“I think I’m in love with my best friend”

I’m a 15 y/o girl and I’ve liked my best friend, a 13 y/o girl, ever since I met her. I think I might be in love with her? I met her when I was 7, she was 5. I don’t think I realized how I felt about her until I was about 12. At first I thought I just liked her as a close friend or little sister. But I think I love her.

I haven’t confessed to her, but I have told her that I’m bisexual, although I’ve never had any romantic feelings towards anyone but her. When I was 12 and she was 10 we had a sleepover at her house, that’s when I realized how I feel. I find myself staring at her a lot. I also tend to go on her social media profiles quite a few times a day. I get jealous whenever I see anyone do or say anything to her that I feel could be flirtatious. Continue reading

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“My companion just disappeared”

I’ve been having a rough couple months. Nothing seems to be going right, and it’s been really hard to smile lately. My relationship with my family, as well as my lover, has been slowly deteriorating. I’m currently taking a break from any intimate relationships, but I was always, always seeking for a friend to talk to. It got things off of my mind, even if just for a moment.
It became a sort of coping mechanism.

One ever-so-fateful night, I found myself in some random chatroom with another person. We stumbled under the same topic category and he was very pleasant to talk to (none of my close friends were up at the time, or were far too busy for me to approach). We talked about absolutely everything. We had deep talks about religion, society, and any intellectual thing imaginable. At the same time, we spoke about quirky references and memes. It felt like we had known each other for years (as exaggerated as that sounds). It just felt so different. I had never connected with anyone so similar to me before.

Later on, he decided that we should keep in touch, and so we did. We added each other on a chat-based app and messaged one another. A couple of days hereafter, we became fast friends, to say the least. I’ve never been one to act impulsively, nor upon my emotions.. But something about our interactions made it so easy to open myself up to him. He asked why my lover and I took a break, and he gave me insight as to why I should love myself instead of worrying about my current relationship status. I’m a very pessimistic person, and he brought a very insightful perspective unto me. One that I needed to hear after all the other shit I’ve been going through. I hadn’t smiled so easily in such a long time.

Now.. neither of us were foolish. We didn’t rush into anything sexual. And it was absolutely wonderful how we could care less about being touchy and affectionate with each other. (We lived quite a ways apart, so I wasn’t expecting anything). I was sure to make clear that I wasn’t ready to be in any sort of relationship anytime soon, and I was happy to know he respected that. There was even a time when we distinguished that we fit into the “demisexual” side of society. We both looked down on one-night stands and summer flings. Emotion and a personal connection always came first to us, and I never sympathized with anyone so deeply about these ideals. Several times, however, he showed interest in me. They weren’t bold statements, but they were surely there. His cunning, subtle little flirts made my heart swoon. He had an incredible way of saying things that he knew I would appreciate.

For about a month, however, he stopped messaging me. It took a lot amount of courage to initiate conversation with him again. He didn’t reply the first time, but I caught him online a couple weeks later, and we conversed once again. He apologized for not getting in touch with me sooner. His reasoning was that he didn’t want me to emotionally invest in whatever was happening between us. But honestly, I was perfectly ok with being friends for a while. In fact, I didn’t really want him to be a lover right off the bat. Our friendship was absolutely beautiful the way it was. His company was all that I needed, and I felt as though he sought my presence, as well.

Days passed again, and it just seemed like we grew a lot closer. I actually started getting excited to see him message me back. This hasn’t happened in a long time. I’ve had feelings for my previous lover for 8 years, and I haven’t quite emotionally invested in anyone ever since. But this quote and quote “friend”? I felt as though he was about to beat that long-time record.

The first time he asked me to watch a show with him while speaking to me on the phone, I couldn’t stop smiling. He had stayed up messaging me and out of the blue, he proposed it as if it were a date. I later reminded him that I didn’t want to hurt him because I was still figuring things out with my lover (we are still broken up), and, as if to make me feel better, he suggested to watch it with me as my friend. I willingly agreed, but when the time came to watch it with me, he was unable to do so. I forgave him the first time because we both hadn’t slept the night before. He had slept through the appointed time. But, the following day or two, he brought it up again. He boldly suggested that we try again on Tuesday (which was yesterday). And again.. He didn’t show up. I just feel so devastated.

Last Saturday, I noticed that he wasn’t on my friend’s list anymore. My intuition screamed at me that he removed and blocked me. I pretended it didn’t bother me.. But slowly, I grew more and more disappointed. Everything had ended so abruptly and I was taken aback. He hadn’t done a single thing to upset me until now, and he seemed to enjoy my company. He seemed like a very reasonable young man, and I felt as though we connected uncannily well. I had never hit it off with someone this well in such a short amount of time, and now I’m just in utter shock. He’s left without a single trace and I tried to add him back.. Only time will tell if he’ll ever see it.

I honestly just wanted to get to know the guy. He was so intriguing. It wasn’t every day that I stumbled into someone who enjoyed conversing about deep obscurities about life,and then immediately switched the conversation to memes. I cannot deny that I developed a sort of crush on him; but being his companion was more than I could ever ask for.

Would he be worth pursuing? Had I done something to upset him? Would any of you have any ideas as to why he just up and left?

 

 

“Are we too young for a relationship?”

I am in 6th grade, and I really like this girl in my class. She likes me too, and we have even kissed several times. I enjoy being with her, but I feel like we are too young, and need to wait to have relationships.

