Tag: lying

“My fiance disappeared for several days”

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My fiance and I have been living together since January 2016. A month after, he was sent to work on a job 600 miles away, and we only saw each other on weekends — which was also split up between time with his kids.

His ex does not allow me at any family events, like sports games, or wants me around at all. Four weeks ago, I was put on medical leave, and he has changed drastically. His relationship with his ex has gotten a lot stronger. He has disappeared and spent the night over there three times and not told me, answered my calls or texts, and then is angry with me for being upset when he returns.

He was supposed to come home for good this past weekend. Everything seemed good the night before. Saturday & Sunday, he did not answer my calls or respond to my texts. He showed up at 8:30pm Sunday night like nothing happened, said he was on a “soul search” and tried to be all lovey dovey with me. He left the majority of his belongings in a “storage unit” and took an Uber home. His Uber record shows him leaving from his ex’s house. Continue reading →

“Is it better to lie?”

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My ex-boyfriend and I are still talking (not seeing each other), because we both have feelings for each other. Although we were exclusively dating, I never called him my boyfriend, because I wanted him to change first. After 6 months of dating, he went on vacation with his family and started flirting with another girl. They were both posting pics on Instagram and flirting online. He told me she was his cousin for the whole month he was on vacation. He told me the truth when he came back, but he said he never did anything physical with her and he’s in love with me. According to him, he wanted me to see and get jealous. If that’s the case, I don’t understand why he would tell me she is his cousin, but whatever.

I can’t trust him anymore, and I specifically told him I can’t be with him and that we’re just friends. It’s been 2 months. I feel weak and ashamed that I don’t have the strength to let go of him. I know I need to get him to move on too. I kissed another guy 2 days ago to try to forget about him, which only worked temporarily. Continue reading →

“I can’t handle my son’s crazy girlfriend”

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I’m 40, my son is 19, & his girlfriend is 18. They have an infant son. In an effort to keep this short, I’ll try my best to give a nutshell version, but will elaborate on anything if need be.

Their relationship was dramatic, as she got pregnant as soon as they met. Constant fighting & breaking up, as we got to know her we all realized she has a major mental problem. I don’t mean that in a bad spirited way, the girl needs legitimate help. She admits to being manipulative and having uncontrollable “personality” mood swings in which she does things impulsively & selfishly. She involves everyone she possibly can in her attention circus, calling out to people who have no clue what’s even going on. Literally everyone I know that isn’t her family has told me they get a bad feeling or vibe around her & she makes them uncomfortable. She treats and speaks to her parents like dogs, which my son used to hate but is recently resorting to.

Since the baby was born and a paternity test proved he was the dad, he’s wanted a family. I encouraged that, thinking giving her more love may help her get her head worked out. All was forgiven and I gave her another chance. For 2 months, while she breastfed, she was great. Sweet, caring, did a really good job with the baby. Once that tether was gone, she slowly went back to her old self. Started smoking again, drinking, partying, and running around. Her younger sister took on the role of caring for the baby. She started college, and soon began cheating on my son with a study partner. Continue reading →

“My wife won’t stop texting her guy friends”

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Should I stay or leave? We’ve been married for five years, dated for seven, have two kids, life great, no problems.

So here it is: my wife has always had guy friends. Before we met, she had slept with a few of them. So, when we started dating, I requested that they keep their distance. Fast forward to a year ago when I picked her up, very drunk, from night out. I found a text on her phone to one of these guys from the past whom she slept with saying “what you at.”

A fight started and she says that she can’t remember why she would text.

Fast forward.

She’s in a new job, and has met friends (guys & girls). She’s friendly with one guy, which is okay, but she wouldn’t stop talking about him every day and about what they got up to, and texting with him constantly. I sat down with her and explained that guy friends are okay, but this guy was getting too close. She said she would back off and respect my boundaries — just talk at work, but stop texting all day. Continue reading →

“I caught my boyfriend texting other women”

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for seven years now and we’ve been through a lot, but we seemed to get on with it anyway. Over the years I’ve caught him texting other women, including his ex, telling her through text that he’s single. We’ve been together about a year at this point.

Recently I (wrongfully) checked his messenger, and he was telling another girl how beautiful she was. I confronted him and he said he was sorry and messed up big time.

Just tonight we were cleaning, and the charger from his old phone was sitting out and I threw it it a bin bag, and when he went to bed, it was sitting on the sofa (which means he had to dig to find it). I asked him about it, and he said he must have took it out without thinking. What? Continue reading →

“I don’t trust my girlfriend’s guy friend”

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I have a girlfriend who has lied to me about an old friend. In the beginning of our relationship she told me about him and said that they stopped being friends because he proclaimed his love for her and she didn’t feel the same way. For awhile this was true — she never talked to him or anything and he was never a concern. A few months ago she started talking to him again, and he said that he just wanted to be friends and I was fine with this because I trusted her. It made me a little uncomfortable but nothing too extreme and I told her how I felt and we were fine, no problems.

One day she and her friend came over and she wasn’t feeling well so she was laying down while her friend and I were outside smoking a cigarette. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend propositioned two girls”

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Recently, my boyfriend moved in with me. Before then we were long distance, as we lived six hours away from each other. I love him and I know he loves me, he told me first in March and I had known before then but was waiting for the right time.

We’ve had a few arguments recently, about him having looked at other girls when we we’re at the pool at our apartment complex. We have resolved things and are working together to have better communication about things.

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“My wife caught me snooping through her phone, but I have a legitimate reason to do so”

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I need some advice. The last time my wife changed the password on her phone, I found out she was talking to one of her exes, and she tried hooking up with him. It was quickly foiled when I confronted her about it, and the issue was resolved. She hasn’t spoken to him since. HOWEVER, I recently noticed she changed her password again.

I got caught trying to snoop, and she FLIPPED OUT. She threatened to divorce me and kick me out of the house. My question is, was I justified in thinking something wasn’t right and checking up on her?

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“My boyfriend has a secret relationship with another girl”

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So, I was with this guy for five months, and everything was essentially perfect until just the other day, when another girl texted me saying that she was his girlfriend of five months. We compared notes and he met both of us with in a week of each other (asshole!).

I never pushed to be exclusive with him because I myself finally left a five-year relationship that was very abusive just a few months just before meeting him. Feelings are hard, and I was still feeling damaged, but he caught me off guard. He was so nice and presented himself as everything I ever wanted in a man, and he was just so damn nice and good to me.

He has two kids and is a great part-time dad — always there for his kids (I myself am a single mom), and he takes care of his sick, elderly mother. He has a good job, works really hard, and is handsome (fuck, is he hot! Ugh!). He was everything my ex wasn’t. He was perfect. 😦 Continue reading →

“Should I confront my partner about all the prostitutes he’s been visiting?”

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I don’t know where to begin. I have been with my partner for almost two years. We live together, and I love him to bits.

He works away a lot. He is a tradesman and gets called all over the country to do work, so it takes its toll when he is gone for two or three weeks at a time, and then is only home for a few days before he is off again.

We have been very lucky in that he has had a lot of work near home for the past two months, so he has been home, and it’s been good to see him after I come home from work, and to be able to spend weekends together.

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