“Should I make a fresh start and leave the love of my life behind?”

I’ve been in a two-year relationship with a girl I’m in love with. We used to argue about little things and disagree a lot. However, I love her more than I have ever loved someone in my life, and I can’t imagine my life without her. She has changed me for the better and taught me valuable things in life that I will never forget.

For the past 6 months, though, we’ve been on-and-off because of our arguments. Recently I started talking to someone else. She is a really nice girl, and we have a lot in common. I thought maybe this could be my fresh start. Continue reading

“He says he’s committed to me, but he wants to keep living with his ex”

My entire relationship has been a series of “do this and be this way, and we won’t have any problems.” I have a hard time being controlled and breaking down walls to trust people. Finally, after all my efforts and much wear and tear emotionally, I have given in to every request.

That is not the problem, though. My issue is the last two years, I’ve been getting serious. After the ring and time invested with one another’s children, I feel betrayed and manipulated. I have been accepting of him living with his ex and kids half of the week. He would assure me they were done over and over again, yet he had me tip-toeing around her because I shouldn’t “rub it in.”

It recently came to light for her that he and I have been together. She is accepting of it now. Only problem is, he admitted to having sex with her monthly to make sure she was being faithful. Now that he wants to stay fully committed to me, and she knows about who I am, he has stopped and doesn’t want to do it. Continue reading

“I found out her mother has breast cancer”

So the story goes… I dated this girl for about 9 months. The first few months were great, our families already knew each other, everyone approved, and life was good.

As the days passed, I started to realize she might not be for me. She got on my nerves and we were just different people. We ended up breaking up.

Two days ago I found out her mother has breast cancer. I text her to say how sorry I was. This news literally shook me to my core. I felt like such a piece of shit that I added to her misery at this trying time. My mother has passed away so it really hit home. We started talking about us and how hurt she is. She asked me not to speak to her anymore if we are really over so she could find closure. I agreed. Continue reading

“Her constant small attacks are destroying me”

I have been in a relationship for eight months with my girlfriend. I have not felt the same since we got back from summer vacation. It started like most relationships, and we had our “honeymoon” phase. But that only lasted halfway through the summer. When we got back to school, things suddenly changed.

I have begun to notice the things she does wrong. Suddenly we can not go a week without arguing at least once. I can admit that 50% is me being an instigator, and no argument needs to happen. But the other 50% really upsets me, especially when she tells me that it’s nothing to be upset about.

For example: she will constantly find something wrong with me. I mess up speaking, she points it out. I mess up helping her with homework, she says, “I thought you said you were good at math.” Continue reading

“Is he still into his ex?”

Does he still have feelings for his ex? The first year we went out, he never really liked any pictures of me on social media, nor did he post anything. He told me he wasn’t much of a social media person, and I believed him. After having some doubts later on, I looked through his phone (I know that was bad), and saw that he liked two pictures of his ex about 6 months ago and has repeated searches for her name. They haven’t been together for the past three-and-a-half years. He has liked pictures of other girls as well (in bikinis and such), but refuses to like any of mine. We are long distance, so I figured social media is a good way to feel connected. I confronted him about it. He said he has no feelings for her and that he was just being stupid. So I asked him to cut her off on social media. He seemed so hesitant, but finally did it. My gut tell me something is up.

“Should I try to mend things with my ex?”

Would it be weird to contact my ex, whom I haven’t talked to in a while? I regret the way things ended between us, and I would like to sort of mend things. I’m not looking to get back together, because she’s away for college, but I feel something is better than nothing.

Before we dated we were best friends. Then it sort of fell apart. So, really, what I’m asking is, would trying to contact her to fix things by a good idea? And if so, how would I go about it?

“I’m confused by what my ex-girlfriend wants”

Me and my girlfriend broke up last Thursday because she needed space and learn how to find happiness within herself. But she said she still loves me.

Sunday one of my friends got In a argument about how I deserved better and weirdly, that day she was acting like we were dating again. Later on that day, she texted one of my exes and told her to leave me, her boyfriend, alone and block me. But on Monday, things went back to normal, and we were still broken up.

I get depressed a lot and Tuesday I woke up very in a bad mood and cut myself. When I told her, she didn’t seem to care and said she couldn’t talk anymore. I told her that it was okay, and later she texted me saying she didn’t mean forever. That confused me super bad and we started to talk again, but not like we were back together. Continue reading

“I love the person she used to be, but I’m not sure she exists anymore”

I met a girl when I was 14 years old, and I’m gonna sound like a dumb kid, but I was pretty certain that I was gonna spend the rest of my life with her. That was not the case. We broke up after about two-and-a-half years, and it didn’t end well.

I ended up moving states to create a bit of distance. We’ve been on again, off again for almost three years since we broke up, only seeing each other maybe twice in that time. We’ve left partners for each other, and for some delusional reason, think we are both meant to be together, even though the odds are stacked against us.

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“My boyfriend’s ex committed suicide”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and I’m absolutely crazy about him. He and I met while we were both in Nashville for music, got coffee and lunch together a couple of times, and just grew really, really close in a short amount of time. He opened up to me, in detail, about his past drug addiction, his exes, etc.

He lives five hours away from me, now. He’s the type to remain friends with everyone, unless they push him out of their lives. Which is great, except for the fact that he still hangs out with two of his exes. Not exclusively, and he’s told me before that he doesn’t have feelings for either of them, and he would never get back together with either girl.

But it still bothers me a little bit. I don’t know. Maybe I’m being jealous? I don’t want to be “that” girlfriend, and I trust him wholeheartedly. I just know what his last ex did to him, and I hate that she expects him to just go on being friends like nothing happened and that he’s willing to do that, for the most part, because he still does want to be friends (since they’re in two bands together).

The biggest issue I have is this:

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He says it’s her fault that his ex stole his money

Nic says:

Been in a relationship for over 3 years. Thought everything was good. He had to go to jail for a couple months for a driving offense a year into the relationship. I supported him through this time, as he had always been supportive of me.

During the incarceration, he came clean about not always being faithful in the beginning, as he had a ex he had sex with a handful of times in the beginning of our relationship. While in jail, this ex had access to $10,000 of his in a joint account. Somehow she found out about me, got pissed, and stole his money. He blames me, although I was clueless. We didn’t live together before jail (he had his own place and is financially capable of doing so again), but now we do, jointly caring for one of my kids and one of his.

We talked about marriage and everything. He never accepts responsibility for his BS. Tonight he told me that I “fucked up his money.” And if I hadn’t posted something about him on Facebook while in jail (which he told me to post), that he would have his money and wouldn’t be “stuck living with me.”

Needless to say, that hurt. I’m not heartless enough to kick him and his son out, but I feel like I’m holding on to a one-sided relationship now. Like, why are you here if you feel that way, or why say things just to hurt me.

Ric says:

I didn’t lie about the other chick. I shouldn’t have to explain my finances when we weren’t serious at first.