My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he and my children bonded quickly and the family dynamic between the 4 of us felt effortless and we were all happy.
Since we’ve been married though, I have found text messages between him and 3 different girls. I tried to improve myself to see if he would stop, I thought it was something I was doing to push him away but then I found out he was saying awful things about me and my kids to a girl while he was telling me how much he loved me. It felt like he was blatantly lying to me and her, and when I confronted him about it he seemed to be remorseful but had no consideration for how I felt about it all. He swears it was never physical but I know in my heart had I not found out then it probably would have been.
I’ve had a pretty rough life and was treated badly by many people, including my own mother. He knows this and he promised me and my father that I would NEVER have to worry again and he would always take care of me, yet 3 years into the marriage, this is how he treats me. My question is, I’m beyond hurt and feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him, can I possibly ever trust him again? Will he be “good” till things are back on track between us just to do this again? I can’t even look at him without the text message saying “I hate it here with her” flashing in my mind.
2 thoughts on ““I feel completely disrespected and betrayed by him””
You can’t trust him. He lies to you to your face as smooth as butter and cries crocodile tears when it suits him. He’ll always cheat on you and you’ll always have to watch over your shoulder.
Repeat after me “I deserve better. My children deserve better.” Don’t let your kids grow up thinking that’s the right way to treat a woman.