“I had sex and want to come clean”

Last year, I had sex with a guy, only to find out that he had a girlfriend. I honestly felt terrible because he continued to go on dates with her since, and she had no idea what happened. I recently found her social media and saw that she had posted a picture of them together.

I really want to come clean and tell her what happened between her boyfriend and me, but I am scared of what is going to happen next. I need advice on whether or not I should tell her, and I also need advice on what I would say if I told her.

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“He cheated, it’s in the past, but I’m struggling to move on”

I found out over a year ago that my partner had cheated on me. I’m still struggling with it, and I’d like some advice from an unbiased source. The way in which I found out was teen-soap-opera levels of melodramatic, but I’ll leave it at this: I found out, confronted him that night, and after several nights of conversation we decided to work through the issues and stay together.

Fast forward to now, and we’re getting close to 3 years. The love I feel between us is so strong and sincere that I get emotional thinking about it. I’ve had my fair share of shitty guys who lent a hand in warping my perception of myself and my worth, but this man has helped me feel loved in the skin I’m in now, and I’m so unconditionally cared for. We live in our own places but I’m there often enough to feel like I live there, with my own set of keys. We spend so much time with each other and I really do cherish every moment. Continue reading

“I’m in love with my ex”

I have been dating this guy for a year, and I care about him a lot but I don’t want to be with him. It’s kind of one of those “our parents wanted us to be together” things. But I’m in love with my ex.

My ex and I broke up 3 years ago but have been sneaking around and seeing each other in private.. is it wrong of me??? What should I do? Because now my ex is talking to me about this great new girl he met who he likes, and what not. I just wish I could be with him.. but I can’t break up with my current boyfriend, and now I feel like my ex is using me for sex. I’m stuck and I feel like a horrible person.

“My wife slept with a guy on a cruise”

I have been married for almost 2 years and have dated her for 16 years. About 10 months ago, my wife told me she slept with a guy while on a cruise with girlfriends 12 years ago. I’m upset about it and can’t let it go.

After telling me about him,  I found a picture album with a number of pictures of her with him, taken on the cruise, and she told me she called him after the cruise twice.

“My fiance has dick pics on his phone”

My fiance keeps going on dating sites. He knows I don’t like Snapchat (because he’s used it to online cheat before).  But I found it downloaded onto his phone again. So I snooped. I’ve found dick pics, pictures of girls, and online dating sites.

We’ve been dating for 4 years and live together. We made a family with all our animals. Our whole lives are financially and physically mashed together. I have no idea what do. Any advice for my sorry ass of a life?

“Has my boyfriend been seeing someone else?”

I’ve just received some disturbing news from my estranged brother who lives with my boyfriend of two years; he told me that my boyfriend had been seeing one of his friends on the side for the past 18 months. He seemed so earnest when he told me, so I spoke directly to my boyfriend. (On a side note my brother and boyfriend have been growing apart for the past year now and barely stand each other anymore).

He said it was stupid and that it was complete bullshit, and he too looked so earnest and hurt about the accusations and I do trust him. I honestly don’t know who to believe because I trust both of them and they both looked and sounded so earnest. We’ve been together for two years and I’ve invested so much into this relationship that I don’t want to lose it.

My confession is that I want to ask my boyfriend to look through his phone, just to settle my paranoia. Even though I trust him wholeheartedly, I can’t stop thinking ‘what if’ and it’s eating me inside. But I don’t know how to ask without destroying everything in the process. But if I don’t ask, it’s going to destroy me.

“He’s planning to be roommates with the girl he cheated on me with”

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. We never really had issues until this girl who became his best friend came into his life. If they had been friends long before then, I would have absolutely no reason to feel insecure.

However, he and I started dating months before they became friends. About a year into our relationship, he and his friend started dating — and I was completely unaware. He was cheating on me and lying about it, but he had told his whole family and all of his friends that he had broken up with me.

I never really let people get to me like that, but went into a manic state and faced (and currently still face) a lot of mental struggles. He cut me off, and I felt very alone, because all of his friends are also my friends, and based off of his lies, they took his side. Continue reading

“I found out my boyfriend is on Tinder”

I have been dating my boyfriend for year now. About 5 months ago, my boyfriend left for a week to Canada to play in a hockey tournament. When he came back, I found a screenshot of a girl from Snapchat on his camera roll, which led to me also finding his Tinder account. He was using his Tinder account when he was out in Canada.

His team had won the tournament, and his last night they went out. The screenshot of the girl was some Canadian girl from Tinder, and from the glimpse of the text said “I had a really fun night,” but I didn’t have the gut to read their text messages (the girls he message on Tinder were just flirting — he only gave his number out to this Canadian girl). Continue reading

“I have two boyfriends and neither of them know about each other”

I’m reaching out here because I’m stuck in a big problem and I don’t know what to do anymore. I was with a boy for 3 and a half years, he is one year younger so he is in his last year of High school. He is disloyal to me and I know because I have friends who are still in high school, and tell me they either saw him being flirty, or getting to touchy with a bunch of different girls.

But it’s not just that, I feel it in my heart and when he answers my questions, I can tell his answers are not honest and genuine. However, I have no proof he is cheating. So I made the stupid decision to start cheating. I am now talking to this other guy, but as I’m getting to know him, he seems to come with more problems. He is a convicted felon which I was unaware of. Half of the town girls say he’s cool and funny and hot and other times, he’s crazy and rude and mean. Continue reading