“I’m torn between this girl and all my friends”

I have a new girlfriend, we have been dating for about a month. but some of my friends demand that I break up with her, or else I will lose theirs and many others, respect. Why?

One night, a bunch of friends gathered at the beach, late in the night. I was busy the following day so I didn’t go. This gathering lasted from about 12 to 4pm. My girlfriend secretly took her dad’s car to drive to the beach. She has no licence, and not much experience (we’re both 16.) Once the night was over, many of her girlfriends got drunk, I’m not sure if she was drinking or not. She had to drive her friends back home, probably just to her house. One of her friends told one of my friends about the night, and described how she got home and the way my girlfriend was driving. She wasn’t angry at her, she said she found it fun and it was crazy. She was driving unlicensed, she ran several red lights and was driving on the wrong side of the road supposedly. Continue reading

“I’m in love with a guy who has a girlfriend”

This is going to be a bit long I guess, but please bear with me because I am in a difficult place and I need help right now. So, I met this guy, A, in 6th grade and we became close. We admitted back then that we had a crush on each other but then our friendship kind of faded because we didn’t hang a lot anymore again and I forgot why.

Then in 9th grade we became close again and I really enjoyed being around him but I only saw him as a best friend as I was having a crush on another guy at the time. And then at 10th grade, he and another guy confessed to me they liked me but I stupidly chose the other guy and he turned out to be a jerk. Continue reading

“Shall I try to stay friends with my ex?”

I dated this girl for a little over a year. We were very close, closer than I had ever experienced with someone before. Going into college, our relationship seemed to go very well for a few months.

At the beginning of November, however, she switched gears completely. She stated that she no longer “loved me like I wanted her too”, and it evolved to us breaking up, temporarily at first, then permanently. We had established we very much wanted to stay friends, but my attempts to maintain contact failed. Eventually she told me she didn’t see me in her life at all, but the way she talked and how she had suddenly decided that seemed wrong to me. Continue reading

“My friend is a compulsive liar”

I have a friend of 6 years who I do love and we have had great times. But over time (and it’s getting worse as time goes on) I have realized that this friend has a serious issue with guilt tripping and attention issues. I’m bringing this to a place like this now, because it really is getting serious.

The friend’s mother had a seizure, and it was found out that she had a small tumor in her frontal lobe, which is being removed in a few days. I want to be there for my friend and I will be, but we got into a shouting match very quickly yesterday because my friend showed up in the middle of my school’s art show, and started every conversation with every person who saw them with ‘well my mom is dying from cancer so I’m doing horrible’ and then proceeded to make more similar comments, etc. Continue reading

“My boyfriend wants me to talk to other guys”

My boyfriend has 4 jobs including grad school and we never see each other.  I’m perfectly fine with having a mix of a long distance relationship and a seeing each other relationship, but he thinks I grow unhappy and wants me to talk to other guys while we continue having our relationship.

I’m personally not that girl but he insists he doesn’t want me to have sex with them, just talk to form some type of relationship. I’m at a loss…

“My wife’s friends are tearing apart our marriage”

My wife has a best friend who gave her advice during a difficult time in our marriage. I did all I could to patch things up and become the man my wife wants me to be, but she continued to listen to the friend. She dogged me out, asking why I was calling her on Thanksgiving while deployed.

Upon returning, I had a suspicion that something was going on, so I took her phone and found text messages between my wife and her friend, dogging me out. I came home one day and found prepaid cards lying around, and she said she was throwing them away from work, but I later found a phone card in a drawer.

Later, I caught my wife lying three times about having a prepaid phone which I had discovered. I told her to cut off the relationship with the friend, because it’s destroying our marriage and because she consistency lies to me. I am honest, open, and trying to love my wife through arguments and disagreements we have. I see my mistakes of the past (no infidelity) and try to work out things. Continue reading

“Why are my friends acting so weird?”

Why are my crush’s friends acting so weird? And they’re actually my friends too. I’m a freshman girl and I have a crush on my sorority president. Let’s call her Naomi, and it seems like she likes me too. She usually gives me intense stares, checks me out, and accidentally (not accidentally at all) bumped into my arm and kept her arm touching mine until she left — bearing in mind that we were outside in the open and it was just like a dozen girls there.

She also gives me this look where its like, her mouth is open and she lowers her eyelids … anyway I’m friends with two of her friends. Lets call them Annie and Kelsey. And she has another friend who is very quiet, Lily.

Annie and I met because we do charity work together and we became friends and I would hang out with her, and she would ALWAYS bring up Naomi, all the time, telling me what church she goes to, things they’ve done to her and how she reacted etc. Even once when I mentioned eating these amazing muffins, she was like “oh me and Naomi went to this amazing coffee shop the other time but I cant remember what its called, I’ll ask her for you”.

Kelsey and I would also hang out and she would also always bring her up, try and link whatever we were talking about to Naomi. But Kelsey would also seem to have a crush on me anyway. We were having hell week and were supposed to graduate but didnt because of issues with transport. Continue reading

“I want to be friends, but he’s lost interest in me”

Hi, I need your advice on how to move on. Well, in March at work, a guy approached me and we became friends. He was very sweet to me and we often texted each other. I realised the chemistry between us was not bad. I saw him as a friend, nonetheless. He started becoming clingy and I felt quite uncomfortable because at that point, we barely knew each other.

Slowly, as days go by, he kept coming to my seat and was very touchy and came too close to me (I cringed). I felt pressured and wanted him to give me the space I needed. Sometimes we talked about our past experiences and I counseled him a little. I remember telling him why I was very wary of guys (I have yet to heal fully from the pain someone caused me).

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“My boyfriend is having doubts about our relationship because of what our friends told him”

Hi, my guy and I have been in a relationship for the past nine years. In the past three to four months,we’ve been facing difficulties due to our common friends, as they’ve been telling him things about me, and he’s really hurt.

He really wants to get back together, but is confused and hurt, and is having second thoughts about our relationship. Please help us get back together asap!

“I have a secret crush on the guy my friend is dating”

So I really like this guy, and once i realized it, I was so happy to tell my friend. However, when she got to my house, we went upstairs so I could tell her, and she told me that she’s dating the guy I like.

I decided not to tell her I liked him and to try and get over him. It’s been about a month, and my friends were telling me today that they don’t think he likes my friend, because after like a week, he stopped wanting to hang out.

Also, my friend said that he told her he might like someone else. I had suspected before that he liked me, but I forgot about it once he started dating my friend. But recently, I caught him staring at me in class and trying to just be near me. This would make me really happy, but now I don’t know what to do, because he might break up with my friend to be with me.

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