“She lied about having cancer”

My friend lied about having cancer and I forgave her. It’s been a few months, and I finally asked why she lied. But she won’t say why. I don’t know what to do, because we work in close proximity, so it’s hard to stay away. Not only that, but it’s not the first time. Should I forgive her or let her go? She is also one of my major anxiety triggers. Anyone with advice?

 

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“I lied to her about my career and family”

I’m not sure how long me and my girl have been dating, because we only go out  once a week, and we also had a packed schedule, but we have gone out for seven dates and we message each other everyday.

I would say that we had a deep connection and understanding for one another, but during our fifth date, I made a mistake. I told her that I began dating because I used to like another girl, and that I want to replace my feelings for that other girl. When I said it, I thought there was nothing wrong with what I said to her. I didn’t commit infidelity, so I decided to tell her that. Continue reading

“He’s always talking to this other girl”

My boyfriend is talking to a girl that I don’t like. She’s keeps getting in our business and I don’t like it. My boyfriend says he doesn’t like it either, but he still tells her things. He lies to her about what’s he’s doing and stuff. They talk every day and he knows I don’t like her. He even told her and they joked about it.

He lied to me and said that he told her to stay out of our business, but he didn’t. She has a boyfriend too, but he doesn’t know that they talk. He is so worried that she will get mad, or he will say that he’s too nice to tell her to stop. He just went on her account and said that he likes the tights that she is wearing and she said ‘a lot of people do’ and he was like ‘I can see why.’

I’m not one of the girlfriends to get mad over things like this, but he’s forgetting about me and he’s always talking about her. There’s other stuff too. We have been together for almost a year and I don’t know what to do, please help?

“How do I tell her he’s a cheat?”

I’ve been sleeping with this guy for the past few months and he said he didn’t have a girlfriend, so I agreed to sleep with him. Just moments ago, I was on Facebook and his gf popped up on my recommendations, and I clicked on her and her Facebook was full of him.

They have been dating for a little over 2 years. I am beyond pissed off. I want to tell his gf so bad, but she looks so happy and I can’t possibly ruin her happiness, but I can’t let him continuously do this anymore. She believes that he’s the best bf ever and she loves him so much. But how can I possibly show up out of n where and tell her that he’s cheating on her and it’s been for a long time now? Please, please help me.

 

“I told my friend a massive lie and want to come clean”

I told a really big lie to someone I care about and now I want to tell them. We’ve been friends for a little over year, and our friendship is at a really critical point because he’s going through relationship trouble and stress with school, and we’re connecting more than ever before. We have these long, intimate conversations about everything from music to horror movies to graduate school, and we have so much in common. I guess I just want to be honest with him for my own piece of mind, I want to have a clean conscience and feel like I’m presenting my most authentic self. I also want him to be vulnerable with me, especially when he’s struggling with something. We’re not totally there yet and I want us to be, so I guess I just feel like coming clean might help with that. Continue reading

“Do I tell him about the cheating, or keep my mouth shut?”

I would like to get something off my chest that has made me sick to my stomach since the day I found out. I work with this fella that has been messing around with a married lady… that’s on her for putting herself in that situation and not being faithful but it’s on him for continuing with it. She was recently married a couple years ago. You ask me why is this your problem?

Well coming from a marriage with a cheating spouse this kind of hit home for me. Not only did everyone lie to me that knew about my husband, but I literally tore myself apart just to find the god awful truth. If a stranger or someone that was around them when it happened would have came to me and told me, it would of saved me a lot more time and heart break.

So I am asking for advice on if I should contact him about how shitty of a wife he has, or simply keep my mouth shut. I feel bad for her husband and dislike the boy I work with, but I believe I owe it to the cheated on spouses. Please help!

“I feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him”

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he and my children bonded quickly and the family dynamic between the 4 of us felt effortless and we were all happy.

Since we’ve been married though, I have found text messages between him and 3 different girls. I tried to improve myself to see if he would stop, I thought it was something I was doing to push him away but then I found out he was saying awful things about me and my kids to a girl while he was telling me how much he loved me. Continue reading

“My best friend doesn’t know my real identity”

So, I’ve known my best friend for two years now. I’m closer to him than I’ve ever been with anyone and he’s extremely important to me.

Two years ago when I met him I was using an alias to hide my real identity online, as I really don’t want people who know me irl to find me on my socials. I created a whole fake identity. Nationality, name, etc.

Now, I’m stuck in the lie. I’m so afraid I’ll lose him if I tell him I’ve been lying this long, but as someone who knows more about me than anyone else, I feel like he should at least know who I really am. Should I tell him? How should I go about it?

“Do I stick it out, or give up on my current relationship?”

When we first talked about dating, she promised an honest and open relationship in the sense of communication.

In the time we’ve dated, communication hasn’t gotten any better and is absolutely terrible compared to before. I’ve gotten cheated on, she lies consistently, still talks with the men she flirts with and is still incredibly irresponsible. She also claims to have cheated on a guy simply because she didn’t screw or see him for two weeks. I won’t be able to see her for a while so I’m concerned.

She has plenty of great qualities and I am madly in love with her,  but I can’t trust her to save my life. How can I resolve this? We get along great, and have awesome chemistry.

She has PTSD related issues, so I can’t approach these issues directly without her shutting down and going dead silent for two days. How can I resolve this?