My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he and my children bonded quickly and the family dynamic between the 4 of us felt effortless and we were all happy.

Since we’ve been married though, I have found text messages between him and 3 different girls. I tried to improve myself to see if he would stop, I thought it was something I was doing to push him away but then I found out he was saying awful things about me and my kids to a girl while he was telling me how much he loved me. It felt like he was blatantly lying to me and her, and when I confronted him about it he seemed to be remorseful but had no consideration for how I felt about it all. He swears it was never physical but I know in my heart had I not found out then it probably would have been.

I’ve had a pretty rough life and was treated badly by many people, including my own mother. He knows this and he promised me and my father that I would NEVER have to worry again and he would always take care of me, yet 3 years into the marriage, this is how he treats me. My question is, I’m beyond hurt and feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him, can I possibly ever trust him again? Will he be “good” till things are back on track between us just to do this again? I can’t even look at him without the text message saying “I hate it here with her” flashing in my mind.