“I like the girl in our friend group”

I recently went to Uni, and met this really sound guy who I get on with really well, though we obviously don’t know each other too well as we only met a month or so ago. He in turn introduced me to a girl and us three have been hanging out quite a lot.

Now, I’ve developed quite strong feelings for the girl. However, she and this guy are very close, to the point where I’m unsure whether something is going on behind closed doors (he has a long-distance girlfriend, though he constantly talks about breaking up with her). If I want to pursue the girl, what should my course of action be in order to make sure I maintain my friendship with the guy? I would definitely rather remain friends with both of them than jeopardise it for this girl.


“I love her but she’s moving”

So I’ve been dating this really amazing, friendly, and funny girl for the past six and a half months, but she’s recently been offered a job that’s quite a long commute from where she’s currently living. Obviously, this means that when she moves, she’ll be moving closer to her new workplace, and further from me.

I genuinely love this girl, and want what’s best for her, but at the same time, I’d rather not have things end because of this. We get on really well together, we seem to be on the same wavelength when it comes to certain things, her values align with mine, we’re both vegetarians, and we have similar interests. As well as this, I have Asperger’s Syndrome, so I tend to be pretty awkward due to my issues with social interaction. While some people might be scared away by my awkwardness, she loves it.

I’m more than willing to try a long distance relationship. The place she’s aiming to move to isn’t super far away from where I live, so it’s definitely doable even if I won’t be able to see her as often as we do currently, but is it possible for things to work out between us?


“We lost contact then she messaged me on my birthday”

Hi guys, first time I have used anything like this, but I need advice really bad. I am currently halfway through being 18 and breezing through University life.

6 months ago, on my 18th birthday, I got a message from a girl I used to be really close friends with, and it was odd as I had not seen or had contact with her for 6 years. Obviously, it was my 18th birthday and I was a little drunk and as a result, I messed up the conversation and it was awkward and cringeworthy to read back the next morning. Continue reading

“Was she playing with me?”

I met this girl at clothing store. I was with my daughter. I wrote my phone number on the receipt and gave it to her. She texts me a couple of days later. We set up a date and she shows up late, she said she couldn’t find the place, which was odd, but I went to meet her and help her find the place. The date was shorter because of this, so we hiked for about 1/2 hr, and talked for another 40 min. It was nice, there seemed to be chemistry.

We continued to text for several days and sometimes phone interaction, things still seemed okay, however I tried to set up another date. She sort of had excuses. Realized that she was a friend of the bottle. Continue reading

“I’m worried if she sees me, she won’t like me”

Sorry for the ridiculously long speech thing. Okay here’s my idiotic question – I am in high school btw. I have Facebook, but it seems everybody has Snapchat.  I like this girl, but she only gets on there like every seven or eight days, but she gets on Snapchat like everyday.

I’m not ugly, but I’m not very appealing either, and I don’t want to be taking pictures of myself and putting them on the internet. I don’t take pictures of myself even on Facebook, I just put pictures that I take and videos I like on there. So my question is do I have to take pictures of myself on there or can I just see whatever the heck other people post?

I really like this girl – even though she is really nice – I think she is too beautiful for someone like me. She asked me if I had Snapchat so she could add me. But my situation is that I am a Mexican American and I live in the country, and I have been with the same people in a small school for the past 9 years, so to be at a bigger school it frightens me that people are going to make fun of my little overweightness and my race and my last name.

There is no way they can’t figure out what race I am. Some people love my last name and think it’s great, but others laugh. So do I have to take pictures of myself? Thank you if you can answer,  I know they have pages around Snapchat questions but no one actually answer me specifically.

“I like her, but she’s got a boyfriend”

I am a sophomore in high school, and I’ve never had a girlfriend. There is a girl in my band/the local youth orchestra who is a freshman, and I swear the most beautiful person I have ever seen. She is, in short, incredibly pretty. However, she is also very funny and shares my “interesting” sense of humor.

She is the first person I have really connected with who I would also consider a relationship with. I look forward to seeing her every day, even if I only get to talk with her for 30 seconds. The problem is: I found out last week that she has a boyfriend who she has known for years, while I am just getting to know her.

The obvious thing to do is wait, but can I really hope for anything?

“I feel like a guy, but I’m a girl”

I feel like a guy even though I’m a girl. My mom thinks I’m too young for the surgery (which I agree,) but she teases me that I want to wear guys clothes etc. She is supportive of trans people but is for some reason scared that I might be.

I only liked pink when I was under six and I only stopped wearing dresses roughly 6 months ago. Please help. When I told my friends they just laughed and started to tell me that I’m not a guy and “you’d look bad with short hair” or “you look good as a girl, you ungrateful bitch” and “I didn’t even get a chance to give you a makeover .” 😦

“I think I’m in love with my best friend”

I’m a 15 y/o girl and I’ve liked my best friend, a 13 y/o girl, ever since I met her. I think I might be in love with her? I met her when I was 7, she was 5. I don’t think I realized how I felt about her until I was about 12. At first I thought I just liked her as a close friend or little sister. But I think I love her.

I haven’t confessed to her, but I have told her that I’m bisexual, although I’ve never had any romantic feelings towards anyone but her. When I was 12 and she was 10 we had a sleepover at her house, that’s when I realized how I feel. I find myself staring at her a lot. I also tend to go on her social media profiles quite a few times a day. I get jealous whenever I see anyone do or say anything to her that I feel could be flirtatious. Continue reading

“My brother died and his girlfriend is all over me”

My brother died and we just had his funeral, but during it, his girlfriend was overly touchy-feely with me. During hugs she would be squeezing my arms and back. During a sit down hug she was grabbing my head and kissing me all over.

It would be different if I was a kid or something, but I’m 20 years old. I’ve only met her once before all this and didn’t think anything of it. Now she is inviting me out to coffee and I’d rather not. How do I politely decline and make sure I never see her again?

“Is she reluctant and distant?”

I’ve been dating this girl for a little longer than 2 weeks, talking for almost a month. I’m 23, she’s 20. We’re both emotionally scarred from previous relationships and she has admitted that she’s terrified of commitment.

We hit it off strong, spending almost every night together, simple casual netflix dates, nothing special. Then I talked about some sensitive subjects and she’s grown distant with me. We haven’t seen each other in over a week but she’s been, what seems to be, reluctantly texting me. Her entire demeanor over text has changed from happy and interested, to what I can only interpret as obligatory replies and short.

I realize it’s a short term relationship and I shouldn’t have invested myself so deeply into it so soon but she’s special. I really can’t figure out why, but I can’t get her off my mind. I need some help.