“Has my boyfriend been seeing someone else?”

I’ve just received some disturbing news from my estranged brother who lives with my boyfriend of two years; he told me that my boyfriend had been seeing one of his friends on the side for the past 18 months. He seemed so earnest when he told me, so I spoke directly to my boyfriend. (On a side note my brother and boyfriend have been growing apart for the past year now and barely stand each other anymore).

He said it was stupid and that it was complete bullshit, and he too looked so earnest and hurt about the accusations and I do trust him. I honestly don’t know who to believe because I trust both of them and they both looked and sounded so earnest. We’ve been together for two years and I’ve invested so much into this relationship that I don’t want to lose it.

My confession is that I want to ask my boyfriend to look through his phone, just to settle my paranoia. Even though I trust him wholeheartedly, I can’t stop thinking ‘what if’ and it’s eating me inside. But I don’t know how to ask without destroying everything in the process. But if I don’t ask, it’s going to destroy me.

“He’s planning to be roommates with the girl he cheated on me with”

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. We never really had issues until this girl who became his best friend came into his life. If they had been friends long before then, I would have absolutely no reason to feel insecure.

However, he and I started dating months before they became friends. About a year into our relationship, he and his friend started dating — and I was completely unaware. He was cheating on me and lying about it, but he had told his whole family and all of his friends that he had broken up with me.

I never really let people get to me like that, but went into a manic state and faced (and currently still face) a lot of mental struggles. He cut me off, and I felt very alone, because all of his friends are also my friends, and based off of his lies, they took his side. Continue reading

“I found out my boyfriend is on Tinder”

I have been dating my boyfriend for year now. About 5 months ago, my boyfriend left for a week to Canada to play in a hockey tournament. When he came back, I found a screenshot of a girl from Snapchat on his camera roll, which led to me also finding his Tinder account. He was using his Tinder account when he was out in Canada.

His team had won the tournament, and his last night they went out. The screenshot of the girl was some Canadian girl from Tinder, and from the glimpse of the text said “I had a really fun night,” but I didn’t have the gut to read their text messages (the girls he message on Tinder were just flirting — he only gave his number out to this Canadian girl). Continue reading

“I have two boyfriends and neither of them know about each other”

I’m reaching out here because I’m stuck in a big problem and I don’t know what to do anymore. I was with a boy for 3 and a half years, he is one year younger so he is in his last year of High school. He is disloyal to me and I know because I have friends who are still in high school, and tell me they either saw him being flirty, or getting to touchy with a bunch of different girls.

But it’s not just that, I feel it in my heart and when he answers my questions, I can tell his answers are not honest and genuine. However, I have no proof he is cheating. So I made the stupid decision to start cheating. I am now talking to this other guy, but as I’m getting to know him, he seems to come with more problems. He is a convicted felon which I was unaware of. Half of the town girls say he’s cool and funny and hot and other times, he’s crazy and rude and mean. Continue reading

“I found out my wife cheated on me 14 years ago”

Back when we dating, my wife had sex with a guy on cruise. It was 14 years ago, and we had been dating for 4 years at that point. We now have been married for 2 years, and I only found out 6 months ago, when she decided to tell me sort of out of the blue.

After she told me, I found a photo album with 6 pics of her hanging on this guy. She said this meant nothing to her. Yet, why did she save the pics?

She refuses now even to discuss this with me. I feel she is not being honest with me about what it meant. Should I be upset?

“My boyfriend ‘half’ cheated on me”

My boyfriend “half” cheated on me, meaning I caught him flirting, texting, and trying to meet up with this girl. Our relationship was awesome at the time, even he admits it, so I have no clue why he’d act like that. She sent him “racey” pictures, so it’s not like they were meeting up to discuss world views.

Years later, I notice they’re still friends on Facebook!? He probably gets on Facebook once every 3 months, so it’s unlikely they’re actively chatting, but when your girlfriend’s upset about you attempting to cheat, wouldn’t that be a smart step to take, unfriend her? This is a deal breaker for me, but I’m unsure if I’m out of line, since he’s not an avid Facebook user.
Thanks!

“My husband looks at other women on the internet”

I don’t know what to do when it comes to my marriage. Let me start from the beginning…

About a year and a half ago, I went onto my (then) boyfriend’s computer to check my bank account. I started typing ‘Bank of America’ into the browser, but as soon as I entered ‘ba’, a bunch of history sites for backpage.com popped up. I didn’t know what it was, but I also saw ‘escorts’ in the web address. I then looked at his history and saw that he looked these pages up. When I confronted him about it, he said he was just curious. He said he had read they do a lot of sting operations, and he was just curious to see if the profiles really were fake. Continue reading

“My husband was texting another woman”

My husband and I have been together for 10 years ( 5 years married.)  For the most part we are happy and we have 2 handsome boys. Sunday I was going through his phone and he had this weird flirtatious conversation with a male friend I didn’t know he was talking to. Long story short, it was actually a female ( he put it under a male name so I wouldn’t notice) and they work together.

Looking through phone records they don’t text each other everyday, but he has erased all their messages. He swears that all the conversations before have been innocent and they were only joking in the messages I saw, and that he doesn’t have feelings for this girl and I have nothing to worry about. He said the only reason he changed the name and erased the messages was because he didn’t want me to get mad. He says he’s really sorry and didn’t mean to hurt me and he swears there is nothing going on. Continue reading

“Is it cheating if I want to kiss another woman?”

Is it cheating if you’re in a normal heterosexual relationship (I’m a woman) and want to kiss another woman? I have these urges!! I know it’s due to my past. I didn’t have a pretty childhood, and hence, now I have tendencies towards woman.

But is it really cheating if you’ve married the man of your life, and he is absolutely incredible, but kissing another woman and daybed flirting turn you on? Is it just from my shorty serial abuse childhood?

Please help me before I make a mistake!

“I’m worried I have damaged our relationship”

To begin with… I am severely traumatized by cheating and lying exes and in general a pretty insecure person. I know it’s not an excuse but it might explain where this is coming from. I am always so scared of losing him.

I did a mad mistake. A while ago I checked my boyfriend’s computer and found out he was having chats with webcam girls. One can be argued whether this is considered cheating or not but for me webcam sex is. I couldn’t stop after my discovery and checked everything from Facebook to browser history. We talked, he stopped it and I apologized for breaking his trust and swore to him and myself never to do it again. I really believed I would never do this again. Continue reading