“I don’t know how to break up with him”

I don’t know if I should break up with my boyfriend. I love him, but it feels like everyday we argue over the smallest things and it always feels like it’s gonna end, it never does but I feel like we just compromise to get over it and not really talk about it. He also talks to a lot of girls that he says are just friends but he once had a thing with before us, and I can’t help but be scared and I tell him this.

Also, I really need someone who would be willing to at least look into my church but he said he won’t convert and that’s kind of a loss for me.

I also have this weird feeling that if we stay together he’d be my last person I’ll be with, and I just feel like I need a get more dating out of my system sorta. I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for almost a year which I know, sounds kinda stupid but it’s been bothering me.

 

“Is his housemate more than ‘just a friend'”?

Hello.

I have quite some predicaments with my boyfriend at the moment. He lives in a student house where he shares the facilities with 6 other housemates. One of these housemates, a girl, is pretty close to him. They like to tease each other and to mess around, which I find normal, but I also notice that sometimes it is a bit concerning how they interact. She is a nice girl, but I get jealous sometimes when they tease each other and I wonder if this is right for me to do.

I also notice that my boyfriend goes to a certain length to help her when she is having problems. He would even ask his mother/family to help her out when she needs some help. Continue reading

“I found nude pics on my husband’s phone”

Hey everyone, I’m kind of nervous writing this . It’s actually my first time doing anything like this. I really needed somewhere to vent, to let out some frustration.

My husband and I have been together 14 years. Some wonderful and some horrible. I was only 17 when we first met, and nothing meant anything to me, but him. Now we have a beautiful family and we both work full time , opposite shifts. A few years ago I found a few pictures of a girl we knew, naked on his phone, as well as a bunch of messages to another girl sexting her. Continue reading

“Safe, stable and loving, or new, exciting and thrilling?”

My girlfriend and I have had a long distance relationship for a few weeks. During this time, I have been hanging out in a circle of friends, where I met a person that I have not been able to stop thinking about. I feel a surge of excitement every time we meet, even though we have only ever hung out as part of a larger group of friends.

This, however, has given me enormous feelings of guilt, as my girlfriend is an amazing person whom I would never want to hurt, or would ever dream of being unfaithful to, and with whom I’ve had a 7 year relationship which is very stable and loving and healthy. Continue reading

“He’s always talking to this other girl”

My boyfriend is talking to a girl that I don’t like. She’s keeps getting in our business and I don’t like it. My boyfriend says he doesn’t like it either, but he still tells her things. He lies to her about what’s he’s doing and stuff. They talk every day and he knows I don’t like her. He even told her and they joked about it.

He lied to me and said that he told her to stay out of our business, but he didn’t. She has a boyfriend too, but he doesn’t know that they talk. He is so worried that she will get mad, or he will say that he’s too nice to tell her to stop. He just went on her account and said that he likes the tights that she is wearing and she said ‘a lot of people do’ and he was like ‘I can see why.’

I’m not one of the girlfriends to get mad over things like this, but he’s forgetting about me and he’s always talking about her. There’s other stuff too. We have been together for almost a year and I don’t know what to do, please help?

“Another girl is constantly in my thoughts”

It’s been 6 years, 3 of which was falling in love with my fiancee, since we dated. It didn’t end poorly, and she was my first love. I can’t learn how to not think about her. She constantly appears in dreams and randomly pops up in mind when/ if I see red hair. I love my fiancee, she’s my better half and couldn’t be a better person or future mother.

It doesn’t change my random thoughts though and they’re starting to be painful. I should’ve told my fiancee about these thoughts long ago but now it’ll destroy her. I’m really not sure what’s going on in my head about it all. I want so bad to commit to my future but I literally cannot stop thoughts of a relationship from high school over 6 years ago. Do I just carry this forever?

“He has other women all over his Facebook page”

On my boyfriend’s Facebook page he has nothing but a bunch of women with nice bodies. Some have clothes on, some half naked. I feel a little intimidated sometimes because I don’t have a model shaped body and I wonder if he ever looks at me differently after he looks at them.

I think it’s disrespectful because now he’s in a relationship and even though he had the page before me, it’s more of a respect thing to me. I don’t have a bunch of random naked men on my page. I only have people that I went to school with, men and women.

I don’t know if this should be a issue but this bothers me and I told him about it. He deactivated his page, but not for long. So how should I handle this issue or should it even be a issue or am I over thinking about this?

“I feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him”

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he and my children bonded quickly and the family dynamic between the 4 of us felt effortless and we were all happy.

Since we’ve been married though, I have found text messages between him and 3 different girls. I tried to improve myself to see if he would stop, I thought it was something I was doing to push him away but then I found out he was saying awful things about me and my kids to a girl while he was telling me how much he loved me. Continue reading

“My boyfriend spends more time with her than me”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about one year and everything has been going great. The thing is, is that we’ve only gone on two dates, and I’m fine taking things slow, but he hangs out with my best friend A LOT.

Almost every single weekend he has been going to the park with her and my other friend. Their siblings are dating, and that might be the cause of it, but I’ve known this girl for a really long time and she spends more time with him than she does with me, and the same with him spending more time with her. They also text me more when they’re together than when they’re apart.

He is the first one she goes to when she is upset and lately he’s been really distant. I’m pretty sure he hasn’t kissed me in two months and whenever I try to initiate the flirting he just ignores it. I don’t wanna be the jealous girlfriend but I don’t know what to do. Should I talk to him about it or just leave it be?