Tag: boyfriend

“I’m trying my best to be a good boyfriend, but I’m failing miserably”

1 Comment

My girlfriend and I got into a dumb argument that I started a few days ago. It wasn’t a big argument, but it ended with me apologizing and telling her I love her, but she only responded with “okay.” Then, everything went downhill. I barely hear from her at all anymore, but when I do, it’s her telling me to leave her alone.

The next day, I took some ChickFilA to her work (I always do this), and she had a bad attitude toward me. I asked her if she’s mad, and she just tells me that she is really busy. I talked to her mom, and she said she’s been having female problems and to just show support. I try to show support, but I just keep getting “leave me alone.”

After several phone calls to my girlfriend, I finally got an answer. Continue reading →

“I’m thinking of cheating on my boyfriend”

2 Comments

I’d like some advice on how not to cheat on my boyfriend. So, to start off, I do love my boyfriend very much, and we haven’t had sex yet, we’ve just done minor things. But, there’s this other guy, I’ll call him X.

X has been in my life for the past year-and-a-half of so, and I go to him for advice all the time. I have even told him some of my personal problems. I’ve always known that he just wants to have sex with me, and that he wants nothing serious. I’ve told him repeatedly that I have a boyfriend, and that I’m not the type to cheat, but, he keeps trying to convince me by saying no one will find out, etc.

And I wish I weren’t, but for a few minutes, I was tempted, and I even gave the idea some thought. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend freaks out and cries all the time”

2 Comments

I was planning on letting my relationship with my boyfriend (who has anxiety) fizzle out when he goes to uni to avoid as much upset as possible. However, he’s started to mention taking a gap year, which I think is to stay with me, but, I would still break up with him. I don’t feel like relationships are suited for me at this point in my life. I feel way too claustrophobic.

I find it really difficult talking to him about these things because he breaks into tears a lot, and freaks out, whereas, I feel I’m too relaxed, and it makes me feel like a horrible person. Continue reading →

“I caught my boyfriend texting other women”

2 Comments

I’ve been with my boyfriend for seven years now and we’ve been through a lot, but we seemed to get on with it anyway. Over the years I’ve caught him texting other women, including his ex, telling her through text that he’s single. We’ve been together about a year at this point.

Recently I (wrongfully) checked his messenger, and he was telling another girl how beautiful she was. I confronted him and he said he was sorry and messed up big time.

Just tonight we were cleaning, and the charger from his old phone was sitting out and I threw it it a bin bag, and when he went to bed, it was sitting on the sofa (which means he had to dig to find it). I asked him about it, and he said he must have took it out without thinking. What? Continue reading →

“I’m starting to have feelings for another guy”

2 Comments

So, my boyfriend and I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and he is working two jobs, which is nice, because he is supporting us. He is constantly home late, around 11pm, and I’m sleeping, since I have my own job in the am. I know he is not cheating because we share a car and often times I have to pick him up, however he is never home.

In the meantime, I have been hanging out with a friend who is a guy, and there seems to be some feelings there. My friend has admitted he likes me and there has been some cuddling. It really messed with my head and I not sure what to do. I’m not sure I even like my friend, or he is filling the void. I’m still young – I’m 20.

ADVICE?

“My boyfriend won’t marry me unless I lose weight”

7 Comments

My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time now. When we began dating, I weighed close to 210 pounds, then dropped to 140, and am now back up to 168.

Recently, he let me know that he doesn’t want to get married until I am in better shape. Obviously, this crushed me, but, he said marriage is forever, and he does not want to have the urge to cheat on me with women who are in better shape.

In the mean time, he assures me he is committed to me, and is very much in love.

Continue reading →

“My boyfriend’s ex committed suicide”

1 Comment

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and I’m absolutely crazy about him. He and I met while we were both in Nashville for music, got coffee and lunch together a couple of times, and just grew really, really close in a short amount of time. He opened up to me, in detail, about his past drug addiction, his exes, etc.

He lives five hours away from me, now. He’s the type to remain friends with everyone, unless they push him out of their lives. Which is great, except for the fact that he still hangs out with two of his exes. Not exclusively, and he’s told me before that he doesn’t have feelings for either of them, and he would never get back together with either girl.

But it still bothers me a little bit. I don’t know. Maybe I’m being jealous? I don’t want to be “that” girlfriend, and I trust him wholeheartedly. I just know what his last ex did to him, and I hate that she expects him to just go on being friends like nothing happened and that he’s willing to do that, for the most part, because he still does want to be friends (since they’re in two bands together).

The biggest issue I have is this:

Continue reading →

“I think my boyfriend wants me to be done with him”

2 Comments

My boyfriend and I have been together for four-and-a-half years. Three-and-a-half of those years have been during college, and the last portion we’ve been long distance. I had been living at home while he was still at school finishing up his degree. This past May he moved back home after finishing school. That’s when I noticed things change.

He was going out with friends more, drinking more, no job, no money, turns out he didn’t have a high enough GPA to graduate. He was texting me less, we were barely sexting anymore or talking about our feelings, but when I had a chance to get him on the phone things seemed normal. When I visited him things were normal. He recently asked for space to figure himself out. He said he still loved me but didn’t know if he still wanted to be in the relationship. He said he didn’t want to see other people, but he wanted time to figure himself out.

Continue reading →

“I cheated on my boyfriend”

3 Comments

I cheated on my boyfriend who I’ve been with for five years with one of his friends.
His friend told me months ago he wishes he met me first and how much he liked me. I have slowly been developing feelings for him too, and we ended up having sex. We both instantly felt like garbage afterwards, and we both agreed not to say anything to anyone.

Me and the boyfriend have been doing ok – we live together and I feel we’ve gotten too comfortable with each other. I don’t feel attracted to him as much as I did. I do a lot around the house and pay most of the bills – I sometimes feel like I “take care” of him a lot (he is a couple years younger).

Continue reading →

“I have no good reason to leave my boyfriend, but …”

1 Comment

I’m in a stable three year relationship, but I’ve started having feelings for another man.
I feel really conflicted and confused, as my current relationship is stable, there aren’t any problems, we have lots in common, and I never thought that my feelings would change so dramatically.

I met this other guy at several events I do through work, and we have really hit it off and I feel this really strong chemistry with him, which is something I rarely encounter when I meet someone.

We’ve been emailing each other a bit about a project and have just been chatting. I feel so confused though. I have no good reason really to not want to be with my current bf, and yet I’ve met someone who I feel I have really connected with.

Continue reading →