“I’m mad about a guy that loves me but doesn’t wanna be with me”

Three years ago I met a guy. He was bi-curious, meaning he wasn’t sure about his sexuality at the time. We talked a while and we ended up getting close. I knew he loved me and I felt the same way.

One day he second-guessed himself, since he was scared and still new to the whole ‘liking a guy’ thing. He ended up apologizing for leading me on and he told me that he doesn’t like guys and that he was straight. Less than a week later, he had a girlfriend and they seemed serious. I was hurt, but I never stopped loving him deep down. I ended up getting with this girl (I’m bisexual) and she and I were super happy for about a year and a half but in the end we just turned into best friends because neither of us were really feeling it. Continue reading

My fiancé and I have fallen into a friendship”

I have been with my fiancé for over 7 years. In the beginning, we were madly in love and inseparable. As the years have gone by, I feel like we have fallen into a friendship. I do not ever want to hurt him. I have spoken to him about this before, and he became very upset and didn’t really understand it.

I am finding other people attractive and find myself fantasizing about other men. Recently my ex has come back into my life and has told me he loves me. I have always loved him, but I was hurt so much that I closed that all off. I don’t know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation?

“I know my family loves me but I feel nothing”

I need advice because I don’t know how to do this delicately. I am soon to be 18 and without going into specifics,  I plan to move across the country after I graduate High School. In consideration to my mother, I’ve allowed her to still claim that I’m living with her so she receives welfare/death benefits, (my Dad died) even though I moved in with a relative in October.

I am the youngest of a large family but I am totally uninterested in human relationships on a personal level. I can be social and I’m very polite in my interactions but I secretly loathe the necessity. I am a straight A student with skills/love in the arts. I plan work under the table in my relative’s small business, part time, until my graduation but after that I want to cut ties. Now I know from an outside view this is a heartless act – the point is I don’t care. But if there are any mothers or families who’ve experienced a relative cutting ties, I’d be curious how it impacted you. I told my mom I’m leaving but I haven’t said where and I’m not sure if it’s kinder to maintain the facade with other relatives who wish to see me. As I’ve said I can be charming – I know my family loves me but I feel nothing.

“I need to be with her or get over her”

I met this girl in 2011 and immediately was hooked. She was always very reserved and I didn’t know much about her. It intrigued me. After about a year of chasing her and being led on, I had enough and tried to move on.

I started dating my current girlfriend of 4 years to get over her. She turned out to be a Godsend and is beautiful, funny and ambitious. I couldn’t be luckier. But of course I never stopped talking to the first girl and she confirmed she had feelings for me. I tried many times and stopped talking to her completely for over a year, but there is always something pulling me back in. Continue reading

“Confused which guy I love”

Oh boy, do I need your help. I split with an amazing guy 6 years ago. We connected so well and I trusted him endlessly, but he always felt a bit far away and had a gaming addiction (which he’s since resolved). I had an internship opportunity in Africa and had to decide whether to keep it short and come back to him, or end our relationship and be open to jobs there. So I laid out 2 things I needed from him – stop gaming so much and be a bit more sexually adventurous – but he said he couldn’t do those things. So I ended it.

Forward 6 years. Work, and the decision I want a family, landed me on the other side of North America from my ex. I hadn’t met anyone and kept thinking about him. I wrote him a long letter, and we talked so openly about what happened. I learned that during that time he was failing school, and actually dropped out, adding 2 years to his education when we split. He couldn’t give me what I needed, because he was losing himself. He would love to explore us, but right then he was seeing an old ex who was going through a lot (alcoholism), and while he doubted it’d last, he had to let it take its course. Continue reading

“Do I leave him because I’m a rebound?”

I met my boyfriend 4 months ago and we have been dating exclusively since that time. We spend nearly every night together and overall get along well. 2 months into our relationship I figured out that he had broken up with his girlfriend of nearly 3 years about 2 weeks before we met. She was terrible to him, cheated on him constantly and he eventually had enough. Essentially, I realized I was a rebound.

He tells me he cares about me very much, considers our relationship to be serious, but is “hesitant in his feelings for me.” He said it is frustrating because I am the best woman he has ever been with. Continue reading

“I cannot get this girl out of my head”

I met this girl online 4 years ago, when I was 16 and she was 14. I fell in love with her, we talked every day, but never saw each other. She lives in Idaho, I live in Oregon. Back then, we couldn’t see each other cause of the distance, and there was no way our parents would take us to see each other. It was definitely a romantic relationship, she was perfect personality wise, and so beautiful.

After 2 years, we had a falling out, I feel because we literally never saw each other. I didn’t have a job, could barely drive to the store, and tried keeping everything a secret from everybody. She’s legit and real, there’s 100% no chance of her being not who she says she is, we’ve Facetimed, Snapchatted thousands of times, talked/seen many friends + their social medias and everything- she’s real. I still love her, I still care about her, I still think about her not every day, but definitely a lot. We’ve talked on and off ever since, but I haven’t heard from her in at least a
year now. Continue reading

“Should I say ‘I love you’ first?”

We’ve been dating for 7 months now… traveled together many times and everything seems to be fine. I already feel in love with him but never said it. He keeps telling me that he thinks I am a great girl but it’s too early to judge me. He also talks about how he’s not emotional and how he hardly says “I love you” to his family members. Should I go ahead and say it first? In all honesty his actions show that he really cares and does have feelings for me but he never says it straight up.

“He used to be the man of my dreams”

I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years. I am currently 26. When I was a teenager, he was the man of my dreams, but as we aged and matured, we’ve became roommates that hold each other down from actual love possibilities, for convenience of our children and living situation.

He feels differently, though. This weekend we had an argument about something stupid. And he left. I figured a hour or two to blow off steam. But when I woke at 5 am, he was nowhere to be found. Instant panic attack. I called , phone’s off …

He strolled in at 2 pm. After hours of mixed emotions and thoughts of where he could possibly be. He told me he was at the hospital. I’ve already basically premeditated his funeral, mentally prepared to be a single mom, and had a partial break down. Inside , the damage was done. He left. He didn’t call. He turned his phone off. I wrote him a proper notice to leave , and slept alone last night. Continue reading