I really need help with this weird situation I am facing because I can’t handle it alone anymore. I am in the middle of trusting issues with my boyfriend because of his crazy ex.
So, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. He broke up with his ex, because (as he said) he didn’t love her anymore, and he fell immediately for me. At the beginning things were fine, and I was sure he loved me from all the things he would do for me. Only someone in love acts like that.
But then like 5 months after we started dating, his ex became part of our lives. She started posting descriptions on Instagram about me all the time. Like, he is still mine, he has been lying to you, he loves me, open your eyes, etc. I saw all that by coincidence.
I started to go crazy and fight with my boyfriend all the time. He denied totally to have been still in touch with her. After months of fighting and of her posting about me, she simply posted something like, “Take him. Its a gift from me.” And stopped posting anymore. She went to live abroad.
But I messed things up, and she became again part of our lives recently, because my boyfriend found out that I had a fake male account to talk to her to see what she said about my boyfriend. I know I sound crazy, but I was so lost in anxiety and fear, and I didn’t know what to do. For this thing, we broke up and came back together, but I am still very suspicious, because his ex has started again posting Instagram descriptions about me.
I have become obsessive when I see my boyfriend online in Whatsapp, because I feel like he is talking to her, or whenever I see his mum Whatsapp online too (because when his ex told him about the fake account, he called her via Whatsapp from his mother’s phone).
He says I am destroying this relationship and that without trust, there is no love and no us. What should I do? Believe him or not?