“How do I get out of the friend zone?”

I’m crazy over this girl who I’ve know for years. She has me friend-zoned. I’ve told her before about my feelings and it didn’t work. So we’re still really close and she texts/snapchats me all the time and is constantly looking for my attention, but keeps me friend-zoned. I think maybe she is waiting for me to mature a little because, I can admit, she’s a lot more mature than me. I’m more into partying and drinking, and she’s more into studying and going to bed at nine o’clock.

We’re both 21, and I really think it could work between us. I don’t let the fact that I have feelings for her stop me from living my life. I’m open to meeting other girls, but, if she ever called me I’d leave any date at the drop of a dime. I’ve tried forgetting her and ignoring her, but I’ve never lasted more than a few days.

I wanna give up so badly but at the same time I’m clinging on to the little hope I have. One night we were both talking about how lonely we were and she told me that she wished she had more options and wouldn’t have to settle and that really hurt. But you can’t force anyone to like you and can’t get mad if they don’t. My analysis of the whole thing is she keeps me wanting her by giving me just enough of her attention but keeps me friend-zoned.

3 thoughts on ““How do I get out of the friend zone?”

  1. Anonymous says:

    There is no such thing as a friend zone. You are pretending to be her friend with the ulterior motive of boyfriend. Either accept that you are actually a friend or move on.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Sometimes someone just doesn’t feel the same way. It sucks, but all you can do is choose to keep her friendship, or remove yourself from her life. Don’t treat her friendship as a crappy consolation prize.
    Do be careful not to burn yourself out bending to her needs. People in your situation tend to feel like if they just act the part, they’ll get what they want eventually. Realize that that’s your problem, not hers. You sound like you kindof think she’s doing this to you on purpose. She’s not a bad person for accepting your kindness without accepting your ulterior motive. It’s up to you to decide what you’ll do with the situation, don’t blame her.

  3. KK says:

    I was friends with my fiance for 8 years before I made a move. I am a female. Please just tell her flat out, you love her. You are tired of seeing her hurt. Tell her you are okay with staying friends if she wants that, but you want to know right now her feelings. Don’t let her walk away from the conversation without telling you that she either wants to try a relationship with you or just stay friends.

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