I’ve been with my boyfriend for seven years now and we’ve been through a lot, but we seemed to get on with it anyway. Over the years I’ve caught him texting other women, including his ex, telling her through text that he’s single. We’ve been together about a year at this point.

Recently I (wrongfully) checked his messenger, and he was telling another girl how beautiful she was. I confronted him and he said he was sorry and messed up big time.

Just tonight we were cleaning, and the charger from his old phone was sitting out and I threw it it a bin bag, and when he went to bed, it was sitting on the sofa (which means he had to dig to find it). I asked him about it, and he said he must have took it out without thinking. What?

That is the worst excuse I have ever heard. He must be using it on the side. I should also mention I pay full rent for our house and the most expensive bills because he doesn’t work full time. So leaving him is an issue because he can’t afford a house and doesn’t have anywhere to stay.

Please help me I’m so upset and I’ve had enough. I’m sorry that was so long as well.