“My weed-smoking girlfriend says she likes another girl”

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. She’s currently away in college, 9 hours from me, while I work back here at our home. In recent times she has been smoking a lot of weed (which she never did before going to college) and overall just talking to me less and less.

I don’t really care too much about the weed smoking, it’s truly not an issue, but when she came back for spring break, she said she’s been contemplating breaking up with me because she’s developed feelings for a female at school. Continue reading

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“I love my boyfriend but we’re not right for each other”

We need different things, and I know that now, but it didn’t stop me falling head over heels for him and integrating him into my friend group. I love him, but this relationship is heading nowhere good.

We’re both in college, and that’s where we met, but we are on totally different planes academically. He failed all but one of his classes last semester while I’m trying to stay above a 3.5 for my Honors Academy standing. It makes sharing my successes with him very hard because he’s trailing so far behind me when he should be in the same classes as me. Then there’s the biggest problem I have.  Continue reading

“My boyfriend and I want to move to Germany after college”

I am a 19 year old college student who is about to be done with my first year at a community college, and my 20 year old boyfriend of 3 years will be done with his second year at the same community college. We have decided that we would like to further our education in a European country, perhaps Germany, where there are Masters programs taught in English.

Instead of moving back to the United States after we are done with college, we may want to stay and continue living in Europe, and figure out our lives together there. So far we are looking into smaller city universities in Germany like Freiburg, Schiller, and Hochschule for instance. We’re not really into the partying scene, more athletic nature lovers. Is there any advice anyone can give me on this? Where do I even start? Is this possible? Can we live there after college? If we want to move back, is the degree worth the same in the U.S? Can I bring my cat? What’s the average yearly cost of living in Germany?

“My dad and stepmom are keeping me on lockdown”

I can’t seem to find a solution to this. My Dad and Stepmom have been keeping me on “lockdown” because of my insufficient grades and not doing chores, but I have all A’s and B’s (although admittedly more B’s), and I’m really stressed out all the time with varsity sports and trying to figure out my life as a high school junior.

They say that the problem is that I can handle everything on my plate if I just apply myself, but I signed up for three college classes and play a full-time sport, and it’s always taking a toll on me. I try to explain that I’m constantly stressed out and questioning what my motivations for doing all this are, but they only see my pleas as excuses for not doing stuff. Continue reading

“I like this girl but she is still into another guy”

I really like this girl, and she says she likes me too. But at the same time she is still open about how she’s not over this guy she’s been having sex with for about a year. I’ve talked to her about it and she said she’ll tell me when she’s over him, but I don’t know when that’ll be. My question is – Should I just ghost her until I don’t feel anything for her anymore, or should I continue to cuddle with her and try to win her over, even when I know she likes and is probably still having sex with another guy??

Info – We’re both college students, we go to school together, the boy she can’t get over lives four hours away in her home town.

“Shall I try to stay friends with my ex?”

I dated this girl for a little over a year. We were very close, closer than I had ever experienced with someone before. Going into college, our relationship seemed to go very well for a few months.

At the beginning of November, however, she switched gears completely. She stated that she no longer “loved me like I wanted her too”, and it evolved to us breaking up, temporarily at first, then permanently. We had established we very much wanted to stay friends, but my attempts to maintain contact failed. Eventually she told me she didn’t see me in her life at all, but the way she talked and how she had suddenly decided that seemed wrong to me. Continue reading

“I did terrible in my first semester of college”

I’m almost done with my first semester in college and I did terrible. Unlike high school I actually tried my best and did my homework and studied hard for tests. I’m pretty sure my GPA is going to be between a 1.6-1.8 and that’s so bad. Even worse than my high school GPA.

I cried about it all day today because I’m so disappointed in myself. And I’m terrified to tell my parents. All they wanted from me was at least a 2.0 and I couldn’t even give them that. Also I’m really scared that I won’t even be able to get my GPA up. I know I have the rest of college but I’m not sure. I also really wanna change my major but I’m not sure. I have to retake bio and maybe Chem and that’s embarrassing. I feel so stupid and hopeless…..

“Is my secret relationship with an older woman wrong?”

I am a college-age female living away from home for the first time, going to school in a state about 200 miles from home. I am not a really experienced person in life, this is my first time living independently and I admit to being pretty socially awkward – shy, quiet, not too visible.

I have never had any serious relationships and have not really spent much time developing my sexuality. I did not date much in high school and have never been certain about my interest in males, I went out with two boys but only a few times. I have had close female friends and experimented with kissing them but not much more and really drew away from any complicated interaction, keeping to myself and paying attention to schoolwork and lots of other things. I don’t feel that I missed out on anything especially but also think maybe that I am too introverted and shy and maybe I should pay attention to all these things.

So when I arrived here, meaning where I am attending college, I got a room near campus. The woman who is my landlord is a middle-aged woman (late 40’s) and she was very sweet and kind to me. Perhaps because of my nature I allowed her to become very involved in my life. She turned out being around me all the time and perhaps I allowed that, not establishing any boundaries. Again, I am not forward as a person. Continue reading

“My roommate is making my life a misery”

Hi, I’m a freshman in college and I’m having roommate issues. I have 3 roommates and we live in an apartment-style dorm room, so we each have our own room but we share a living room and bathroom. I love 2 of my roommates but the other one is causing issues.

About a week ago, let’s just say she called me a really rude name. I don’t care if people call me this name in a joking manner, I don’t care if people call me this name and I deserve it, but she wasn’t joking and I didn’t deserve it, so it made me upset. Continue reading

“We’re getting fed up with her anxiety”

A friend of mine at school has extreme anxiety issues, a crappy home life, and extreme depression. I just met her at the beginning of school last semester, and she is kind of like a little sister to me, but she has been quite an inconvenience lately.

Several times in the last few months, I have had to drop what I was doing and go to her to make sure she is okay. In addition to that, really weird things set her off — things that we can’t just tell people not to say. The rest of our friends are also getting fed up with it. Also, it is getting to the point where it feels like she’s taking advantage of us.

We have all tried to get her to see a counselor (we are all in college, and they offer free counseling services if you need it). Every time that we bring it up, though, she just says back to us, “You guys are all targeting me,” and then gets upset, cries, and does other stuff to try to make us feel guilty, and then storms out. Continue reading