I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.
I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. I know a lot of this is because of my insecurity, but we love each other and I know we will try to make it work. I guess my question is, how do I make sure he doesn’t cheat on me? I know people say once a cheater always a cheater, but still. I asked him to promise that if he meets someone else or wants to pursue something, that he tell me about it before he does it. He tells me that I always plan for the worst case scenario but it kind of feels like it is. It’s a great opportunity for him but he’s leaving me on my own in the process and I’m not sure how to handle not seeing him every day.
Like I said, I’m married and I know people may judge that because it’s hypocritical of me to be upset with him cheating when in fact I’ve been having an affair all this time. I guess I just don’t know what to do to save our relationship but I also don’t want to wait around till it crashes and burns. I feel helpless.