I’ve developed feelings for my friend-with-benefits. He told me we are just friends; he is not looking for a relationship. I continued to be his fwb.
He stopped calling me for a week, and when I asked him why, he said he had been busy. I said okay. After that, I left him alone for about a week. My girlfriends and I went out of town for a girls weekend, and we posted on Facebook that we were having fun. He is my friend on Facebook too.
That weekend, in the evening, he started calling and texting, but I left my phone in the room since we were out partying. When we got back to the room, I saw he had texted and called a couple times. I did not text back that night. The next day on the way home, he texted me and asked how our weekend went. During this conversation, he told me he wanted to see me and cuddle and kiss me. This dude NEVER kisses or cuddles.
I did go stay the night with him that week. He seemed a little different. We talked more than we ever had. The sex was good. He kept telling me he wanted to come to my house and see me.
After that day, he slowed wayyy down on the texting … like he was ignoring me. But if I did text him, he would answer the text. He would sometimes text me to sext late at night, but I did not allow any sexting, because I felt he was kinda putting me to the side. I noticed he hardly ever texts me at all anymore. But he wanted to add me to his Snapchat? So I added him.
I always saw his stories, and he was out every night clubbing and drinking.
He always looked at my stories. You know this might sound crazy, but I swear he was talking to ME in some of those snaps. Really — the way he looked at the camera. Hmm.
Still no more texting.
One night after about three weeks of no texts, he texted me and was telling me about his day. Because of his lack of texts and attention, I cut him short and told him goodnight. I was polite. A few minutes later, he texted me and said “thanks, nite.” Since then, no more texts, only Snapchat — us two looking at each other’s damn snaps, which btw hurt my feelings constantly, because he was out and about doing only god knows what.
One night, I called him after I got home from the club, only because I saw his snap, and I knew he was out alone. He did not answer. I texted. No response. Yes, I got angry, and I texted a couple of angry texts, like why are you doing this? What are you doing? I texted, you know, if you aren’t into me anymore, why couldn’t you have just told me, so I could have walked away with some of my dignity? That was my last text. No response.
The following day, I unfriended him on Facebook and blocked him on Snapchat. It seriously hurts me seeing him on Snapchat all the time.
It’s been a week, and I’m trying to get over him. Of course, he hasn’t tried to contact me. This has been a hell of a painful ride for me. I know he’s a player or whatever, but it still hurts. I just really feel used and lied to and strung along for a side girl. I tried to break it off three different times with him, but he said he was having fun. That was early in the fwb thing. I stayed because I thought maybe he did really like me. But now look what I let happen to myself!! Wondering if he will ever try to contact me. Or if he even really gives a damn that I am absent from his life!