I am a married man in the military. My wife and I have been married 11 years and have 3 kids. I have been in the military 8 years. She hates my job and everything that comes with it. She wants me to move us from our current posting, that she hates, to somewhere new.
Then leave the military in 3-4 years, when my current contract ends. I want a full career, 20+ years, and love my job. Our marriage is tempestuous and she has trust issues. What do I do? Stay in my career but probably get divorced, or give it up and hopefully stay married?
LemonVibe 
Marriage counseling time. Although I do have a thought, no one says on those death bed, man I wish I had worked more and spent less time with my loved ones.
As a military spouse who at first hated my husband’s job, she needs to grow up. You do not want one women to be the reason you end your career, even if she is your wife and mother of your children. Im a mother to his children too and I realized he works HARD for us to live the way we do, and it takes a strong person to live this lifestyle, but with a positive attitude things go a LONG WAY.
You two may not be compatible, but as a military spouse, this life isn’t for everyone. I really would echo the first commenter with marriage counseling first, however. The trust issues and no mention of what caused them make me wonder about you causing them or what in her life is causing them.