At the same time, I really want to keep being with her, and wonder about whether to kiss her in the bathroom the next day. I am torn. What should I do?

“He doesn’t show that he loves me like he did before”

Hello. First of all, thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I hope I get advice from you. This is my first time asking for advice online and I feel like I can get the answers that I need in here. About my problem, I’m so confused if whether my boyfriend truly loves me or not. Well, he is handsome (he knows that obviously), smart, affectionate (which I like the best), and caring (at the start of the relationship yes, but now not so much).

We’d been in a relationship for 1 year and 3 months. I make twice his income (but I’m not that bothered about that). I already met his parents a lot of times and vice versa. He drives me to my work everyday which is 40 mins away from home using his motorcycle. Actually half of the money to pay for the motorcycle is from me. He treats me snacks or lunch or dinner and vice versa. He’s really sweet when we’re alone. I love it when he hugs me. Continue reading

“Do I take her back and face the backlash?”

I was in a relationship with this girl for 9 months, but it all abruptly came to an ended recently when we got into a….quarrel. Things escalated when she put her hands on me. I defended myself , she packed her things.

She called people to fight because she told them I put my hands on her and I called people as well. A fight happened involving both sides . This ended with her bleaching my carpets , some of clothes and ramming my car . We both ended up getting pfas (protection from abuse orders) equivalent to restraining orders, on each other.

But we both sat down and agreed those were unnecessary and the carpet she would replace. Now my question is where do we go from here, I love this girl and we usually argue, make up and be done with the situation, but too much happened this time, she went too far and too many people were involved. Do I let this go ? Or do I take her back and just face the backlash and negativity I’m going to receive from friends and family for forgetting any of this happened and going back to her . Please help, I don’t know what to do .

“He has more of a relationship with his ex than with me”

My fiancé has this ex whom he has two kids with, and no matter how horrible she is to him it’s like he can’t leave her alone.

He tells her first about things in his life where I get to find out later. He’s quick to jump and run for whatever she wants and needs. He claims he isn’t in love with her and he doesn’t want to be with her. Says he loves me and wants a future with me, but he won’t let her go…it’s an everyday battle. She always comes first no matter what. I’ve said how it bothers me and he just tells me I’m being insecure. So am I just being insecure?

“I love him but don’t see a future”

I think loneliness has been accepting myself to get trapped in an unhappy relationship for years. I know I have the will power, but the fear of the unknown is really scary.. I have been in this relationship for three years. Wow.. I cant believe it’s only been three years because looking back, it feels like it’s been eternity. Him and I began as best friends and fell in love.

My boyfriend is a nice guy. He is loyal. He is smart. He is generous and also very easy going. These are qualities that I personally wished I possessed so I have always admired and appreciated the way his way of life brought me some zen.

However, as time went on, I realized that his easy-goingness really came from his lack of engagement to anything. He could not get anything done. Or he could not even start because he is “too afraid of failing”. He always pushes things to the last minute which always ends up stressing both of us out. I am not a planner. I am a Sagittarius for crying out loud. I like adventures and spontaneity, however, I saw myself gradually turning into a mom figure. Guiding him through very simple procedures of life, making sure to keep him motivated, making sure he follows through with his plans. It has become so exhausting, dragging him along to get things done.
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“I love her more than her boyfriend ever could”

I fell in love with this girl last year and it took 7 months of being in the friend zone for her to say she loved me back. She asked me to wait for her, so of course I said yes, but during the time I was waiting for her I had a lot of personal issues going on.

It caused a few mental issues so she stopped speaking to me, then got with someone else. She’s recently got back in touch with me and told me she regrets her decision and has made it clear she’s not happy, but she won’t leave her bf and no matter how much I try, she won’t see that I love her and would do more for her than her current bf ever would.

It kills me but the thought of losing her again hurts even more and I don’t know what to do…..
Someone please help?! She’s all I’ve thought about since January 2016 and I’ve been holding this in since she got with her bf in August 2016.

“Why am I always rejected?”

Going into Senior year, never been in a relationship or even close, and not by choice.

All my guy friends say I’m hot. I have a high IQ level to where I could’ve skipped three grades (though my parents only allowed me to skip one). I am talented in music, I have good grades, I’m a respectful person, and I have good values. I’m funny and a good conversationalist. I have a great ass and body in general. I have a pretty face and a good heart.

All things I’ve heard people tell me. Yet most of those same people have rejected me. I’ve been rejected by almost 15 different people in the span of 2 years (when I first started having an interest in relationships.)

So, my point is. If all they say is true, why am I being rejected whenever I put myself out there? Just to clarify I’ve never rejected anyone except for maybe when I was in like 3rd grade once. So yeah, that’s my question. Why am I rejected if I’m “such a great person”?

“Is the spark meant to last forever?”

My girlfriend and I are fairly young and you may be tempted to not take this seriously, but please do. We are very mature for our age and are involved with numerous things and activities that require us to be so.

Some background; I myself am 18, while she is 16. We’ve been together for six months now and have had a very steady and serious relationship up until very recently. She brought to my attention that to her, she feels like the relationship is slightly different for her now. She says that she still loves me the same, and still reciprocates everything, from my kisses, to our cuddles. But, she has also said that to her it feels as if the spark for her has gone out? Continue reading