I’m in a stable three year relationship, but I’ve started having feelings for another man.
I feel really conflicted and confused, as my current relationship is stable, there aren’t any problems, we have lots in common, and I never thought that my feelings would change so dramatically.
I met this other guy at several events I do through work, and we have really hit it off and I feel this really strong chemistry with him, which is something I rarely encounter when I meet someone.
We’ve been emailing each other a bit about a project and have just been chatting. I feel so confused though. I have no good reason really to not want to be with my current bf, and yet I’ve met someone who I feel I have really connected with.
I’ve been trying to think of reasons why I might be less interested in my current relationship and all I can come up with is that on an intellectual level I don’t feel particularly challenged by my current bf. He’s very comfortable and rarely discusses anything with depth unless I bring it up. That is the only thing I can think of really.
So I have this dilemma where I can either stay in my current relationship or explore something with this other guy. To be honest, this whole thing is making me feel like a terrible person. I hate that I feel this way, but I can’t control my feelings. The thought of hurting my current bf by breaking up with him because of no particular reason seems really cruel, but I can’t get this other guy out of my head, it’s driving me crazy.