“He’s talking marriage but I just don’t trust him”

I need some advice! My boyfriend and I have been together a total of almost a year and a half and just a few months ago he had “out of no where” broke up with me for about a month . It all started when his phone lit up and he received a text from a girl talking about what each of them like to do (like go hiking). They seemed to be talking about things in order to get to know each other.

I am all about having friends so I have never really went too far into anything , but this struck me as a little odd, so I confronted him and asked him to see the texts and he promptly said “no”, put his phone away and turned it around on me and exclaimed that if I trusted him I wouldn’t be asking him about it. Continue reading

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“I love him but he’s terrible in bed”

I waited until I was married to have sex. I loved him, for better or worse for 10 years. He was terrible in bed. He hurt me. If I tried to give him suggestions in bed, he’d get mad and it would end in a fight. Sex always became a source of tension. I didn’t know any better and thought this is what sex was.

After a decade of fighting, we planned a divorce, I started seeing someone else and had sex with a stranger for the first time. It was earth-shatteringly good. Exactly what I imagined sex would be like and more.

But I reconciled with my husband because I realized I loved him. Problem is, he is still terrible in bed and I don’t know what to do now that I know it’s him, and not sex in general. I love him, he’s a great father to my kids, but sex is important. Do I destroy it all for good sex? Live without sex? Cheat? Help me!

“I lied to her and lost her trust”

I’ve been with my partner for 10 months now. We were in a long distance relationship for 7 months. I moved out of state and dropped everything to be with her. It was my choice I was willing to risk it all. We have had a really good relationship. We laughed together, we went out, we stayed in, we were strong. We had a great sex life. Everything seemed to be ok. But lingering in the back of my mind was the fact that she was 50/50 on marriage. Continue reading

“My life is a mess and I’m completely lost”

I’m completely lost. I don’t know what to do. I feel like my life is a never ending spiral of failures. I’m 16 and I know, “I have my whole life ahead of me”, but do I really? Every single Honors student know what they want to do with their lives, and then there’s me. To be honest, I don’t even think I’ll live past age 20, let alone finish College and University.

My mom hates me. She keeps me as a prisoner in my own house. And that’s not to sound dramatic or anything, I’m actually not allowed to leave the house. I couldn’t even go to my friend’s graduation back in May. She never let me leave the house over my summer break, she doesn’t let me hang out with my friends.

I’m a good girl, good grades, top test scores, AP classes, but none of that means anything apparently. To her, I’m just a sex crazed idiot like “teenagers are supposed to be.” She won’t even let me get a job. And there’s the fact that she constantly cheats on my dad and forces me to keep it a secret (this has been going on since I was about 7.)

I get bullied. Endless racial jokes about me being Mexican, come at about every second. And if it’s not a racist joke, it’s some insult about how I’m a ‘prude.’ It’s gotten to the point that I can hear their words when they’re not around. I feel like the walls around me are quickly closing in and I have nowhere to go. Please, what am I supposed to do?

“Do I tell him about the cheating, or keep my mouth shut?”

I would like to get something off my chest that has made me sick to my stomach since the day I found out. I work with this fella that has been messing around with a married lady… that’s on her for putting herself in that situation and not being faithful but it’s on him for continuing with it. She was recently married a couple years ago. You ask me why is this your problem?

Well coming from a marriage with a cheating spouse this kind of hit home for me. Not only did everyone lie to me that knew about my husband, but I literally tore myself apart just to find the god awful truth. If a stranger or someone that was around them when it happened would have came to me and told me, it would of saved me a lot more time and heart break.

So I am asking for advice on if I should contact him about how shitty of a wife he has, or simply keep my mouth shut. I feel bad for her husband and dislike the boy I work with, but I believe I owe it to the cheated on spouses. Please help!

“Do I stick it out, or give up on my current relationship?”

When we first talked about dating, she promised an honest and open relationship in the sense of communication.

In the time we’ve dated, communication hasn’t gotten any better and is absolutely terrible compared to before. I’ve gotten cheated on, she lies consistently, still talks with the men she flirts with and is still incredibly irresponsible. She also claims to have cheated on a guy simply because she didn’t screw or see him for two weeks. I won’t be able to see her for a while so I’m concerned.

She has plenty of great qualities and I am madly in love with her,  but I can’t trust her to save my life. How can I resolve this? We get along great, and have awesome chemistry.

She has PTSD related issues, so I can’t approach these issues directly without her shutting down and going dead silent for two days. How can I resolve this?

“My boyfriend cheated on me”

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years and we have a daughter together. Well I just found out that he cheated on me 2 years ago with a girl that he told me he’s never been with.

I’ve also caught him, not too long ago, messaging girls on a dating website asking for pictures. I don’t know if I should leave him or not. I do love him but I’m not the type of person to stay with someone that has cheated. What should I do?

“He thinks I’m cheating but I’m not!”

My boyfriend and I have not been together for that long and all of a sudden he keeps asking me if I am cheating on him (which I am not whatsoever), I do have guy friends but it was something we discussed before we even made our relationship official and we came to the agreement that since these people have been in my life longer than he even has, and are such a major part of my life, it wasn’t going to be a problem.

Yet he still keeps asking me if I am cheating, if we are hanging out and my phone goes off sometimes he will rip if out of my hand and go through it. We’ve talked about it and he said he will work on it but he still questions me and such. I feel like he doesn’t trust me.  Continue reading

“I’ve lost my self-worth after sleeping with a married man’

So to keep it short, since about April I have been involved with a married man. He is 37, and I am 25. I too, am involved in a long term relationship so I guess we both could relate on some of the issues that we have been dealing with in the both of our relationships, which in turn sort of started the whole affair.

We both agreed to trying our best at not developing feelings, which was totally cool at first. But lately I’ve been having strong feelings. I feel a lot of guilt on so many levels, and I feel so worthless ever since we started sleeping together. Each time we have sex and he leaves, I can’t help but due to the shame that I feel. It’s like he takes a piece of me each and every single time he leaves after we are done.

I really want to break this off, especially knowing that our relationship will never be anything more than what it is. But sadly I have fallen for him. I have nobody to vent to, and it’s eating me up inside. I’m just curious as to how do I let this guy go? How do I emotionally and spiritually pick myself back up again? How do I get my self worth back again? He took it all from me.