“I’m having sex even though I’m saying ‘no'”

In high school, I was one of those people who just wanted to be accepted. I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a boy who I thought I was in love with. (Cliche right?) Anyway, that started my downward spiral and I ended up having sex with several different people, just because it was easier to do it than to say no.

My reason behind that, is because on different occasions with two different people regardless if I said no, they continued to do sexual things to me and I would just let it happen because I assumed they would continue even if I fought it. Well, my boyfriend of three years knows all of this, and now sometimes he does this to me too. I will tell him to stop and he will continue even if I try to fight it. I feel like all of the progress I have made over the last few years is slowly withering away, and I do not want to be that person again. I am just scared that this is how it is going to be for the rest of my life….

“I’ve had a gay crush on my high school teacher for years now”

I am a female high school senior, and I’ve had a crush on my female teacher since tenth grade (I’m not out to many people yet). She’s single and 17 years older than me. I’ve been trying to get rid of this crush for years, but it won’t budge, even after I stopped taking her class. She’s just so ideal to me: smart, funny, interesting, and pretty … I really fell hard for her and it sucks. I am pretty sure she suspects I like her, but she ignores it (like she should). We have a pretty good professional relationship, and sometimes we talk about our outside lives.

I’ve been mentally debating a lot about whether or not I should just tell her how I feel on the last day. I don’t want her to return my feelings, but rather I think it will give me the closure to get over it and move on in college. Continue reading

“I want to break up, but he’s obsessed with me”

I don’t want anything to become serious. I am in high school (freshman), and I recently got asked out by a guy who is completely compatible with me, and my parents seem to like him. I met him a couple months before he asked me out. We started talking around 2 weeks before he asked the big question, and me being me, I said yes.

There has been some pressure from his friends, as he’s been very public about his crush on me, and now everyone knows that we are together. It’s been a week into the relationship, and already I feel that something is off between us. I know I shouldn’t have accepted, especially since I’m so young and naïve. Continue reading

“The age gap doesn’t bother us, but his parents don’t approve”

I’ve had a crush on this guy for a really long time, and this summer, I figured out he felt the same way about me. I had an amazing summer with him, and we were together all the time. We were in the same youth group, so we went on a lot of trips together this summer (Dallas, Lookout Mountain, Whitewater rafting, camping).

On the bus ride home from camp, he sat by me and told me how he felt. We’ve both never been in a relationship before, but he’s unlike anyone I’ve ever met. He puts God and others before himself in every situation and is such a great guy. Continue reading

“Should I tell him I like him?”

I need help. I like a guy who rides my bus. He is a sophomore and I am a freshman. Most people won’t date freshman at my school. I kind of want to tell him how I feel because then he has all break to think about his feelings, but introvert challenge. I occasionally catch him looking at me on the bus, he sometimes makes it a point to talk to me. We also have an inside joke. Should I tell him that I like him or play it out for another year?

“Boys tell me they don’t like me because I’m black”

Hello. 🙂 I need some advice please. There’s this boy in my first period class I think is very cute. The only thing is, he’s Hungarian and doesn’t speak English very well, so he doesn’t talk much. When we make eye contact, I try to smile and he smiles back, and I often try to get his attention in other ways, too, but he doesn’t seem to notice.

I thought maybe it was because I wasn’t his type, so I’ll describe myself to you. I’m a girl, 16 years old, black (Nigerian American) and 5’3″. My hair is currently in long black braids. I would say I’m pretty facially, but I do wear makeup to fill in my brows and cover up dark spots and acne scars (i have a lot of discoloration). I definitely don’t think I’m ugly though. I’m not really slim but I’m also not fat — just your average girl with some concealable belly fat. My skin shade is not very dark but also not light either. I would say I’m about the same shade as Kelly Rowland or slightly lighter. Continue reading

“I miss my best friend”

I have a question, well, it is almost more like a long-winded life story that requires a solution to solidify a happy ending.

Here goes. In Grade 8, I changed schools, and I met my best friend, I’ll call him Marty. Anyway, at first, Marty and I were indifferent towards each other, until one day, we started speaking, and then we discovered that we were cut from the same cloth, if you will. From then on, we were inseparable. In the beginning of our Grade 9 year, Marty and I started dating, but the relationship, although absolutely wonderful, was short-lived, lasting just longer than a month. Marty ended our relationship very abruptly, and, as I found out later, this was because he has issues with trust, and, apparently, did not believe that I was really the person that I made myself out to be. Regardless, the split broke my 15-year-old heart, as far as a 15 year-old’s heart can be broken.

I was devastated and sought comfort in a group of girls, who introduced my young self to weed, alcohol, and other mind-numbing substances. I spent the remainder of my Grade 9 year, completely wrapped in a bubble of somber depression and a substance induced haze. I told myself that when Grade 10 came, I would straighten my life out and focus on my studies. And then Grade 10 rolled on in, and, on the first day of the school year, I found out that Marty was in every single one of my classes, except for one. So, I made up my mind to mend bridges, and I did this quite effectively, and in a short while we were inseparable again. Continue reading

“My boyfriend annoys me very easily”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. We are seniors in high school, and he’s been my best friend ever since we started talking sophomore year. Ever since we started dating, we’ve been inseparable. Some slight ups and downs, nothing too major. He’s close with my family, I’m close with his. We have many mutual friends, and we are truly great together.

For some reason, things have been off the past couple months. We fight a lot more than usual. But the thing is, I’m the one who starts the fights usually. I’m super sensitive, and it takes little to tick me off. My boyfriend is the sweetest, most innocent kid ever, but he annoys me very easily. I don’t know why. Sometimes I think I am a lot more mature and more intelligent than him. Other times I think I miss the way I used to be. I used to be a lot closer with my friends, and more carefree.

Thinking about going off to college soon terrifies me, only because I don’t know what to do. Anytime I hint a breakup, he gets so upset and I feel so awful, because there’s no specific reason for a breakup. I’ve just become sad recently, and I think I’d be happier without a relationship on my hands. But another part of me thinks I will be absolutely miserable and regret it. What if I never find a guy like him again? He’s perfect but I just don’t know where to turn. I feel like I’ve lost myself and we’ve lost our spark. Help.

“He asked for pictures of my underwear”

I’m a freshman in high school and a boy I like who’s a sophomore has been Snapchatting me for a couple of weeks now. I thought he might like me, too, but last night he asked for pictures of my underwear. I said no because I’m not like that. I’m scared that since I won’t send him pictures, he might not want to talk to me. What should I do? PLEASE HELP!

“I just feel so alone lately”

I just feel so alone lately. I’ve had issues with depression and anxiety the majority of my life, and I’m sure that plays a factor in the way I’m feeling, but I kind of have just lost hope in people. I don’t feel close to my friends anymore and anytime I have tried to reach out I haven’t really gotten a response.

I so desperately want to just go somewhere new and start over, but I can’t. I mean, I’m a senior in high school, so I guess next year I will for college, but I have a while to get through before that. I don’t live in a very big town, it’s not easy for me to just go out and make new friends. I feel like lately my anxiety has gotten bad enough that it’s hard to talk around even my close friends. I hate everything I say and feel stupid for saying anything. I’m not close with my family either, I have a really bad relationship with my mom and am not close with my siblings. I just don’t want to do this, or be this way. I don’t think anyone cares about me.