I’m a 24 year old lesbian living with my dad. Just got out of the military 6 months ago. I have a job and help with bills etc. I moved back in with my newly divorced dad. Mom cheated. Now I’m seeing a whole new side of my dad that I don’t like. He gets new girlfriends and tries to show off in front of them by talking bad about how I’m messy (when he’s the messy one,) and tries to basically make me look like a child.
He went in my bathroom and showed her my dildo in the shower lol.. which I use to suction the drain shut. (I’m desperate) … Anyway, I’m just wondering if I’m over reacting or if that’s messed up? He also doesn’t care to spend time with me or my sisters. And spent all my grandma’s will money that she had saved for my mom. He can’t pay bills, so I’m helping, my wife is helping, and he continues to talk down to us. I don’t know what to do.
LemonVibe 
Your father is a adult. I’m aware your mom cheated, but there are two sides to any story and looks like you are finding out the rough part about your dad. Women don’t normally cheat unless their emotional needs aren’t being met.
Move out and let him fix himself. I would put up boundaries right away. You can tell him why as well. You are a adult and so is he. He’s not stupid. He’s abusive. That’s a huge invasion of privacy! You’re married and and paying rent!He thinks it’s somehow ok to invade your private quarters, and show your sex toys to his flavor of the week? Oh HELL NO! Get out now. This is definitely unfair to you and your wife.
But before you speak to him definitely get your ducks in a row and get out.