For a few months I’ve been considering getting a divorce with my husband for multiple reasons; he’s horrible in bed, unromantic, won’t get a job, has no real life goals and doesn’t show affection.
But, the biggest reason is because my ex started talking to me as friends and I realized I still have feelings for him, but he was horrible for me.
I also feel like my freedom has been taken from me. I’m about to be 21 and my husband complains every time we go out and makes everything a living hell. I’m worried that divorcing him will be a mistake and I’ll regret it. I think I ran into a long term commitment too soon, because his whole personality changed as soon as we got married. I’m just stuck wondering if he will go back to being the same guy I fell for before, but I still have these conflicting feelings for my ex. I don’t know what to do!
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Consider marriage counseling first, because you can say at least you tried. If he won’t go, go alone. It will help you get out saner. Plus, divorce is expensive.
Second, cut off ties with the ex. He’s totally bad news. Was then, is now and will be in the future. He’s mack’in on a married woman for one thing. You won’t ever be able to trust him.
If you are going to divorce and be free. Then BE FREE. Don’t just jump into dating. That’s why people have multiple divorces and are piss poor for the rest of their life. They don’t fix the actual issue they had to begin with. You need time to be you. You haven’t even learned who you are yet and to learn that you need time to do so. A partner will never solve it for you. When you can learn to be happy by yourself then you will be ready to date again.