I’ve been in a two-year relationship with a girl I’m in love with. We used to argue about little things and disagree a lot. However, I love her more than I have ever loved someone in my life, and I can’t imagine my life without her. She has changed me for the better and taught me valuable things in life that I will never forget.
For the past 6 months, though, we’ve been on-and-off because of our arguments. Recently I started talking to someone else. She is a really nice girl, and we have a lot in common. I thought maybe this could be my fresh start.
However, my ex is still in love me, and I am still in love with her. I don’t know what to do, because I can’t imagine my life without her in it, but I know that if things carry on with this new girl, then I’m not going to see my ex much anymore, and things are going to change.
Do I make a fresh start with a new girl and leave the love of my life behind? Or do I tell the new girl I’m still in love and go back to my ex and work things out?
Before you start with the new girl make sure that you are done with the first relationship. This will take some time NOT dating either girl. Talking is fine, but don’t just hop into a new relationship. Take some time to find out about yourself and what you really want in a partner.
Only you know what will be right for you.
Totally agree with the first. One relationship at a time. Also one of the most important things a couple can learn is how to fight fairly. Arguments and disagreements are unavoidable dealing it with them in a healthy way is not.
Relationships that are on and off are honestly toxic. Yeah learn what you did from the love you have with this girl and forever hold it in mind, but honestly dude just let her go arguments are only going to get worse, and it shouldn’t be enough to break up bit work it out. Leave the love you have and start anew. However since you still love your ex, tell the other girl how you feel you want something with her but you have feelings for your ex still so it might take a while to fully submerge yourself in a relationship, if she’s the one she’ll understand.
Just take your time talking with the other girl though cuz if you go into a relationship she’ll only feel cheated.
I was in the same boat. Absolutely in love, he was so much of who I was, we were on and off.
He will forever and always be my first love, but my true love and soulmate it’s my husband, the man I ended up chasing. I will always have a soft spot in my heart for my first love, but the love of my life is who I ended up with.