“Do I stop talking to him and move on?”

I’m very confused just now. My ex broke up with me a month ago, and has spoken to me every day since, he says he still loves me, but not looking for a relationship etc and he tells me he broke up with me because we were arguing a lot, which is true.

I obviously feel really low about it and it is hard to continue talking to someone you care about when they seem to be happier without you. I’ve often thought of just not talking anymore and trying to move on, by speaking to other men and maybe dating etc but I know that would be used against me if he decided we should make it work again.  It’s my confidence that’s really taken a knock, and I would like to feel like I’m at least wanted, not even in the sense of a relationship, but that I’m not alone in the world and I can be cared about. But when I’ve even mentioned seeing other men, he’s made a point that I don’t love him, and I’m just looking for anyone to settle down with ,which isn’t true at all.

I did love him, but what am I meant to do, wait about, feeling like I’m nothing at all until he moves on, then it would be ok for me to do so, or am I potentially giving up on someone that could still be the one for me?


4 thoughts on ““Do I stop talking to him and move on?”

  1. Anonymous says:

    There is no such thing as the one. There are over 4 billion people on this planet. Move on and block him from social contact. It’s what’s healthiest for you right now.

  2. M. Kindness says:

    You are neither his safety net or a toy that he places on a shelf until he moves on- and he will move on. And he may come back one day when the next relationship doesn’t work out. Don’t be a back up- ever.

    He may love you. He may be confused right now. There may even be a future for you both somewhere way down the line, but you’ll know that that time has come by the lack of drama and the increase of respect. In the meantime, go find your happiness.

    -M. Kindness

  3. khadija shili says:

    i think you have to contact him and prouve that you don’t need his love even as a friend. live your life infront of him as you want and forget about him. he just wanna make so painful for you but prove that you don’t care. if you block him and stop talking to him he may think that you still have feeling for him

  4. Anonymous says:

    I’m not sure how old you both are, but his behavior seems very immature and he doesn’t sound like someone who is ready to be in a real relationship. You clearly have a huge heart and a lot of love to give, but someone like that doesn’t deserve it right now. There is so much better love out there for you, I can promise you that. And the best way to find it is by not looking for it at all and just living your best life. Sounds cliché but I have never found something to be more true. Best of luck!

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