“My husband was texting another woman”

My husband and I have been together for 10 years ( 5 years married.)  For the most part we are happy and we have 2 handsome boys. Sunday I was going through his phone and he had this weird flirtatious conversation with a male friend I didn’t know he was talking to. Long story short, it was actually a female ( he put it under a male name so I wouldn’t notice) and they work together.

Looking through phone records they don’t text each other everyday, but he has erased all their messages. He swears that all the conversations before have been innocent and they were only joking in the messages I saw, and that he doesn’t have feelings for this girl and I have nothing to worry about. He said the only reason he changed the name and erased the messages was because he didn’t want me to get mad. He says he’s really sorry and didn’t mean to hurt me and he swears there is nothing going on. Continue reading

“Is it cheating if I want to kiss another woman?”

Is it cheating if you’re in a normal heterosexual relationship (I’m a woman) and want to kiss another woman? I have these urges!! I know it’s due to my past. I didn’t have a pretty childhood, and hence, now I have tendencies towards woman.

But is it really cheating if you’ve married the man of your life, and he is absolutely incredible, but kissing another woman and daybed flirting turn you on? Is it just from my shorty serial abuse childhood?

Please help me before I make a mistake!

“I’m worried I have damaged our relationship”

To begin with… I am severely traumatized by cheating and lying exes and in general a pretty insecure person. I know it’s not an excuse but it might explain where this is coming from. I am always so scared of losing him.

I did a mad mistake. A while ago I checked my boyfriend’s computer and found out he was having chats with webcam girls. One can be argued whether this is considered cheating or not but for me webcam sex is. I couldn’t stop after my discovery and checked everything from Facebook to browser history. We talked, he stopped it and I apologized for breaking his trust and swore to him and myself never to do it again. I really believed I would never do this again. Continue reading

“Why do I feel guilty for being happy after she divorced me?”

I’m a 45-year-old male, retired military, and professional. I was married to a women for 16 years, and after numerous deployments and significant separation, she texted another man. Not sure what else happened. In return, I cheated on her. We both made some bad decisions.

I confessed mine to her — and my unhappiness with her behaviors — and in return, she filed for divorce and aired out dirty laundry all over Facebook and to our small community. I started thinking about why, and I realized that I had become a paycheck to her and not a companion.

She has no respect for me — and I none for her. We have no interests together, and she put forth no effort in making a home for us, except to keep up with the other wives in appearance. I would come home to no supper, an untidy house, and piles of dirty laundry, even though we had made an agreement that I would work outside the home, and she would work inside the home and raise our kids. Continue reading

“I feel guilty about my emotional cheating”

About three years ago, I met the guy of my dreams. We have been dating for 2.5 years, and I truly love him. I feel like we connect emotionally and physically, and I know that is a rare find!

I’ve never felt so close to someone. However, since a few weeks ago, I have been starting to feel attracted to a colleague. One night, I got drunk and slept over at the colleague’s house. At night nothing happened, but in the morning, when we were sober, we held each other and talked about our feelings of attraction for each other. Continue reading

“I’m scared my health problems are pushing him away”

I’ve been with my fiancé for over 4 years. In the first year of our relationship, he went behind my back with his ex. He also cheated on me with her again (and briefly left me for her) in the winter of 2015 and February 2016. He also cheated on me with and left me for a girl he worked with a couple of years ago for a month. However, we have been together for the majority of the last 4 1/2 years.

I cut him off last year, because I had had enough and didn’t want to be his backup or just-in-case anymore. He would never open up to me. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative and always kept me hanging on while still talking to other girls. Continue reading

“My wife got drunk and tried to cheat on me”

Should I be mad about this? I caught my wife cheating on me with … ME.

My wife is (EXTREMELY, like ready to divorce me) mad at me, because (ironically) she thinks I cheated on her. Long story involving a lady who was a friend of mine (never even kissed her, actually) and a years-old email message from my friend that that I’d totally forgotten about. Until my wife (snooping through my old email messages) went batsh*t crazy over it, that is.

So my wife decides she’s going to solve all of her problems by spending THE RENT MONEY to go out alone with her “gay” friend (I’ll call him Mike) and get plastered.

She calls me at 1 AM to come get her. She’d spent about $150 of the rent money, I assume on drinks for the two of them. But when I found them, she was buying takeout food for him. Could have killed them both, but there was a young child home (asleep), so I was mainly concerned with getting my drunk wife home fast. Continue reading

“My boyfriend and I fight constantly”

My boyfriend and I fight a lot! We have been together for about 10 months now. We are both in our mid 20s. We broke up once around 5 months because of constant fighting. I was upset with him a lot because I didn’t think he was a good boyfriend to me at first. Perhaps due to his lack of relationship experience and years of sleeping around. But then I knew I wasn’t a good girlfriend either. I was very demanding and would be pissed for lots of small things and had the habit of ordering him around and occasionally making fun of him in front of his friends etc.

Little did I know, at that time, when we first started dating, he slept with his ex twice. It’s the only ex he had three years ago. He dumped her, and she has been in love with him/waiting for him for 3 years. He confessed to me last week. I was shocked. He said he wasn’t very serious with me at first cuz of the way I treated him, and he really wanted unprotected sex which I couldn’t give him. That he regretted deeply after we got back together the second time, and told her ex that we were getting serious so they should stop. And it never happened again. He cried so hard and begged me to give him a second chance. I eventually agreed but on the demand of checking his phone whenever I want, which he agreed. Continue reading

“My fiancé has no sex drive”

Me and my fiancée have been together for about three years. We are still madly in love and everything is going well, except the sex. About a year-and-a-half ago, we started having sex less and it’s just decreased until the sex is now non-existent. He insists it’s nothing to do with me and he still tells me I’m beautiful and compliments me. I’ve tried talking to him so many times in so many different ways, but he just makes up different excuses all the time. He acknowledges that the sex has stopped and says he misses it, but then doesn’t do anything about it. I’ve tried coming onto him and he just turns me down. I don’t want to have to end the relationship, as I love him, we’re engaged and own a house together, but, how can I go on like this? Eventually it will take its toll and I’m starting to think about having sex with other men. I’d never cheat on him but the fact I’m thinking about it is bad enough.

“I feel completely alone right now”

I feel completely alone right now. I love my boyfriend deeply, but, recently, I found him texting another girl after a night out. He’s cheated before, but, foolishly, I forgave him. He says he’s sorry, but, I just don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t understand what I did wrong for him to cheat on me. And now every time that he leaves to a friend’s or his cousin’s house, and I think he’s cheating. I’m completely lost on what I should do.