“Our relationship is affecting our friend group”

My boyfriend and I were part of a pretty small friend group before we got together. We all hung out frequently, but now that we’re dating, we mostly hang out with just each other. Though I enjoy being with my boyfriend, I feared that this would happen and our friend groups dynamic would be off.

Now, my boyfriend kind of separates me and our friend groups interactions with him. Recently, I decided to visit him in the afternoon. He had told me another one of our friends would be coming over too, which I was completely fine with. While we were waiting for him, my boyfriend started talking about how excited he was to hang out with our friend alone (exact words: “I was so excited to hang out with him alone, then you came over.”) Normally, I wouldn’t be upset, but he said this after I had already asked beforehand if I could come over and he seemed fine with it. Only when I was actually there, did he say this. I left because of this a few minutes after our friend came over. Does anyone think I’m in the wrong?

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“My ex has caused me to lose all my friends”

I am struggling with no friends right now. Last year I was talking to this boy and he ended up hurting me really bad. In ways I don’t want to even discuss. For one, he had a girlfriend the whole time.

Skip to a year later which is now. One of my closest friends is dating him. When she told me I was devastated. Not that I cared about the boy, that one of my best friends can look him in the eye knowing that I talked to him, knowing how much he hurt me! I got mad at her and told her how mad I was at her and blocked her. Continue reading

“When another girl touches me I get tingly”

Hi, I’m 12 years old and I’m female. Since I was a small kid whenever another girl would touch me on purpose, I would get all tingly, and I still do. I have a friend who is a boy who I will make physical contact with just as much as my friends who are girls, but I never have the same feeling. Please, can someone tell me what that is, I’m not nervous or scared, just curious.

Thank you!

“Should I cut her out of my life entirely?”

I’ve been working with this girl for about half a year. The first week we both started, I introduced myself, as I did to everyone else I didn’t know. She came up to me later and started a conversation with me. Asking what I liked to do, I told her I was into hiking and some other stuff. She was quick to ask when I was going next and with who, and asked that I hit her up and bring her. Continue reading

” I have a little (gay) crush on my friend’s sister”

My Birthday is in two months and I plan to have a small party with some friends. One of the guests is a friend of mine. Problem is, I have a little (gay) crush on her sister, but never really talked to her except for at another Birthday party some time ago.

I’m not looking for a relationship and she’s probably straight anyway, but I would really like to be friends with her. Should I casually ask my friend to ask her sister if she wants to come too? Like “Hey, you can ask you sister if she wants to come too” or something like that. What should I do?

“My friends don’t care I was hurt by my ex”

I know there’s nothing I can do, but if anything, I just wanted to vent. I’m just feeling somewhat upset that my friends remain such close friends with my ex. It’s been years since things ended, but he cheated with my best friend at the time, among other things, so it left me with lasting insecurities.

I’d prefer never to see him or hear about him again, but we share so many mutual friends. I was hoping at least my closest female friends would understand how I feel, but it doesn’t feel so. Last night, I was out with a few girl friends, and they invited him out too. They got incredibly drunk and kept giggling about how much they adore him, how cute they think he is, how much they want to hook up with him, how they message him every single day, etc. They kept talking about it all night, and I felt so uncomfortable. I know I can’t dictate who my friends are friends with, and I know it’s ancient history.

Regardless, it was a part of my life that really messed me up, and I had hoped my closest friends would sympathize. I don’t expect them to never speak to him again, but I at least would imagine they wouldn’t constantly invite him to our girl’s nights out,  or gab about him incessantly in front of me. I just feel invalidated, like they never even acknowledged how hurt I was. I wish I could change the way I feel about this.

“I can’t stop thinking and talking about him”

I really, really like this guy, who also happens to be a good friend. I’ve known him for almost two years and felt nothing romantically towards him at first, but after getting to know him, I realized I like him more than a friend.

He often gives mixed signals, we’ve matched on Tinder about a dozen times now, but we don’t mention it, and I know he’s matched with some of his other friends. He’ll message me almost everyday, about little things like his cat or asking for help with college work, or gossip, or something bad that happened to him. He will also try drag out the conversation as much as possible. Continue reading

“I think I’ve developed feelings for a girl”

I attend an all-girls school. This new school year a girl moved into our school and ended up in my base class. She seemed really nice, and I was excited to get to know her. It’s been a few months since the beginning of the year now and I think I’ve developed feelings for her. I’m unsure, as previous to now I never would’ve thought that I was anything other than straight.

Whenever she talks to me I seem to tense up, and I often catch myself staring at her. At first I thought that it was some sort of ‘platonic crush’, but I have no idea. This has made becoming friends with her a problem. One day I might be completely confident and we’ll talk etc., but on other occasions I’ve found myself to be completely anxiety-ridden whenever she speaks to me. What do you guys think? Am I actually crushing on her or what?

“I caught my friend having virtual sex online”

Recently I had introduced my friend to a social game online. It was supposed to be something fun that we could do together and maybe goof around with. However, things have taken an unexpected turn. I caught my friend having virtual sex with multiple people online. I’m not sure if they know that I know what they’re doing, but now they’re spending more time going in dating rooms, and having virtual sex with people.

Again, I wasn’t expecting this. I’m just worried about my friend, as I don’t think this behavior is healthy… maybe I’m just a judgmental prick. Also, if it helps, we’re 18 years old…

“Have I pushed her away?”

About 2 years ago I developed a crush on this girl, I was walking about by myself trying to clear my head one night and thought about asking her out when I ended up seeing her with her boyfriend.  Only just realising she had a boyfriend, she waved and gestured me to come over but I just continued walking and then started to cry.

For a while after I took walks pretty often by myself to think, and I always somehow ended up seeing her with her boyfriend, as if the universe is trying to tell me she has a boyfriend. After that I convinced myself we could just be friends, I ended up meeting her boyfriend and we honestly have loads in common and he’s my best friend now. Continue reading