“I’m getting mixed signals”

I have been best friends with my friend (let’s call her Krista) ever since senior year of high school. We go to the same college and I’ve always had certain feelings towards her. I just thought they were friendship feelings…. we are both 21 now.

Recently, I have been picking up vibes that she likes me a little more than friends, but I’m unsure if she’s just being friendly. She’s bi, she told me a couple of years ago. I recently came out to her as bi about a week ago. We went out drinking about a month ago and she made out with a guy while we were there, at the time I didn’t care or think anything of it. A couple of days later she said, “I didn’t really want to do that in front of you.” When I said, “Why would I care? Get it girl,” she just laughed. On the ride home that night, she asked me if I loved her. She literally said, ” Do you love me?” Again, at the time I was thinking she’s my BEST friend so I said “Yes, of course, I love you, you’re my best friend I think we vibe really well.” She said “me too!!”

Another time we went to a concert, this night I really felt something. She displayed signs ALL night. She rubbed my leg, jokingly asked “are you nervous” and moved her hand closer towards my private area. She also asked to hold hands….. my response was no, and then I asked ” why would we hold hands?” she said “I don’t know, I just like holding hands.”

She also constantly jokes about us being together, the whole night she was saying “people probably think we’re a couple.” I know all of these signs are pretty damning, I 100% have feelings for her and think about her all the time. She talks to other guys and so do I. We tell each other everything. Sometimes though, I feel as if she’s very distant. Sometimes I won’t speak to her for weeks, and she won’t answer my texts. I’m getting mixed signals. I’m also not sure how to address this situation? I feel like if I approach her and I’m wrong, it might make things awkward.

2 thoughts on ““I’m getting mixed signals”

  1. M. says:

    Things seems to be boardering on awkward now. If you talk about it with her, what do you think the consequences will be? You will begin dating? You will no longer be best friends? Your friendship will be awkward for awhile but recover? You may or may not like where things end up, but the wheels seem to be in motion already. I wish you good things regardless of the outcome.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I think she likes you. Perhaps she’s even being distant because she doesn’t know how to deal with her feelings for you and how you receive them. She might be in the same position you are in right now, but she doesn’t know how to communicate her feelings.

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