My girlfriend and I have had a long distance relationship for a few weeks. During this time, I have been hanging out in a circle of friends, where I met a person that I have not been able to stop thinking about. I feel a surge of excitement every time we meet, even though we have only ever hung out as part of a larger group of friends.
This, however, has given me enormous feelings of guilt, as my girlfriend is an amazing person whom I would never want to hurt, or would ever dream of being unfaithful to, and with whom I’ve had a 7 year relationship which is very stable and loving and healthy.But at the same time, I cannot let go of these feelings, or the fact that I cannot stop thinking about this other girl. It feels like I’m weighting something that is safe and stable and loving, against something that is new, exciting and thrilling, and I feel completely lost. As I said, I have never actually hung out with this ‘new’ girl alone, just me and her, nor have I received any clear signals that she feels the same way – it’s just a feeling I get (I may have misinterpreted something that isn’t there).
What if I give up a happy life together with a wonderful person whom I love and who loves me, for what could turn out to be little more than a short flirt (if that). What do I do?