“I really like this guy, but don’t want to come on too strong”

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I met a guy a month ago. I initiated everything: I talked to him first, I asked him to go out several times. We recently hooked up and I’m not sure how I feel about everything. Personally, I do not know where I stand in terms of wanting a relationship, commitment or anything like that right now in my life. I do not know what I feel about him yet. I just know that I feel a little something when he doesn’t respond in a timely fashion.

I understand the importance of space, so I force myself to not spam him with messages, especially when he is not responding first. He responds really slowly, or not as fast as I would like him too. I am aware that not everyone is on social media as much as I am, but I just feel like things aren’t being reciprocated. The fact that I overthink so much definitely plays a role in this equation.

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“I’m scared my boyfriend is going to break up with me after our trip together”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. I love him very much, but lately I’ve been feeling a bit of a disconnection between us. It has been going on for three weeks now, and I’m getting really scared that he is done with me. I asked him if he still loves me and he said yes, but that is the only time he has said it lately, and he used to spontaneously tell me all the time. It is my first relationship, so I thought that maybe that’s just how things goes in relationships. You always hear that when the infatuation part is over, the passion sort of dies.

Then I started to notice certain changes. He doesn’t write hearts in his texts anymore. Just three weeks ago he always did that. That was our way of sending love in a plain everyday text. Then he sort-of stopped responding to my texts and only replying if it was something practical like time and dates. And he stopped writing goodnight. I would write both on texts and Snapchat, where I could see that he saw it.

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“The guy I’m into has stopped responding to my messages”

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So, I’m 18 and I know that’s young to be looking for a committed relationship, but I’ve just wanted a guy to notice me. The ones who notice me are only interested in what they can get and I keep seeing my peers having boyfriends stay with them for years. This has been happening for so long that I don’t believe any guy could be interested in me ever.

I recently matched with guy on tinder (yes I know this is mainly a hook-up app) but he seemed really nice and totally interested in me (he just asked such mundane questions it felt so nice and normal). We talked for a week straight on tinder then we started snapchatting each other. He was a perfect gentleman (we also have mutual connections so I think this gave us a wider range of topics to talk about), but all of a sudden he just seemed to lose interest.

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“My fiancé has no sex drive”

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My fiancé, set to be husband in two weeks, has no sex drive. He’s 28, I’m 25, I’m not sure what the issue is. I’m lucky if we are intimate once a month. We’ve been together for three years. In the beginning it was definitely not like this. I’m more experienced & wouldn’t have a problem doing it daily.

We started to fall off before I got pregnant & now the baby is almost a year old. I’m just at a loss for self worth at this point & he is well aware of that, but still never makes a move. Am I pressuring him to much? I realize we have different work schedules, but still have at least an hour between shifts & a day or two off a week together. I’m just at a loss & don’t know what to do anymore…

“Is my wife flirting with a bodybuilder?”

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My spouse has been working out tremendously over the last 6 months. She looks great, feels great. Great! So today she is on Facebook and notices that one of the bodybuilders she has been following, and had done routines that he designed, is in our city at another gym. She posts to his Facebook to “come to Anytime Fitness tomorrow at 7:00 am to work out” with heart emojis at the end. WTF. Then she gets mad at me for getting upset!

“My younger boyfriend contributes nothing to the relationship”

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I’ve been feeling unfulfilled in my six-month relationship for roughly the entire time we’ve been together. No, really… I’m 10 years his senior and figured with a little patience, he’d rise to the occasion. Well, recently I lost my patience and I asked him to gather his thoughts so that when we came together later that evening, he could tell me what he had to offer our relationship and what he expects me to bring to the table as well. His immediately response was that he brings love. I told him while that’s very important, there has to be more than love.

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“My boyfriend is super-sneaky with his phone”

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My boyfriend practices very sneaky behavior:

  1. He deletes all text conversations, including mine, upon ending them. Remaining text logs include his mom, dad and sister. He says it’s a habit.
  2. He rejects incoming calls but will immediately respond to incoming text messages. Tells me it’s because our time together is valuable.
  3. If he does happen to answer an incoming call from an unsaved phone number he immediately & discreetly lowers the receiver volume. He had no excuse for that one. Said he won’t do it again.

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“This is my partner’s first gay relationship, and I can’t handle his inability to communicate”

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I’m a 30-year-old male. I began dating a 19-year-old guy 6 months ago. This is his first gay experience/relationship. From the beginning he’s struggled with everything pertaining to a relationship (gay or heterosexual) but refuses to let me go.

During the first 2 months we engaged in oral sex a few times. He’d clam up and eventually even that stopped. Besides the lack of sex, there’s a serious lack of romance, consideration and communication on his part. I’ve broken things off twice so far. During those times he contacted me non-stop, pouring out his emotions and begging for reconciliation. Each time he promises to add effort, romance, sex and communication. These are things he says he wants us to have because we are “perfect” for each other.

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“I feel played by my friend-with-benefits”

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I’ve developed feelings for my friend-with-benefits. He told me we are just friends; he is not looking for a relationship. I continued to be his fwb.

He stopped calling me for a week, and when I asked him why, he said he had been busy. I said okay. After that, I left him alone for about a week. My girlfriends and I went out of town for a girls weekend, and we posted on Facebook that we were having fun. He is my friend on Facebook too.

That weekend, in the evening, he started calling and texting, but I left my phone in the room since we were out partying. When we got back to the room, I saw he had texted and called a couple times. I did not text back that night. The next day on the way home, he texted me and asked how our weekend went. During this conversation, he told me he wanted to see me and cuddle and kiss me. This dude NEVER kisses or cuddles.

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