“He loves his friends more than me”

I don’t know how to start this, but I think it’s best if you know as much detail as possible.
I’ve been with my current partner for just over two years, I am 23 and he is 19, almost 20. I have a 4 year old son, who’s father is my ex.

At the beginning of our relationship, I discovered he was still actively using a dating app because he was unsure if ‘we’d work out’. He was also deleting messages from his ex. This situation was confronted and quickly forgiven. I absolutely adore him, and as cliche as it sounds, he came in to my life when I needed someone very badly (I suffer with depression). Like I said, I adore him. Continue reading

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“Did I miss an opportunity?”

I have been friends with this guy for about 4 years now…when we first met I was 17 and he was 20. Anyway, when we met four years ago, he really liked me, but at the time I was going through a heartache of another crush, unfortunately.

But with time, we became very close, and we continued to talk despite the long distance. He lived in TX and I in IL. However, I secretly began to develop feelings for him too…I never told him. Eventually, we both just agreed at the time to just be friends, because of the long distance. After that, we slowly lost contact. Continue reading

“I’m lonely and I can’t make new friends”

I’m going start off with I’m not crazy psychotic. or anything like that. Now that that’s clear, after searching ‘ask for advice online’ I found this site, and well, I need some advice.

The thing is, I’m just lonely. I tried a ton of websites to meet/make new friends, I’ve tried MeetUp, long story short, there’s nothing in my area. I even thought of volunteering, to meet new people and do some good. After numerous applications filled out, I heard nothing. I don’t have any opportunities to meet new friends in my day to day life, or through my favorite hobbies.  Nor can I even create any, so I’m literally stuck, and have been now for quite a while.

I am not at all happy about it. I should mention that I have a certain mental disorder, that just doesn’t help the matter out one bit, long story, has something to do with how it makes me appear/seem to others and leave it at that.

“I did something really stupid”

I did something really stupid that I probably shouldn’t have done, and now a friend of mine is extremely angry with me. But first, I should probably explain what led me up to this situation.

I met this boy on Instagram back in August or so. We’ll call him G. G lives in England. We started talking more, and by January, there were plans for him to move over here and live with me. Well, he started talking to his other friends about this plan, and he created a group chat with the friends who were willing to come to America with him. The group consisted of G, his girlfriend, some guy we’ll call J, and K. K was a lovely guy. He was sweet, caring, and very cute. We started PMing each other, one thing led to another, and we were in a relationship. A long distance relationship. With distance came desire. We wanted to see each other, and more of each other (if you know what I mean). It was amazing until April. Continue reading

“I’m stuck between two guys”

I am stuck between two people, one who I know a bit about, he’s a few years older than me but he is very sweet and has an amazing personality.

The other guy is someone who I’ve been friends with for several months and we are close as ever. He is sweet and I know he’d treat me right (he’s seen how I’ve been treated in the past) but I’m nervous I’ll ruin my friendship with him. Both like me except my friend told the first guy I like him. And the second guy knows I used to like him. I’m not sure what to do because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and I’m scared someone will get hurt. Help!

“Am I being unreasonable about this guy?”

This is a long post, but it’s a long story.

I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he also in love with a girl at his work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feeling and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.  Continue reading

“What happened to the chemistry we had?”

I come from a fairly conservative household. I met “M” on POF and quickly discovered we had ties. Since I lived in an area where there were a lot of us of the same culture, his family and my family had a distant friendship.

He said he was looking for marriage, as was I. We hit it off and started speaking on Whatsapp. Soon after he began to tell me how God answered his prayers sending me, how we meshed so well and how he could not wait to take me home. Continue reading

“She is skeptical of my trustworthiness”

I’ve been single for a few years now, but I’m talking with a girl, Lauren, who I was really good friends with a few years ago. We’ve hung out a few times but nothing more than a hug and no serious dates.

I met her years before through my then girlfriend, Sam. I will admit, I cheated on Sam one time when I kissed another girl. It was a mistake and we made up and continued our relationship for more than a year after, but now Lauren found out that I cheated, not knowing really what happened, and is understandably skeptical of my trustworthiness. I have fallen completely in love with Lauren but don’t know how to prove to her that I’ve changed for the better.

“I’m scared that it could be depression”

Over the last few days, I’ve become reluctant to hang out with my friends. To all intents and purposes, I’m an extrovert, and I love being the center of attention. However, when I was invited to a sleepover at my closest friend’s house, I was dreading going for some reason, even after I got there.

When I got there, I was very quick to retreat into a shell of self-isolation. I don’t think I talked to anyone substantially with the exception of one friend at the sleepover. Having said that, the only things I really talked about with her was her new boyfriend and how much I didn’t want to be at the sleepover. Continue reading

“I want to be more than just friends”

I met my best guy friend, J, in February through match.com. We immediately clicked, had common interests, similar morals, and communicate well. We both are interested in each other, but he does not want to jeopardize our great relationship that we have as friends.

A lot of it has to do with his prior relationships and being hurt by them; and also them never speaking to him since. He doesn’t want that to happen with us. He also has episodes of clinical depression which contributes to this thinking of his. His last relationship ended a little over a year ago and lasted 8 years. My last relationship was over 3 years ago and I’ve dated a lot if anyone was wondering. I feel like he is what I’ve been looking for. I am 34 and he is 32, so we are not teenagers or in our early 20s either. I want to keep him in my life and will stay friends with him, but does anyone think there is a chance he will change his mind in the future?