke up and shortly after, I started seeing another guy. He was married, but separated, and there was an undeniable spark and attraction between us from the second we met. I was madly in love with him (lets call him Will), and if I’m honest, I still have very strong feelings for him. Very long story short: some complications came up with his wife and son and custody/divorce so we stopped dating. The last thing I wanted was to cause an issue with his son.
After we stopped dating, I was devastated and knew that Joe would take me back and we could be some kind of happy (which we are). This all happened within 4 months or so. The issue is that shortly after I married my husband (a month or so) I discovered that I was pregnant with Will’s child. A girl. We had talked about kids in the hope that one day we might have one together and we both wanted a little girl to share our lives with. And just after I learned the gender, I had a miscarriage. I’m still so heartbroken over it. I want to tell Will what happened, but it’s been so long and I’m married and he is seeing someone else… I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone. No one knows except me and I feel like he deserves to know, but at the same time I don’t want to cause trouble with his girlfriend. What do I do?
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I wouldn’t tell Will anything. He will think you are being manipulative. You don’t owe him a explanation for anything, because he’s no longer involved with you.
However, please look into morning counseling groups. You have very valid feelings over the death of your child. internet hugs
I’m so sorry for your loss.