“He loves his friends more than me”

I don’t know how to start this, but I think it’s best if you know as much detail as possible.
I’ve been with my current partner for just over two years, I am 23 and he is 19, almost 20. I have a 4 year old son, who’s father is my ex.

At the beginning of our relationship, I discovered he was still actively using a dating app because he was unsure if ‘we’d work out’. He was also deleting messages from his ex. This situation was confronted and quickly forgiven. I absolutely adore him, and as cliche as it sounds, he came in to my life when I needed someone very badly (I suffer with depression). Like I said, I adore him. Continue reading

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“He kissed another girl”

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 7 months, we’re young (17) and each other’s first loves. He was a border at a school in my town but had to move back in with his family so we’re now in a long distance relationship (4 hours away).

He recently told me he had feelings for another girl at his new school and they kissed a couple days ago. I’m really worried about being hurt again and I’m not sure if I can trust him again. He seems genuinely sorry, has admitted everything, we’ve had long conversations about it as I went to visit him and he’s even messaged the girl (who really likes him) saying how he f**ked up and doesn’t want anything else to do with her. I’m just so lost and hurt, someone help or share advice. Thank you xoxo

“Is he sleeping with a prostitute?”

I’m in a fairly new relationship but things have moved fast and we are expecting a baby in a few months. My boyfriend has a lot of friends male and female. I have no reason to not trust him. I found out today that one female friend, who he is particularly close to, works as a prostitute and he use to pay her for sex while single.

He has never told me this, though he has said they have known each other a long time and he initially met her again on Tinder (before me). My past relationship was very bad and he knows this, and that it left me insecure. My ex frequently went to prostitutes and had numerous affairs and online inappropriate behavior.

My question is, am I right to suddenly feel very, very uncomfortable about this friendship? He has never told me about her line of work etc let alone that he paid for her services (I do know he had been to a brothel tho as he did tell me this). I’m partly wondering if he hasn’t told me because he knows the damage my ex left on me and he really does just value the friendship (she is a lovely person). Or is it not all it seems and not so innocent ?? I don’t want to let my baggage cause me to overreact here but I feel I’d be doing an injustice to myself to do nothing …

“I lied to her and lost her trust”

I’ve been with my partner for 10 months now. We were in a long distance relationship for 7 months. I moved out of state and dropped everything to be with her. It was my choice I was willing to risk it all. We have had a really good relationship. We laughed together, we went out, we stayed in, we were strong. We had a great sex life. Everything seemed to be ok. But lingering in the back of my mind was the fact that she was 50/50 on marriage. Continue reading

“My girlfriend never mentioned me to her mate”

He’s frustrated that his girlfriend hasn’t mentioned him to her friend. She thinks he needs to back off, and it’s just a trust issue on his end. What do you think?

Pete says:

We’ve been seeing each other intensely for six months. We’re in love, but she admittedly is a private person on the whole.

We went on a double date with her best mate a few weeks ago. It went well, I thought. My girlfriend had told me previously that she’d told her friend about me, and I saw nothing to disbelieve that.

Yesterday she opened a text from her mate saying “how are you” etc., but within the text, it said, “how’s things on the man front?” I found this odd and disrespectful to me and our relationship. I asked my girlfriend to say that WE were great. My girlfriend agreed it was odd, as she’d given her no reason to think she was anything other than with me. She refused to acknowledge that wording in her reply and didn’t even mention me or us. This has knocked me a bit.

H. says:

I agree with everything above and did think it was an odd thing to put, but I decided to dismiss it as nonsense. Secondly, it got my back up that he told me how I should reply. I’ll speak to her face to face about it. I think it’s a trust issue that he wanted to see it in black and white.

“She undermined me about my kid’s TV”

When my wife and I first married we decided that our kids would not be allowed to have TV’s in their bedrooms. We recently bought a new house and our now teenage son has been asking for a TV for his room.

We discussed it and I still feel very strongly about him not having one in his room. We have 3 other TV’s in the house. He doesn’t need to be holed up in his room 24 hours a day. A few days ago, while I was working, he asked my wife if he could take a TV up to his room that we had, that wasn’t hooked up because it didn’t work very well. She let him and no one ever said anything to me about it, after multiple discussions on the topic.

I saw it yesterday and told my wife I was not happy about it. I didn’t go off or blow my lid but I am pissed about it. And now I am being treated like I’m an ass for being upset about it. Am I wrong for being mad? I feel like she undermined me on something I felt very strongly about even though “the TV barely works, what’s the big deal?”

“She is skeptical of my trustworthiness”

I’ve been single for a few years now, but I’m talking with a girl, Lauren, who I was really good friends with a few years ago. We’ve hung out a few times but nothing more than a hug and no serious dates.

I met her years before through my then girlfriend, Sam. I will admit, I cheated on Sam one time when I kissed another girl. It was a mistake and we made up and continued our relationship for more than a year after, but now Lauren found out that I cheated, not knowing really what happened, and is understandably skeptical of my trustworthiness. I have fallen completely in love with Lauren but don’t know how to prove to her that I’ve changed for the better.

“My wife and I are fighting over another guy”

My wife and I have been fighting over an issue that came up a while back. It was brought to my attention that a friend of hers seemed overly “friendly” when I wasn’t around. This, coupled with some things that I saw in their interactions, made me confront her and ask why someone thought this.

She immediately took his side and began defending him and their relationship. The fight progressed into a huge fight in which I asked her “do you care more about his feelings than mine?” Her answer was YES, I was completely floored by this and could not believe she would say that to me.

Since then we have several altercations and every time it ends the same, she acts like my feelings are not important and his are. I feel like there is something going on at a subconscious level, as I do trust her and we both work too much to have any time to mess around with somebody else? So how do I let go of how this makes me feel, she has apologized and I believe she is? HELP

“He thinks I’m cheating but I’m not!”

My boyfriend and I have not been together for that long and all of a sudden he keeps asking me if I am cheating on him (which I am not whatsoever), I do have guy friends but it was something we discussed before we even made our relationship official and we came to the agreement that since these people have been in my life longer than he even has, and are such a major part of my life, it wasn’t going to be a problem.

Yet he still keeps asking me if I am cheating, if we are hanging out and my phone goes off sometimes he will rip if out of my hand and go through it. We’ve talked about it and he said he will work on it but he still questions me and such. I feel like he doesn’t trust me.  Continue reading

“My girlfriend is always lying to me”

I’m 16 years old and I’m in a relationship for over a year now. I really love her, but it’s getting more frustrating every day. She never cheated on me, but I caught her in a lie A LOT of times, not big lies, but they are still lies and now I have trust issues.

Everything she says to me, I suspect it, I’m not sure anymore if she is being honest to me or not, so this is getting out of control. I just can’t believe her, I was thinking about breaking up but I can’t do it, I love her and I can’t imagine my life without her. By the way, yes, we did talk about this topic multiple times but I still can’t trust her and I feel I’m being lied to, I need any advice.