“Do I tell him I miscarried his baby?”

Around two years ago, my fiance (now husband, lets call him Joe) and I broke up and shortly after, I started seeing another guy. He was married, but separated, and there was an undeniable spark and attraction between us from the second we met. I was madly in love with him (lets call him Will), and if I’m honest, I still have very strong feelings for him. Very long story short: some complications came up with his wife and son and custody/divorce so we stopped dating. The last thing I wanted was to cause an issue with his son.

After we stopped dating, I was devastated and knew that Joe would take me back and we could be some kind of happy (which we are). This all happened within 4 months or so. The issue is that shortly after I married my husband (a month or so) I discovered that I was pregnant with Will’s child. A girl. We had talked about kids in the hope that one day we might have one together and we both wanted a little girl to share our lives with. And just after I learned the gender, I had a miscarriage. I’m still so heartbroken over it. I want to tell Will what happened, but it’s been so long and I’m married and he is seeing someone else… I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone. No one knows except me and I feel like he deserves to know, but at the same time I don’t want to cause trouble with his girlfriend. What do I do?

 

“My work friend hugs me every time he sees me”

So there’s a guy I like at work. The other day he says to me, “Don’t misconstrue, but you are beautiful. You are very attractive. You got something”. What the heck does “you got something” mean? And how am I supposed to take his words?

He has been a friend to me up to this point, helping me through my divorce, giving me advice, but tainted heavily with him coaching me to get a divorce (my husband cheated), hugs me every time he sees me. Last time he hugged me, as he was letting me go, he ran his hand down the back of my arm and squeezed my hand. So I don’t know how to approach him now. Any help would be appreciated.

 

“She hates my career choice”

I am a married man in the military. My wife and I have been married 11 years and have 3 kids. I have been in the military 8 years. She hates my job and everything that comes with it. She wants me to move us from our current posting, that she hates, to somewhere new.

Then leave the military in 3-4 years, when my current contract ends. I want a full career, 20+ years, and love my job. Our marriage is tempestuous and she has trust issues. What do I do? Stay in my career but probably get divorced, or give it up and hopefully stay married?

 

 

“I feel like the guy I’m with is using me”

We’ve been seeing each other since last November. So about 9 months now. I go out of my way to do things for him. We have sex all the time. I get him surprises all the time. And I’m committed to him.

Since day one he has said that he doesn’t want to commit, that he’s not ready, that he loves me and I’m a big part of his life, and that he’s not ready for a relationship, but that he is trying. Continue reading

“I married young and want a divorce”

For a few months I’ve been considering getting a divorce with my husband for multiple reasons; he’s horrible in bed, unromantic, won’t get a job, has no real life goals and doesn’t show affection.

But, the biggest reason is because my ex started talking to me as friends and I realized I still have feelings for him, but he was horrible for me.

I also feel like my freedom has been taken from me. I’m about to be 21 and my husband complains every time we go out and makes everything a living hell. I’m worried that divorcing him will be a mistake and I’ll regret it. I think I ran into a long term commitment too soon, because his whole personality changed as soon as we got married. I’m just stuck wondering if he will go back to being the same guy I fell for before, but I still have these conflicting feelings for my ex. I don’t know what to do!

 

“I found out she cheated on me 4 years later!”

My question is this, I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years. I just recently found out that back when we first started talking and about to start dating, she had to take a trip to go get a divorce that was already in the works, finalized.

When she went to CA from FL to do that, she ended up fucking someone there she used to hang out with (before she left for CA we were having sex,) then she asks me to pick her up when she got back and at the time I didn’t know she did this till now (4 years later.) So now in my head I just realized that we had sex, she left, had sex with someone, then came back and had sex with me. Should I be allowed to be mad? In legalities, we weren’t officially dating from her words.

“Am I a secret admirer or creepy stalker?”

I am divorced. I went to my son’s new school (he is 5) and met some of the teachers. There was one that spent an amazing amount of time with him. I was taken by her…she was charming, excellent and patient with him, and very attractive. I left the school knowing nothing could happen but I couldn’t stop thinking about her.

I want to be clear – I have met her only once. I have no delusions of what she is like and I am not falling over myself about her. However, I am, among other things, a musician and she inspired me to write a song. It’s a fan favorite, actually, about meeting someone that you have an instant attraction to, and you have to bypass that attraction. Continue reading

“We are both having affairs; can we be together?”

I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.

I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. Continue reading

“My new man is a bit intense”

I am a 33 year old woman. Last June, I left a 7-year relationship, which included 4 years of marriage. I’m currently in the middle of the divorce. Immediately after leaving my husband, I had a 3-month intense rebound relationship with an ultimately emotionally unavailable man that left me heartbroken for longer than the relationship lasted. I decided to go to therapy and try to remain single for a while, to learn more about myself and prevent future mistakes of these types.

Before I hoped — i.e. a couple weeks ago, after about 6 months of single-hood–I met a man I really liked. He was interesting, we have a lot in common, I felt really comfortable around him, etc. I was in heaven for the past week or so, but some doubts have surfaced. Continue reading

“My newly divorced dad is falling apart”

I’m a 24 year old lesbian living with my dad. Just got out of the military 6 months ago. I have a job and help with bills etc. I moved back in with my newly divorced dad. Mom cheated. Now I’m seeing a whole new side of my dad that I don’t like. He gets new girlfriends and tries to show off in front of them by talking bad about how I’m messy (when he’s the messy one,) and tries to basically make me look like a child.

He went in my bathroom and showed her my dildo in the shower lol.. which I use to suction the drain shut. (I’m desperate) … Anyway, I’m just wondering if I’m over reacting or if that’s messed up? He also doesn’t care to spend time with me or my sisters. And spent all my grandma’s will money that she had saved for my mom. He can’t pay bills, so I’m helping, my wife is helping, and he continues to talk down to us. I don’t know what to do.