“I’m 25 years old and I’ve never had sex”

I want to but I’m so socially awkward that I push away anyone who’s interested. The only guys I’ve ever kissed were those who surprised me. I’m mad at myself that I didn’t let it get further with the first guy when I was 16. I was drunk, he was experienced and I had a big crush on him.

Now, nine years later, I’m still a virgin. I want to have sex and for the first time in my life and I’m trying to seriously date someone (I met online). He’s nice but there is absolutely no attraction. There are guys I am attracted to (I feel like there are more of them ever since I started dating) but none of them would notice me, and if they did their confidence would probably make me run the other way. I don’t know if I would feel more comfortable around men if I had sex.

Am I shallow for wanting to have sex with someone I actually find attractive instead of a guy I feel comfortable taking to but have no desire to even kiss? I feel like the longer I wait the less likely it is that I will ever have sex with anyone. I wish I could just get drunk and lose my virginity that way but I have never been drunk enough to actually go through with it.

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“Should I try to date my gym coach?”

I’m 24 years old and have a gym coach for the last year who is 43. During the past few months we have slept together 4 times but continue on as normal, as coach and client. We get along really well and have a lot in common but he drives me mad and is really set in his ways, but I am mad for him and it’s making me crazy.

We never speak about our ‘get togethers’ afterwards but they keep happening and I would love to know what it all means. I am recently out of a 4 and a half year relationship so I’m not looking for another one but I would like to know how he feels, or if he is even slightly interested in me in a more serious way. I am so afraid of rejection that I never tell him how I am feeling at all, and sometimes I feel as if he is being the same with me. I was thinking of asking him to see a comedian with me later this month that we both like. Super afraid of getting rejected but I want to spend more time with him outside of the physical stuff. What should I do???

“My wife wants to sleep with other people”

My wife announced that she wants to sleep with other people. She claims that our sex life is bad, and she is not satisfied. We had incredible sex just the night before and she thoroughly enjoyed it. I know her, and I know when she is faking and she wasn’t.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to cheat, but she is convinced she won’t be happy until she gets to sleep with someone else.

“I’m sleeping with my co-worker”

I’ve been dating a guy from work for the last 3 months. We’ve worked together for a year, but things finally started recently. We go out when our busy schedules permit it, and we always have a good time. We started sleeping together. He compliments me, pleases me sexually (takes his time on me in the bedroom), and motivates me in so many other areas of life. He’s supportive and gives great advice.

Our communication has waned in the last few weeks but we still see each other and are intimate. We have only had sex about 5 or 6 times. I’m a very passive person, but I want to make sure our situation is not based on the physical. How can I approach the situation? Any tips on how to have this conversation? I do want to pursue a relationship with him but I want to protect myself from getting hurt.

“My boyfriend has poor hygiene and nasty habits”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. For the last 3 years (since we moved in together) I have been pointing out his poor personal hygiene habits and overall cleanliness. He has made improvements, but I find it hard to be attracted to him as of late. He used to go 5 or 6 days without a shower and was wearing the same clothes every day to work.

He doesn’t work now, but wears the same thing every day at home. When I mention it he retorts with ‘he showers nightly now and should be able to wear the same house clothes.’ He makes me feel as tho I am nit picking…. am I? Continue reading

“I want to date my best friend’s ex”

My best friend and his girlfriend broke up. His girlfriend went on a mentally unstable bender. I comforted her and kept her safe all day. Thought she was suicidal and had to call an ambulance at one point (misunderstanding, she wasn’t suicidal). So happy she was alive. She said she shouldn’t be alone, came up to mine. We slept together. She stayed the following day and night.

We hung out since. The friend knows everything. She now said she can’t see me because she needs to get her head straight. Run into her and she looks right through me. I am very much in love with her. I know there was something special between us when we were together. I’m thinking of going for one last hurrah and asking her. If she says no I might move away. If she says yes I would happily give up everything I had to be with her. What do you guys think? Help.

“My boyfriend slept with his cousin”

My BF slept with his “cousin” and they live together. I found out because she called me to tell me she was his wife and raised his kids. At first it made sense why he never invited me to his home but later found out by him, that he wasn’t married, and it wasn’t his real cousin.

He confessed saying he slept with her a handful of times after his divorce and they grew up together and his aunt who couldn’t have kids raised her so they weren’t biological cousins. They live together and I asked for him to move out or she move out. So he agreed to moving out but needs about three months to get financially ready. Continue reading

“Does he just want to date me for sex?”

My friend set me up with a guy friend of hers. He texted me and we planned our first date. Our date went very well, we had dinner, drinks, dessert and made out a little at the end of the night. We texted a bit the next day and then I didn’t hear from him for a couple of days. When he finally texted again, he apologized for being MIA and we made plans for him to come by my place as I was ill.

He brought me some tea and soup. We watched a movie in my room and he kept trying to get me to sleep with him, without success, because I was sick. I asked if he’d like to get together the following day, he said yes, he’d be free after 7. Next day, sporadic texting and he didn’t end up being free until 11:30pm. I told him I was already in bed and let’s try again when we can hang earlier….no response. He went away for the weekend, so I figured I wouldn’t hear from him. I texted a quick, “hey stranger” 2 days after he got home, no response….that was 3 days ago. Yet he looked at my snapchat story, so I know he’s alive, but he hasn’t contacted me. I understand he’s a busy guy, but this is ridiculous. When we were planning our first date, the texts were frequent and answered almost immediately, now I get nothing. I thought we had really hit it off, but now nothing…..wtf?!

“Can I date another guy?”

I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months now. When I met him he had a girlfriend, he was slightly flirty but I never thought anything of it. I’ve always really kind of liked him but never did anything obviously, because he had a girlfriend.

They broke up about two months ago and a couple of weeks ago we kissed and have been texting non stop ever since. We ended up having sex a couple times as well over the past few weeks. We see each other every other day to hang out or to study since we are in the same college classes. I can’t seem to tell if he is talking to other girls or not. I want to ask him but I’m not sure how to bring up the convo because as I do want to date him I also understand that he is still kind of newly single and probably doesn’t want to rush into anything.

I’m also absolutely fine with just doing whatever we are doing. I just want to know if it is okay for me to go on a date with another boy if I was asked or if we are somewhat exclusive. Above all else I don’t want to hurt our friendship or whatever we have going on. Any advice?

“I cheated on my wife then gave her an STD”

I have been diagnosed with gonorrhea. Got from my sexscapdes outside of marriage. I am taking antibiotics now and getting better. I haven’t told my wife yet. But I think the symptoms are starting to appear on her. I just told her to have herself checked.

Im really confused because if I tell her then she’ll probably leave me. I think by the time she is diagnosed mine will be gone already. What do you think should I do? Thank you.